WLS Husband

Thank you for the reply. I am doing my best to be supportive of my wifes needs while she goes through this. You are correct, most of the questions will depend on our relationship but I was hoping someone else in my position that had gone through this could help with the answers. I may do the blog just to get something out there for us SO's that are unsure of the changes we are about to deal with. Right now I just dont find anything online.

Thank you for posting something from the spouse side. My wife has surgery in a few days and I am a bit stressed. There are very few blogs or comments from this side of the surgery except: divorce rate higher and frustrated spouses. I am thinking of setting up my own blog thread for a weekly update just to get some input from people that have been there. Questions I am having; Life without going out to eat: I am from an Italian family and my wife is Filipino; food is how you Celebrate everything. Sex: issues? How do the woman feel as they lose weight but have the excess skin? Are we going without sex for the next 6 months, year, longer? My weight: I'm not exceptionally overweight, 5'10" and 208. Is there a time that I will be viewed as fat? What do I eat? Do I eat in front of my wife? Can I bring home a candy bar, yes I am addicted to white sugar? Her Weight: If I wanted to spend my life with someone stick thin I would have married someone like that. My wife has put on weight over the 25 years we have been married but I like her curves and find her very sexy. When do you decide you have lost enough weight? Do I get an input here? Diabetes: Will this surgery help the diabetes? Will she end up doing more harm then good? Overall I am excited for my wife but feel that I had no input into this except to support her decision. This makes things tough. I know this is wrong but I can already hear the voice in my head saying, "this was your idea so quit complaining." Hell, I already feel bad thinking that but its there and I am hoping someone can help me with this. If I get to starting my own blog I will post the link.... STRESS!!!!! I don't want to share all of this with her because she has enough going on her head and doesn't need my issues adding to the stress she already has.