jarvisj

Best wishes to you. I found this was one of the hardest part of the journey. I am very private. I was scared to tell anyone because I was nervous I would fail and everyone would know. I didn't want to be the talk of the town either. People love stuff like this and it can be a big fuel booster for gossip. It does get better though. After you start finding your way around your new and amazing new life...you tend to not care as much. You are just so darn happy. I now tell anyone who wants to know. I don't spill my guts to anyone who is willing to listen, but I am honest and I much rather tell them myself that hear from others. It wasn't always easy though. You need to do what works best for you. You will get mixed views and some may be really painful and some will surprise you. I do tell people upfront what I do want out of it and what would be hurtful to me so they know how I feel. I tell them I don't want to be known or examined as the girl with lap band. I'm still the same person. Best wishes to you.

<p>I'm having my surgery on Dec. 6th! I''m so excited but, I do not want to tell anyone that I cannot trust to be supportive of me. I don't want to tell my MIL or my boss. I can't seem to figure out what to say to them. I don't want to lie but, I'm not ready for the back lashing either. My husband thinks we should tell my MIL since we will probably need her to help with the kids that day. I can't stop thinking about how I wished I could tell her something else without telling her. She didn't speak to her cousin for months after having gastric bypass. YIKES! She still feels very strongly about it. Any ideas on what I could say without lieing? I'm on the low side of having a bad BMI so I know she will not understand. But, my struggle has been on going for 10 years. Please help with any ideas. I'm freaking out over this!!!</p>

Thanks to those who replied. I still go back and forth. I need help and I realize I can't do this on my own anymore. I'm nervous about all the constant fills. I will be self pay and all the money scares me. The long term of the band and the expense it could possibley cost to maintain...it just scare me. I know two people who have had the surgery. The ended up not being able to afford to pay for the fills so they gave up. I guess I need some re-assurance.

I have a consult with Dr. Felts. I know very little about him or his practice. I've tried researching him and just found a few post. Can anyone tell me anything about him or his practice? Any advice? I'm on the low BMI 32. I'm nervous they will not be able to help me. Any advice?