bellabloom

Thank god a surgery like this was available to me! I have had had many ups and with this surgery and still am having some, but I wouldn't change it for the world. It was the best decision I could have made for myself. I started at 250 pounds with a slipped disk in my back, terrible foot pain, exhausted all the time, very depressed. I am now 124 pounds with no pain whatsoever and I love being me. This surgery is exactly the tool I need to keep me on track and help me realize my goals. I am a 35 year old single mom of two little ones and so glad I got my life back.

Today my therapist told me I have the body of a 14 year old boy. Wasn't very nice of her.

Crazy! I wouldn't have seen that!! Cool!! Guess I do have nice broad shoulders.

For sure you are an hourglass!!!! Lucky!!

Today I tried to do better. I feel so full and the day is not even over! Wow I'm not used to eating like this. My NUT told me today that she saw me at the gym last week and was shocked that I have the body of a 14 year old boy. She feels I've gotten too thin to say the least. I don't agree but I know I'm close. She wants me to have a carb at every meal. So I tried this: 1. Breakfast Half a bagel (going to switch to whole grain tomorrow) Light cream cheese 2 slices turkey Tomatoes 2. lunch Lettuce Parmesan cheese 1/3 can of tuna 3. Snacks banana Beef jerky Yogurt 4. dinner 2 Meatballs salad (lettuce, kale, carrots) Dressing Avocado 1/4 cup wheat Pasta Feel like I'm going to explode!! It's a process. Going to take some getting used to!!

Loving this post. Keep it coming!!! I can see where I need to improve already!!

I've been in weekly therapy for over a year. . Maybe time for a new therapist? Or put more work in...

What type of body do I have?? You tell me! Before wls I looks like I was nine months pregnant with a very thick legs still somewhat narrow hips but a huge huge overhanging belly. Like a pregnant apple. Now what shape am I?

I feel bad for that girl that guy sounds like a total machismo controlling asshole

I have a real issue with this. I'm 5'6 and 122 pounds. I still feel food on,y when I lose and want to lose another 7 pounds to be at 115 even though everyone says stop. It's a mental battle from years if wanting to lose and not being able to. When will it be enough?? I don't know. I'm fixated on numbers and fear of gaining. Maybe at 115 I'll finally feel done.

I'm not sure. I think I'm a rectangle? Maybe an hourglass? I don't think my waist is that curvy but maybe that's because I have narrow hips. I have a little girls body now.

About 120 pounds.

I've gotten online dumped by three guys this week for not being Christian. Sigh.

I'm really not sure what I want right now. I want to focus on my life, job and kids. I want my free time full of fun and adventure, attention from men and people who make my life more interesting in a good way. I don't know that I want mr forever right now. I want to be free for awhile

Oh I can give some tips!! Don't just email "hi" or "how are you?" Say something specific about their profile or offer a compliment. Ask a question so it's easy for them to email back an answer. Have plenty of good photos of you! Not your toys. You in at least 5-6 photos, full body and headshot. Smiling! Not making angry faces. No shirtless selfies please. Fill out all the info on your profile you can!!! I won't email someone back if they haven't filled it out. Always answer a question and ask another to keep the conversation going. First date: Do not talk about exes, weight, diet, illness, or any baby mama drama. Pay. Pick a nice restaurant that a woman would like not a seedy bar or sports club. Dress up. Open the door for her and pull out her chair. Compliment how she looks. Relax. Ask questions about her and her family etc. Try to make her laugh if you can.

You're so funny!!!!! Hahahahahahaha

This is kind of funny. So a guy starts texting me online and he's like"- I love how thin you are. Staying fit is very important to me. I'm attracted to thin to average women but NOT overweight women. I am very visual and overweight bothers me. " So I can't help myself. I respond and let him know I used to be obese. He's like.... Waaaaaat?? Ummmm ummmm well I still want to go out with you! Because look how you look now!!! Hahahhaa. Kinda put him in a corner didn't I! Funny.

How did you link it?

I watched that video too. Needless to say it spoke to me. I do think I am getting better about looking for red flags. It's very true for me that love feels like a drug and once I'm in that zone it becomes a lot harder to step out of. It's like I chase the high of the beginning even when things have gone sour. Thinking I can bring it back. But you can't! Because it really wasn't there at all. Beating a dead horse. What I worry about is getting too antsy- letting the littlest thing chase me away. Not being able to give people a chance. This is why I think it's important to keep sex out of it for a least five or so dates. Maybe longer. Give it a chance but keep it light until you are relatively sure no major red flags exist and there is real potential. I have trouble separating once I go there with a person. The guy I just broke up with, I rushed into things. I was caught up in the thrill and not making sound decisions. It was kind of a rebound thing for me. Anyway. Good lesson to learn.

You look gorgeous! You've lost quickly!!

I do exactly the same thing. I've been told it's a good idea to date a few for awhile before getting serious about one I also get about 100 percent response. In fact I get about ten emails to 20 emails a day from different men. It's overwhelming. It's hard to focus and know who to go out with. That's why I think it's a good idea to email a couple times on the guys side to let a woman know your really interested

Yes thank you everyone. Amazing support on here. It really helped me

I did it. Sent him a text. I don't think he deserves a phone call. Here is what I said: "I'm sorry this is in a text message but I'm not good at putting my thoughts into words when speaking. There are other things, such as me getting physically hurt around you twice now due to your drinking. That's a big huge deal!!!! I don't feel safe in your company. You really really hurt me twice now. But what it really comes down to is that whenever I try to talk to you about my life either currently or in the past, you never fail to turn the conversation back to yourself. I feel totally unheard. You don't engage or ask me questions about my life or show interest in really knowing me. You are totally tuned into yourself. You show no consideration for me. For example keeping the tv on until 2 am when I am clearly tired from working and still choosing to stay with you. Not a partner I want to be with. And words of love mean nothing without real intimacy or care. This has bothered me about you since day one. I have been on the fence about being with you for a long time because of these things. Couple it with your drinking cracking 6am beers and I am just done. I only wish you well and good luck. But for me it's goodbye." And that's done. Thank you me. Thank you me and everyone who has written to me!!!! I do have self love.

I've had enough. Ending it tomorrow.

Maybe the problem is i'm not dating as this girl I'm still dating as if I'm this girl When I was over weight I undervalued myself criticize myself talk down on myself and felt like I was worthless and maybe there's just a part of me that still feels like that is me