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I have never experienced the illnesses that you speak of. I just really wanted to reaffirm that you are worth it! I know you can do it because you already lost 75lbs. I am guessing you did that mostly by sticking to the plan. It won't happen for you if you don't realize that you are worth it and get back on track. I think you likely already know that. As far as stretching your tummy, not so. If you were to start tomorrow as if it were the day after surgery and get all the toxins out of your body by following the liquid diet for a few days, you would once again feel your original restriction. You simply have to do it. I really hope you get the proper therapy that keeps you from throwing the baby out with the bath Water. We all have bad days where we go off plan. I don't think there is a person on this site that hasn't or won't. The important thing is you get back on track as soon as you recognize a slip and don't assume that you are broken and cannot be fixed because you can. It is however up to you to want to make that change. You are worth it! You just have to see that you are worth it and work on those issues that Mama put into your head. I came from a family of "clean your plate" or else and my family is Italian so what was on the plate wasn't always the best options. So I either cleaned my plate or slept at the dinner table and had my dinner for Breakfast. I no longer ever clean my plate. It is my way of simply knowing I don't have to. Please take care of you. Make an appointment with your therapist and your dietician ASAP. And try going back to the diet you had to follow right out of surgery for a few days, it will help you.

I did a lot of studying on this topic because my hair loss was so significant. What I learned is there is no stopping it if in fact you are one of the folks that lose it during massive weight loss, following a major surgery or going through menopause. That was my situation. No amount of extra Protein is going to stop it from coming out however if you don't get your allotted protein it can make you lose your hair even if you were not one of the folks that normally would. Also Biotin, hair,nails,skin helps a lot with regrowth but it will not stop you from losing it to begin with. A lot of folks assume if I take biotin, it won't fall out. I am here to tell you that is not true. The good news is, your hair will come back in, it should not leave bald spots (that is a sign of actual allopecia). The biotin will help with regrowth immediately. Mine started falling out almost immediately (within 8 weeks post op and did not stop until post op month 13) Now I am 23 months post op and my hair is thicker and more healthier than ever in my life. It just happens to be very very curly too. I know it is hard not to freak out when it is happening to you but the best thing you can do is cut it short and cute. You will notice more than anyone else. Once my doctors told me it would stop once the massive weight loss stopped, I no longer wanted it to stop fearing my honeymoon period was over. Well, mine stopped at 13 months, I continued to lose weight until 18 months post op when I reached my optimal weight goal. It is just part of the process for some of us and going through menopause at the same time,or having hypothyroidism can make it worse which was my case. Never did I have bald spots but you could see my scalp of which is not longer the case. Best of luck and try not to worry.

@@Babbs Amen sister!

@@gina171 100% normal! I remember feeling like I was in a fog that whole week before. Some of that came from the liquid diet, the other was pure disbelief that I had finally got to my goal of having surgery. Although I was slightly nervous the night before it felt like Christmas for me. I felt so exited that morning I could hardly contain myself. Now 2 years later, I am going through plastics and it feels like Christmas all over again.

@@KristenLe Thank you! I am headed to Minnesota to see her tomorrow and it has been too long! I used to see her a few times a week and I have not seen her since before summer.

Personally I would absolutely NOT wait until Monday. I would go now and tell them you are not leaving until they figure how what the hell is going on. This is not healthy nor normal. I might even suggest finding a different Bariatric surgeon that can and will look for what is wrong.

@@Lema I don't think I am ready to do that you. Honestly someone wanted me to have my curly hair back and although it is a pain, I am trying to work with it to figure out how to style so it looks nice. I am taking lessons from my gorgeous granddaughter. She is 12 and quite the diva. She told me to buy mixed chick and after a shower to put it in and leave it. It allows the curls to remain curly and cuts the frizz. This is my granddaughter. She is gorgeous blue eyes and very curly hair. Much of the time she straightens it but lately she has gone back to leaving it curly.

See, like I said.........more drama. LOL

@@mistyschn7 If I were in that situation I would go back to the basics.

Based on her surgery date she is 1 year 8 months post op and it is likely she has slipped in to maintenance mode. The only way to deal with that if you are not ready to stop losing is to reduce your caloric intake. For me to lose I have to stay around 900 to 1000 calories, under 100 grams of good carbs and 70 grams of Protein. You need to figure out where your losing range is because you are in maintenance.

@@pdallariva I would go back to the hospital and demand answers. If you had your surgery in June and still cannot eat or drink anything now, something is severely wrong and needs to be addressed. This is definately a complication and they may need to put you on TPN. I am sorry this is happening to you but go now,.....you can die from dehydration.

It is very very scary and happening more and more frequently. This is my personal opinion and I know it might start dramatics but here goes. My insurance company required me to go through a Bariatric center of excellence. I had to go on line and take an online class then I had to go and take an in person class where they gave me all the info in considering this surgery. At that time, they gave me a huge packet that I needed to fill out and in it was a test that I had to take and about 15 pages of information I needed to fill out. That included why I thought this surgery would work for me. After I sent that back in, then and only then did I get my first appt with a Bariatric nurse, nutritionist, personal trainer and a physcologist. My program lasted 6 months but took 9 to get through. I was given a binder with everything bit of information I could possibly need including every phase of the diet so I could refer back to it. It also kept a physical tracker and information about the different WLS surgeries. Once I jumped through every hoop and was approved for surgery, then I met the surgeon. Prior to that I worked with Bariatric Doctors that were a part of the team and helped me select my surgery. The day I met the surgeon I was asked to sign a contract that made me committ to no alcohol for at least a year, that I would not get pregnant for at least 2 years and that I would follow the diet. Without the signed contract, no surgery would be performed. I also had to take another test which consisted of everything I learned along the way. It was not a book test and they did not tell me about it ahead of time. I am sorry, and I am not saying this is perfect but it certainly forced me to know my stuff. If I were insurance company I would absolutely require this level of education before letting a person through the process. Now I get that it does not cover self pay but if I am a Bariatric surgeon here in the states it should be a requirement which in turn would help them have more successful outcomes. This is just my two cents. I think it helped me be successful from day 1 and for the most part I knew what to expect. I learned everything else from asking questions researching and leveraging the heck out of the veterans on this site.

@@CLN.BK About 2/3 of my hair fell out during the rapid weight loss period. I had slightly wavy hair before, it could be straightened easily. Now, my hair is so curly, even my stylist is shocked at how it grew back. My granddaughter has hair like this and my family often wondered where it came from. I had super Curley hair as a baby and toddler but my mom used some chemical to straighten it when I was 3. All my hair fell out and when it grew back in my curls were gone. Now, don't get me wrong, I am thrilled to have a very thick head of hair again. That being said it is a pain in my ass to take care of. I have to use a ton of product in it just to keep it from getting frizzy, I cannot wash it all the time or it becomes dry and frizzy, and I cannot just get up in the morning, brush my hair and get going. I have to plan a good 30 minutes to wet it and put some product on it that will make the curls be calm. I have been growing it out because the length then pulls and calms the curls a bit but my hair went from straight to very curly, kinky. Straightening it takes forever and I have an expensive flat Iron that works great. I also would like to add that I got all of my Protein, Vitamins and Water from the very early stages. I took Biotin daily. Both my surgeon and dermotologist told me some people are more prone to lose their hair no matter what they do during massive weight loss. Some are just luckier. Signed.... Happy I have lots of hair, but learning how to deal with it at 53!

Ok, now I have to find the post that set this off. LOL. More drama today I guess.

Saw this one on Facebook today.

@@CLN.BK I am glad to hear it, they can really help. Best of luck on your search!

Most Bariatric programs have therapists that specialize in Bariatric patients. I would ask your surgeon or PCP to recommend someone for you. Feeling guilty is natural but your ability to get past it so you can move forward is important. The only thing I feel guilty about is all the missed opportunities with my children and grandchildren. My family is very inclusive and if I couldn't do something they didn't either and that just wasn't right. So, I did something about it and now for the most part I can join in just about any activity or at least walk far enough to keep up. They are very proud of me and I hear it from them and feel it often.

@ I here ya on the fight the hunger thing. For me it is definately head hunger. I have been through 4 surgeries in the last 12 months my most recent 4 weeks ago. I had an arm lift and I swear, my body keeps begging for more food. This is the first time that it has frustrated me so..... At least I work hard to give it a bit more Protein or fruits and veggies.....I hope I get healed up soon so my hunger stops. I am tempted to try going on a day or two long liquid Protein run just to see if it detoxes me a bit.

Congratulations to you both!

I don't think drinking 177 grams of Protein is normal so that could be causing the start of constipation which might give you the low back pain issue. Is there a reason you are eating/drinking that much protein? Your kidneys have to work much harder to process protein and that would definately make sense. I would suggest just getting to your goal whatever was given to you by your nutritionist and see if it gets better. It is good that you are able to drink that much Water and protein 2 weeks out. I was lucky if I could get one shake down in a day with the water. And the water is even more important in these first few weeks than the protein.

I would be it is waaaaay too soon for oranges. How far out from surgery are you? I think I was post op 4 months before I could tolerate raw fruit of any kind. Before that I could do applesauce and also canned no added sugar fruits like pears and peaches. Even now I have to peel my apples, pears, peaches that are fresh,

Congratulations!

If you literally cannot keep Water down you need to go in ASAP. And I would demand answers. I also don't know if soda is the best thing for you to drink. That in itself that early on would have made me barf. It was on my never again list. I am certain the dizziness is from dehydration. I would take the zofran and go back to slow sipping water. If you don't feel better tonight, go to the ER and have them call your surgeon.