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ShineyHappyMommy I am very close to my sisters. They have not seen me since surgery and I can't wait to show them the new and improved me. Someone mentioned to just not talk about it and that its like rubbing salt in a wound. What is that about? For most people who have this surgery it is (or is fast becoming a matter of life or death) how could someone who loves you be anything but happy for you? I have learned that when it comes to my health I can't afford to be a people pleaser nor will I deny my right to feel good about myself for the first time in a long time. I prayed daily before I had this surgery and within that prayer I asked God for wisdom and strength; I believe he has supplied both. In the past I would have allowed negative jealous people to "rain on my parade"..but not now. Family, friends, co-workers, significant and insignificant others who cannot be happy for me and keep their negative opinions and jealousy to themselves will not be allowed to dampen my joy over my weight loss success. If your weightloss is hurting your sister it is not your fault and I would suggest that she deals with her jealousy issues and be happy for you. Does she not realize that this is not about her? It's about you and your health. Anyone who feels "hurt" by someone losing weight, getting healthy and feeling good about themselves is selfish. Instead of worrying about how much smaller you will be than her, your sister needs to figure out why she can't be happy for you. Envy and jealousy is unattractive in any size. Be happy and Celebrate every OUNCE that you lose!!! Don't let anyone take that from you.

Amazing!!! Before my surgery (21 Jan 08) I was required to go through not only a psych eval but counseling. In 7 days my incisions were still healing and I was resting and taking walks. When I read the post about how disappointed people are and wanting to have the band removed I cant help but wonder what their expectations were. Did they not think about or believe "head hunger", did they think they would magically lose weight without any effort? Now I understand the need for the psych evals and I'm sure the intensive counseling I was required to get prior to surgery only helped me have realistic expectations. JoJo I totally agree with you I am going to fight to get and stay healthy. I am 43 and there are so many things in life I want to experience and enjoy..not just eating. Maybe the older you get the more you appreciate life. Being overweight and unhealthy is not how I choose to live.

Awesome post!!!