Their intentions are not to harm you in any way,it's family any at the end you still have to love them.but if you have made this decision to have your surgery stick to it always have in mind why? (Your health) you are doing it and not to please anyone else.im telling you this cause I decided on the week before to cancel because my daughter "didn't believe this was the proper way of losing the weight"I'm not angry at her just disappointed that I didn't have the courage to go thru this without her blessing.wishing you the best????