My husband had the surgery about 2yrs ago. Throughout the process I had a ton of concerns, and was admittedly surgery. I loved him the way he was and felt he could do it be himself. Of course I supported him once he went thru with the surgery 100%. 2.5 yrs later he is down 130 lbs and feeling great. Food is still a challenge for him some days. Because of his success ( and he had complication...infections), I an going thru the process myself for the surgery. I am looking forward to the surgery to use it as a tool to improve many health concerns. Take it from me, when your family sees how you do and how much happier you are, they WILL support your decision.