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Overkill for cheap meds. GP word should be enough.

@@reallyrosy Here's the best article I've found on the TMS subject: http://www.apa.org/monitor/2015/02/magnets.aspx It sounds like it may help but no one knows how it works and it may be expensive if insurance doesn't cover. It's approved for resistant depression after all other avenues have been exhausted, including medication. Not a willy nilly procedure if you ask me and may require maintenance sessions which means more $$.

@@bewell Liquid pre-op style diet for 5 days to shrink sleeve capacity to newly post-op limitations.

Nice! I want boobs. Kinda stuck but I'm hoping the new semester will provide some more loss. I only want to lose another 15#. My body looks like I had a kid which isn't too bad except I don't have a child to excuse myself. My regrowth is probably 2 in but curly so I recently cut it short to keep it bouncy. I still feel like some areas have yet to grow back. Probably need to talk to a dermatologist to figure out a solution. This year is definitely ask about defining my shape. Good luck to you this year!

Yes. Any psychoanalyst. Positive psychologist meaning they follow the Humanist model of positive psychology. It's a fairly new model but gaining momentum.

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Many salutes to you sir. You've come a long way in life. I hope the next 15 years treats you very well.

Sounds like your husband needs a talking to. Especially since you've been diagnosed with BED. You have a medical condition that requires certain lifestyle restrictions and he should be compassionate towards you and your daughter. No junk food in the house and no ordering pizza without healthy options (like maybe veggie lovers or supreme with light cheese on thin crust and side salads). Sounds like you and your daughter make up the majority since you're both trying to live healthier, and majority rules baby! Curious: what did they prescribe you for BED, if you don't mind me asking? I'm sure I had it before surgery and struggle still, but back then it wasn't a diagnosis to be had.

First, look for a psychologist instead of a psychiatrist. Second, ask them what theory of psychology they adhere to. You want someone who is a Humanist that believes in client-centered therapy and has an interest in positive psychology. Or just look up a positive psychologist.

Avoiding the scale today because TOM.

I've been considering doing the 5 day sleeve test to get some restriction back. My capacity isn't too bad but I'm noticing my emptiness more often. I still have about 13# left that I want to lose but I'm not worried about doing it quickly. @@mduffield is tots right about slow and steady. Got new orders to shoot for 50g protein/day and more fruits and veggies eaten first every meal. I'm also a fast foodist from being in college and I don't always make the right decisions but my good decisions outweigh my bad ones and I don't sacrifice my intake goals because of them. Just keep taking it one meal at a time and you'll get there if you work at it enough.

Whoa! You've been having it rough chica, but you've still come so far and you should always remember that. Did you take progress pics or keep a record of your stats? Maybe you should carry them around with you to remind yourself, and whatever a-hole who is still fat-shaming you, that you are amazing and have conquered much this year. Even if you aren't at goal yet, even if you stall, even if you get temporarily distracted, you will get there and you always have us as your cheerleaders. I hate shaming of any kind and will defend the honor of anyone regardless of how strong or resilient I think they are because shame can make mince meat of us all if we're not careful. Do not stand for it even if you have to be a little harsh because they might not realize what they are doing and the harm they cause based in the darkness of their own insecurities.

I actually just got home to Vegas today from New Orleans. I hope you had a good time!

Just got back from vacation so no weigh in today. Next week for sure.

Well put. Water is usually deeper than it appears. I'm also in therapy and I study Psychology. And I have a Ph.D. in psychology. No s**t. And, naturally, I'm in therapy, too. Again, no s**t. My point was it's easy to project our own issues / experiences onto others who complain of issues that sound like our own -- but that (given the very little information we have to go on here) may be very different from our own and very different from the relationships in our own lives. Isn't that why we share each other's life experiences? To find that common ground so that we can better navigate our lives through vicarious learning? As for your degree brags, good for you but it doesn't explain much. I thought this was a safe place, but you've shown me otherwise so I'm outta here. Good luck with your dilemma OP. I hope you can figure things out amicably with your wife.

Well put. Water is usually deeper than it appears. I'm also in therapy and I study Psychology.

OK, replace "blame" with "failure of responsibility", and "character flaw " with "incompatible personality traits" if that'll make you more comfortable deary, jeez. You're missing the big picture by being caught up on a few words. My point is that I doubt this man is making a decision about his marriage purely on looks. It's a surface issue to a likely more delicate situation.

But is it really just about her weight? I feel like I'm in a similar situation though not married, thank goodness. Been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years. He's seen me up and down (I've known him for over 10y) but for most of this relationship I was from 200-250. Now I'm near 150 almost a year after surgery and feeling great. He's been struggling with his weight for a while too but to a much lesser degree imo. I was 100# overweight; worst he's been is 50# overweight. I was also dealing with BED before surgery and a stunted metabolism from narcolepsy. He's healthy. Instead of eating healthier and exercising more with me over the past year, he's seen how I lost weight from surgery and has been trying to gain as much weight as possible to qualify for surgery himself the past few months. He wants insurance to pay for it whereas I self-paid in Mexico. His extra 40#s didn't bother me before he decided to plump himself up, but now I can't stand the sight of him and I find his intentions to get surgery deplorable because it was a struggle for me from day one of trying to decide to resort to WLS. Even at his level of 70lbs overweight, I was still trying to lose weight the natural way. I'm so close to breaking up with him because I think he is a con man, has no ambition, and his personality lately has made him very unattractive to me. Also we haven't had sex in a long time which was an issue before surgery and something that I blamed on my weight but is still an issue so I don't blame myself anymore. I blame him. So is it really about her weight or is it a deeper issue of character? You need to decide that because if it's a character flaw, nothing will change from her losing weight.

Telling anyone or not is ultimately your decision, but... You are missing out on a few things by not talking about it: The support from friends and family who truly love and care about you, which you'll find to be very helpful during the rough Patches. The weeding out of unsupportive "friends" who ultimately don't want or care about your health and happiness. The bonds you would make from fellow WLS patients. I discovered I had 2 friends who were also patients both new and old when I came out on FB. I had at least 4 obese friends confide in me about considering the surgery themselves (1 of which is about to get her sleeve date). The lack of misunderstanding once people notice rapid changes in your body. If they don't know, they may look at the lighter you with thinning hair 3 mo after surgery and think "cancer?". The elation of sharing your progress and pictures to loved ones. Ultimately, it is your choice to share but by doing so you may be cheating yourself, and your obese friends and colleagues, out of some great chances for positive change, emotional support, and a sense of belonging and accomplishment. Being a WLS patient will change you so you may feel differently about sharing after surgery. Either way, undergoing this change means that it will become a new part of your identity. I suggest embracing this new version of you openly to avoid any obstacles to your own happiness. Confide in your obese friends and stress to them your want for discretion and that you prefer to tell your own story when you feel comfortable enough to do so. And remind them from time to time. I still have to remind my boyfriend to not say anything because even though I'm out with my friends and family, it is still my business to release that info to people and no one else's. I know that there is a social stigma behind getting surgery and those who are less informed may be less accepting of my decision and may make judgements upon me for it that I'd rather not contend with. Once I know them better and a connection has been established, I'm less worried about that happening. Even still I wait for them to compliment me about losing weight before saying anything. Surgery isn't for everyone. I still have friends who need to lose more than I did at my starting point believe they can lose the weight without medical intervention. I'm fully supportive of their efforts.

Yesterday was 154.2 Lots of fluctuation this week from stress and dehydration.

I take Nuvigil. One pill lasts me all day and I only take half my dosage during weekdays. I also take Xyrem for my Cataplexy and to get some deep sleep. Between the 2 my sleepiness is mostly subsided but I do feel worn out usually. Nuvigil is about as clean of a stimulant you can take and has the least likelihood of addiction. The problems you are describing sound foreboding. I think you should talk to a sleep doctor because a general doctor usually misdiagnoses narcolepsy for something else. I've had my thyroid checked, iron, blood sugar, then when he saw no abnormalities he said I had hypertension. I lost faith right then because I went in complaining of daily fatigue bad enough to cause me to nod off while standing up or walking. Tension did not equal fatigue in my mind. I also forgot to tell him about falling down when I laughed but I don't think he would have caught it. I will only see specialists now because I don't feel GPs cut it. It is possible to have narcolepsy without cataplexy so go see someone.

Yup, I'm a narco-cat and suffered from obesity, as is common among people with narcolepsy (PWN). I opted for WLS because I couldn't take it anymore. I was fat, depressed, and bordering other co-morbidities so I just had to get this taken care of. HW 247 SW 230 CW 156 Anesthesia was scary. After I got out of surgery I had a hard time staying conscience

Yeah I dunno. I spent years trying to find ways to cope. Though I'd never choose to consume stimulants while I was trying to sleep. That's just bad sleep hygiene. Hard to say he's not perpetuating his own issues to an extent. I tried natural remedies for a year, cut caffeine, took melatonin, etc. I don't smoke, but now I occasionally vape cannabis. I used to drink massive amounts of caffeine, took actual Sudafed, benadryl at night to knock me out. It wasn't a great feeling being like that. Then I was looking for stronger solutions. Phentermine, trazadone, and prozac. I was seriously considering resorting to street drugs before diagnosis because I had nowhere else to turn. I'm so thankful for my insurance. I also went without for so long (hence considering street drugs) that it's tough thinking I need a doctor in my corner but I do. My meds cost more every month than a year's salary flipping burgers. Insurance takes care of it and keeps me sane. Narcolepsy gets really bad around mid 20s and then slowly deteriorates from there without meds. I wouldn't be able to function at all without mine.

Awesome story! I'm also a Vegas native who got surgery in Tijuana last Jan. I'm almost at the 100# mark and do not miss my previous relationship with food. Congrats to you and your son!

I have found that if they have an opinion about your weight loss that is not positive, then their initial motivation to becoming your friend was also not positive. They probably see you as competition now, whereas before you were a comfort zone. IDK. I haven't encountered negativity yet, mostly "I wish I could..." which mildly shows envy but they are also happy for me.