justmel1957

Wow! I'm so sorry you've had to go through this. My prayers are with you. You're right...........like any other surgery the LB can hold great risk and I think we forget this sometimes. Thanks for sharing.........

We can all find reasons why we don't have the time for anything we don't really want to do. But, I bet if it was something fun and exciting, we'd all find the time! LOL Saying we don't have time is a cop out! Hey, I include myself in here too..........aside from working 10 hrs a day, and taking care of the family, my mother has ovarian cancer and im over there constantly as her care giver. And I do cop out on the exercise from time to time, but I CAN get it in during my lunch hour. I just keep my walking shoes in my desk drawer and go for a 30 min walk..........it clears my head, rejuvenates me, gives me some alone time, and burns those calories. I also ride my bike over to moms across town when weather permits....... Don't use the "I just don't have the time" excuse. You'll find the time if you really want to. Good luck to you! We're all on your side here!

Interesting thread. I have had a similar problem with MID-back pain since November. (not lower). I've had xrays, scans, etc. Went to the chiropractor and got the feel good treatments that helped for a few hours. Finally got referred to a good Physical therapist. He asked me if I had recently lost a lot of weight. I told him I had lost about 70 lbs since last May. He said that makes sense then. He said when you are over weight your ligments, etc are stretched to accommodate the heaviness. With a big weight loss those ligaments are now trying to deal with the "unstretching" and are confused so to speak. He gave me back exercises for strengthening and I can now feel a vast improvement. So, I guess what Im saying is, your body can respond in various ways with such a big weight loss.

Yes, that is a large list. I took very little. I wore the same loose clothes in and out. I was an overnight stay and used their toothbrushes and paste. I did throw in an I-pod and was glad I had it to drown out the crazy lady who shared my room and yelled out all night. A comb and my cell phone were about it. Shampoo? I doubt you're gonna feel like bending over the sink to wash ur hair. Most docs wont let you shower for at least a couple of days. Taking your own pillow might be a good idea if you think you will rest better with it. I always follow the rule when packing for anything of: "pack what you think you will need, then remove half of it"

My doctor required the liver shrinking diet for 30 days pre-op.

Wow! I admire your feelings of wanting to do this before you begin your new life together, and I did very well with my surgery and recovery and was back at work 5 days later, but I just can't imagine doing something as "big" as a wedding so soon. Especially if you are going all out with the event.........( big wedding, reception, etc). I do think you can "get thru it fine" but I doubt you would really ENJOY the day. Not to mention the festivities afterwards. Let us know what you decide, and we'll root you on!

you might on occasion have trouble with the "white stuff" but mandarin oranges should suffice at those times.

At this point I rarely count calories, or such. I eat my protein first, then fruits/veggies. Im just trying to stay aware of what I eat and avoid those things that "call out my name" such as sweets,etc...., I just eat healthy and normal. I do carbs. I just try to be sensible about them. I have had a consistant steady loss and am about 10lbs from goal.

I wish I could send you a link, but I'm at work, and they have that site blocked. The one I like is the Very Sexy Push up. It will describe it with "pillows or padding or something like that. The padding is in the bottom of the cup. If you can't find it, let me know I will send the link to you this evening

You'll get there............ Take the best of what you've heard here on this post and ignore the rest. You know what works (and doesn't) for you.

I'm so sorry you've found yourself dealing with this. And I think this is something that will not be easy to change-or even impossible to change, so I would guess you would have to be the one to change how you let if effect you. You can't change someone else, but you can change how you deal with it, or let it mess with your head. Easier said than done, I know, but just try different reactions when he replies to things you've said. Maybe say nothing at all, or "you're right" etc.....see what kind of reaction you get and go from there. I agree nicetydy above............I bet he's insecure and reacting with a knee jerk comment. You're changing, and he's afraid that will come inbetween you. Men are strange creatures. Hang in there.........get counseling if you need it and continue on your journey. It's YOUR journey and your life.

I went from a 44DD to a 36DD. I find a great bra is crutial! Spend the money. My favorite is the Victoria's Secret, "very sexy bra". it has little pillows in the bottom of the cup that lift my "sagginess" right up! LOL. I would love to have PS, but not sure its in my budget any time soon, so I spent the $$ on some good bras. They run about $60-80 each, but if you catch them on end of season sales, you can get them for $15 or so. Also, you can find them on ebay. I've got another one coming my way now.

They are the measured amount.

no, its just a simple measurement as you would measure anything.

A physician would always be your first call or visit. They can investigate medical causes, and then if nothing is medically wrong, refer him for counseling, etc. Changes within a persons body can play games with you mentally. Encourage him to seek help

what does "lost his nature" mean? Has he lost his sex drive??, is he having erectile dysfunction? ?not sure how to respond to this. Can u be more specific?

I do snacks most every day. But not until I started the normal food stage. Most of the time I'll have a few nuts, a low fat cheese stick, 100 calorie pack, or a roll of deli meat.

It's a common thing for some to have dysuria. Anesthesia slows down ALL body functions and it takes a bit for some organs to "wake up". Once you start, you should be fine, but if you aren't going nomally soon, call your doc.

I've never heard of that either, so it will be interesting to see if you get replies in which this has happened. I have a 4cc band with 3.8cc fill

I used to sleep primarily on my stomach, but now pretty much sleep on my side. It's not that it hurts to sleep on my stomach now, but just got used to being on my side post op, and now just pretty much do that.

I have no rerstrictions before a fill, but do liquids for 48 hrs after my fill

You can do this..............just get back to your doctor (or another one of your choosing) and talk to the dietician and other professionals who can help you get back on track. It was not very professional of your doc to yell at you, but you can't let it get to you. This is YOUR life and YOUR journey. YOU are in charge. And YOU can start over fresh. Good luck my friend. Keep us posted.

I had my first fill at 4 weeks too.