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A lot of people still don't say anything to me. And I've lost 125!!! It's like they don't want to be rude or something. Sometimes people will say "you look great" but they won't mention weight. People don't realize but we knew we were fat before, and it's okay to say we've lost weight! That's why we did it, at least partly!! Some people do just come out and say it and I love that. It was about 30 pounds when people began to notice.

Hahaha. I'm going to try it again tonight. I will prevail!!

My ex was extremely cruel to me about my weight. Since we broke up we have become good friends and even tried to patch things back together. I'm extremely thin now and he has gained weight. I think it makes him incredibly self conscious. My weight bothered him before because he felt it reflected poorly on him to have a fat spouse. Now the coin has flipped and me being thin makes him more sensitive towards how he looks. He needs to get it together and start losing weight because he is getting pretty big. And I can't say a thing or he would just crumble. It's a hard situation.

I've tried and tried again to eat sushi with no luck. barf it right back up, gets stuck so fast!! And it's my favorite food in the world. Booooo hoooooo

Whatever you do, stay away from narcotic pain medication. The back pain you feel is nothing compared to how sick those will make you and how much worse they will make your pain. As you lose weight, I think your back pain will get better. Try and move around a lot, don't stay sitting or in bed all day. Warm pads and hot baths and exercise. Also have you had an mri and other tests done on your back to see what's going on?! I had severe back pain before surgery and it 100 percent resolved once I lost weight.

I'm sure it's fine.

I can't tolerate any of them. They make me horribly nauseated. I take a flinstone Vitamin each day which is al I have found I can tolerate. I try and get my nutrition from my food. So far my vitamin levels are doing okay. The vitamin part of this is very hard.

I tried to eat a bacon egg and cheese biscuit the other day. I practice portion control and I figured half of it wouldn't hurt me. I took a bite and couldn't eat it. It was sooooo greasy and so salty- after all this time eating fairly clean, McDonald's has no appeal to me. I went back and ordered a smoothie instead and even that was grossly sugary. McDonald's really has yucky food. I won't be going there again. I prefer subway or Taco Bell as they have some healthier options.

Had pain and throwing up some blood. But it was worth is and it passes! The nurses were there for me. Not everyone has such a hard time

Babbs is very opinionated and one can tell she is a very smart lady! thanks everyone. It's a tough process and that's why I'm on this board and in therapy.

Ideas please I'm dating a lot right now and I'm still having issues with a slight stricture that makes it difficult to eat. I also have major problems when I try and eat/drink at the same time, and when I go out I want to have wine. Problem is they want to order dinner. And I'd rather not eat of course. So I have to come up with some excuse as to why I don't and it's so awkward. Or I will try and eat and have to throw up mid way through the meal. It's really uncomfortable. I try and say I don't like dinner, or I just eat like a bird, etc and they always look at me like I'm crazy. In addition I HATE sweets now and they don't seem to get that either. Anyone have any ideas as to what I could say to get me out of having to eat on dates or what I could order than I could probably get down without wasting a bunch of food??

If I eat and drink at the same time I'll puke for sure. Maybe that is because of my stricture. Not sure. I like the idea of ordering food and then just not eating much of it but the potions are always sooooo big!!! There isn't anything small to order and appetizers are all junk so I don't want them thinking I eat junk all the time! It's kind of funny I guess. Maybe I should just tell the truth. That would be really funny to see their reaction! I be like, see this body? You like? Well, it's missing 2/3ds of a stomach!

Oh man. I get so nervous though and the wine helps me relax!! Plus there is no guarantee I won't get sick even if I don't fm drink and eat because of my stricture and stomach just hating food....

I try that and they always end up dragging me to dinner!!! We meet at the bar and they always want to go eat! Or if not, that works for the first date but then the second date they want to eat. So I have to deal with it sooner or later! I'm so tired of this. I think I'm just going to start saying I'm allergic to food. Haha

Do yourself a huge favor- go out and make more female friends asap!!!! Find new ones. The gym is a great place to do this. Find workout buddies! Take an art class, look for singles groups online for girlfriends. It's so so important. If your world revolves around men it's going to be rough going. I've also online dated a lot and still am. I love it. I let them take me out and wine and dine me and enjoy my company. If I'm not interested, then I don't go out with them again. I don't feel bad about that. I went through a highly sexual phase too and it was awesome. I didn't feel bad about it at all! I love sex (safe sex of course) and I love celebrating my new body. I never strung anyone along however. Trust me, guys can handle the truth. Just explain to them what your going through. It's okay to be real. I hope you have found your perfect guy. remember there are soooo many fish in the sea if he turns out to be a codfish. Now go out and make some female friends asap!!!!!!!

Went boating with my family. They have had their boat for years and I never went because I was too embarrassed to wear a swimsuit. I also took my kids to a Water park. Bucket list: Shop in normal stores. Check! Start swimming and running again. Hike with my kids. Check! Go on a singles cruise Start dating again. Check! Wear heels again. Check!

I relate to what your saying. Having been in a bad marriage which largely contributed to my weight gain, feeling depressed and the lowest ugliest most difficult time of my life- getting out of that and losing weight was like getting out of jail. The relationship I was in smothered the hell out of me and it felt so good to get free. When I started dating again I went a little crazy. I did eventually end up with a boyfriend- not hard to do looking like this. But I haven't been a very good girlfriend. I crave men's attention. It makes me feel so powerful,so wonderful. When I was overweight I felt invisible to men which was crushing. Especially because I'd only been overweight for five years and I was used to being much more attractive. So to have that back now feels awesome!!! I don't play with men's emotions but I do enjoy letting them take me on a date and getting their appreciation. I think their are lines you can't cross here. Enjoy the attention of men, that's fine- but keep it professional. You don't need to sleep with everyone you meet. Look for one you actually want to be with, or keep it casual with all of them. You can enjoy sexy and your body, but make it clear to them where your at if your not looking for a relationship. There is nothing shallow about enjoying your sexuality, your beauty, and your freedom. I am woman hear me roar!! But whatever you do, don't forget about or screw over your female friends. They are the ones we need the most in life!!! Don't chose men over them or let men become a bigger priority.

I take the mini pill and skip the brown pills- were you doing that? It prevents my period from coming. I'm wondering why yours came if your skipping the placebo week? Strange. I hope my pills don't stop working!!

At two years out, do you still think about your weight a lot? Are you at goal? Have you gained any back? I'm about to enter maintainence and it really freaks me out. Could you tell me a bit about what life is like for you now in terms of weight/food?

Sorry you are going through this. I've been losing my hair for about 4 months now. I've lost about half my hair. It's still falling out but it has slowed somewhat and it's starting to grow back. The tide does turn eventually!!

I'm sorry you and your wife are going through this. I will say I worked in the medical field and I've seen many, many people recover from cancer through the treatments they are offering today. Keep your hope high and know that medical science is an amazing thing. All my thoughts with you and your wife.

I'm in! I'm almost to goal weight and would love to there by then. Cw 122. Goal weight 119.

I'm so happy for you. I remember when I was trying to lose weight some stupid diet book said to put tape over the scale and the write the number you want to be on it. Ha! The power of visualization. How ridiculous. No need for you to do that anymore is there? The number on my scale still trips me out as well. It's hard to believe. I'm so happy for you and your success.

I weigh almost everyday. I hate seeing the number go up so I avoid weighing on days I think it might have because I ate more the day before. Weight fluctuations are normal. I've gone up a couple pounds before but ultimately the number keeps dropping.

woooooooooo hoooooo! You are amazing!! You go woman!!!