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You haven’t experienced what the op has gone through. You haven’t experienced pregnancy post wls. You are still in early days and think it’s all smooth sailing. And it’s all about choices. I’m sorry to tell you, it isn’t that simple. In a few years things will likely be different for you too. I hear a lot of fear in the tone of your posts and I understand it is scary that maybe what you are getting out of surgery right now won’t last, and you may regain. It’s terrifying. It terrified me and scares me still at times. But being crude and rude to people on here isn’t the answer. If you are having success, good for you. But it’s a good idea to listen with an open ear because some day you may be struggling too. Wls is not a permanent solution. The restriction most people get is temporary. Somenever get it at all. No matter how much weight you have lost- it doesn’t give you the right to judge others. The op is on here asking for support not to be told she’s a failure by her own lack of willpower. I’m sure she is trying as hard as she can. For some reason your statement “I’ve seen you around Bella bloom!!!!” Makes me chuckle. I’m like, the dark specter of bariatric pal... lurking...around...every....corner... with .... a smile.

If it was that easy no one on here would be heavy. If we could change our mind like a switch, don’t you think we allWould??? It’s not as easy as willpower, not even close. Even having the stomach removed isn’t enough for some people. And now to the op- your body lost a ton of weight from a fast starvation type diet (weight loss surgery is just a forced state of starvation) then you got pregnant with a wrecked metabolism and a starved body- and your body sent your cravings through the roof and slowed your metabolism to a crawl to grow your baby, and heal the damage. When we diet our bodies believe that we are in a famine. And they are smarter than us and built to survive- that is how weight gain from dieting happens. My advice is to take the opportunity to explore other ways of losing weight /weight maintenance other than surgery. Consider eating disorder therapy and a dietician that specializes in eating therapy to help you rebuild your metabolism. Being thin isn’t everything. It really isn’t anything. Youre a new mom, you need food and you need health and you need to free your mind from feeling like a failure so you can focus on your baby. You are not a failure in any way and you are beautiful whether you are bigger or smaller. Therapy can really help with these negative self image issues we all have. You are not a criminal for wanting to eat fast food. There are many ways to be healthy. Eating wholesome food to satisfy yourself, getting exercise every day, treating yourself to a new haircut, new clothes, figuring out what you really enjoy eating without guilt or shame, and loving your body the way it is. That’s health. Self care and self love is health. If you want to be healthy on the outside, you have to get healthy on the inside. Rebuild the trust in yourself. I highly recommend Intuitive Eating to you as an option.

I think that’s pretty realistic for most people. It’s easy to regain. Maybe I’m lucky and just have a fast metabolism or maybe I consume less than I think.. but intuitive eating has worked well for me. I still think healing the metabolism and feeding the body well is a key to stepping away from dieting. Have you ever considered it?

I wish I could tell you I knew you wouldn’t. It’s different for everyone. Just make sure it’s worth it to you. I’m still happy with the results from my surgery. I would do it again. Take heart, maybe it will be easier for you!

That is just not true. Yes less than 10% have dire consequences. But it’s crazy to think there aren’t consequences. YOU REMOVE MOST OF YOUR STOMACH. If you think food will ever be the same to you, think again. It won’t. Eating will never be the same. And many many people don’t even lose all their weight and many regain. And they still have to live with the physical changes. I’m not trying to be negative, just being real. Go into this with your eyes open. It’s a choice your making and a risk your taking. Are you willing to struggle with food for the rest of your life and to be different than how others can eat in return for weightloss? For me the answer was yes. And I would do it again I think. It’s been three years. In three more years I may have changed my mind. It’s getting harder for me to live this way. This surgery is a big commitment. There isn’t any going back. It’s gonna change things forever. Many many people struggle with dumping, food getting stuck, acid reflux, constipation, vitamin issues, and just the process of eating being difficult when it takes you two hours to eat what everyone else can eat in five minutes. When it is a stressful thing just to figure out what you can eat in a situation that won’t make you sick. It’s reality for many many many. Let’s be real.

Omg you are breathtaking. Love your eyes

I love it!! Super hot

I agree it possible some gain could happen to me down the line.. but the essential thing is I’m leaving that up to my body. I won’t diet again because I’ve decided to allow my body to regulate my weight and not try and interfere. Dieting was making me terminally unhappy no matter how thin I became. I have accepted I may gain weight but I know I will love myself regardless and still be healthy because the weight gain won’t be from binging, dieting, or food obsession. It won’t be from eating things I don’t want or don’t make me feel good. It won’t be from eating things only because I feel like I shouldn’t eat them. If I gain weight I will embrace my new body and love myself. your post was fine. Thanks for the thoughts.

Here the thing though. I don’t agree with this anymore. I was raised by a dieter, dieting. I was taught calories in calories out. Calories = weight gain. That’s what got me fat!! Trying to restrict my calories, failing, Binging, gaining more than before the diet, screwing my metabolism. There is no way I could be happy on less calories than my body is hungry for. When I went to eating disorder treatment I was taught that more calories doesn’t equal weight gain if you are eating for your respective metabolism, which is what I do. If you had told me I could maintain my weight averaging 2500 calories I would have said you were crazy. But now I believe differently because I’m living it. I don’t know exactly how many calories I eat a day because I don’t track, and yes I am active. I don’t work out but i do stay on the move. But I do tally my calories up once in awhile and I believe I average around 2500. I gained weight from my lowest and then it stopped. I maintain where I am easily now- except when I don’t make sure and eat enough (which can be hard sometimes given my physical restrictions from surgery), and then I lose weight, which i do not want. My belief is that my metabolism is restored and my body is able to handle the calories. If I had eaten this much when I was dieting back in the day, I would have gained weight because weight gain is the result of a poorly functioning metabolism due to dieting cycles. For women 2500 calories is a reasonable amount of food that is a full and satisfied life. It may not mean super thin but it can equal a nice maintainable set point weight. I know this isn’t for everyone and I’m challenging a lot of beliefs here. I’m sharing my knowledge of what works for me.

I want to add that skinny is not the only form of beauty!!!! Beauty comes in ALL SHAPES AND SIZES. beauty comes from self love and worth and respect. Respect your body. If you feel like it’s where it feels healthy and good, than wonderful!! Of course not all people are meant to look like what we see on the media. You look beautiful to me. The important thing is that you are taking good care of yourself both inside and out.

Hey! So I've left dieting behind. I no longer weigh myself. I don't count my calories or macros or protein grams. I have no idea what I eat in a day, it's always different and I actually forget. I exercise for fun and enjoyment but not for weight regulation. If I don't feel like working out, I don't. Bariatric surgery helped me lose 100 lbs but it also caused a great deal of pain in my life. I struggle to this day with food getting stuck, vomiting, and dumping. I have rejected dieting because after my weight loss I realized I was just as miserable and unhappy as prior to my weight loss. Living a life centered around food, dieting, weight and body imagine was taking all the joy out of my world. I didn't feel at ease- I felt the same amount of stress and anxiety around food as before weight loss- maybe more So now that I was thin and felt I had more to lose if I regained. Basically I was still stuck in an eating disorder and diet mindset and it was ruining my life. I now eat by INTUITIVE EATING. It is a book I read and a way of eating that was presented to me when I went through eating disorder therapy. I eat by my hunger.. if I'm hungry I eat and if I'm not, I don't. Well.. sometimes I still do. [emoji4] Basically these days I just don't think about it that much. I just eat. I can eat normal to large portion sizes now. I eat a wide variety of foods including sweets and fried food. I don't love processed snacks but sometimes I still eat those too. I'd say I eat a fairly healthy diet nutrition wise- I eat my fair share of veggies and fruit but I definitely don't ponder about it- I just eat what appeals to me. I like salads as much as I like cake and protein. I initially gained about 10lbs, but I was underweight at a BMI of 17. My weight has remained stable for about a year now, as far as I know. If anyone wants to know more feel free to get in touch. I'm happy to talk about my experiences.

Thanks everyone. Things have been a bit harder for me lately. I’m struggling with my digestion... I’m not sure if maybe my stricture has come back? And dumping has been worse. I don’t know. I’m making some adjustments to meal size and frequency so we shall see. I’m still happy I found Intuitive Eating and would never go back to dieting ever but it’s hard to mesh it in with the physical changes I have due to surgery. I just don’t have a normal stomach and never will again.

Skipping meals is something I REALLY struggle with when I get busy. I have to start the day off right with breakfast. That helps. If I wait to long to eat my hunger signals don’t ever really get rolling. Staying up with meals requires preparation by having snacks on hand and making a point of trying to eat at least 5-6 small meals a day. It can be really tough. If it’s a problem for you before surgery it may be a real challenge later. But you can do it!

Did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed? Lol. [emoji8] hang in there. I know dieting sucks.

I’m not anorexic nor am I being refed. I eat about 1500-2500 calories a day depending. But you are correct anorexics do eat more to gain weight. I’ve never taken that approach, even when I was in treatment for anorexia as my stomach could not possible hold that much food. I just eat when I’m hungry and stop when I’m full. I don’t over eat and have no desire to do so. That’s what keeps my weight at maintainence. Following the post bariatric rules wasn’t working for me for numerous reasons. Getting into discussions on how metabolism and intuitive eating works wasn’t the point of my post. What I’m saying is that long term these rules became unbearable for me. Am I alone? I doubt it. Follow the rules if you can. Many can’t. It’s not black and white anyway. Lots of people find what works for them in different ways. I do break rules and sometimes I pay for that. Have I gained weight? No. Do I believe you need to follow the rules to avoid weight regain? NO. But if you go back to how you were eating before surgery yes you could definitely regain. I don’t eat the way I did before surgery, not at all. I eat in a very sustainable moderate way. That’s the point of my post. I don’t follow diet rules because I’ve found another way to maintain.

That’s exactly how I felt and how I still feel. Total burnout with dieting, to the point that I was more miserable dieting than I was overweight. Not everyone feels this way of course. Luckily I’ve found a way to keep my weight off and not diet. I don’t know if Intuitive Eating will work for everyone but it’s working for me. It was a long long process for me to be able to say “f the rules”. I still don’t say that. I still have to figure out what works and what doesn’t. I break the rules and sometimes I pay for it. But what it comes down to is my overall happiness being more important than my scale number.

Thank Jenn- It’s nice to hear from you. How are you doing? It’s so interesting the different perspectives from vets isn’t it.

I had my surgery dec 2014. So three years. There are definitely foods I can eat.. I’m not scary thin anymore. My post was more just about the long term difficulty in getting food down as you continue to move away from surgery and just try and live like a normal person. You can’t ever go back to it being easy. I eat a lot of cheese, that gets me by.

I agree with those above. What works for one won’t work for all. We find different ways of managing our lives and bodies. Success is defined differently by everyone. It’s not black and white, this is a complicated long term commitment. A lot of doctors have changed their protocols and one surgeons strategy doesn’t always match up with another’s. Vets are qualified to give advice- because they have been through it.

It’s a lot to go through hun. For one, your body is in a caloric deficit. Our bodies don’t like that. They see it as a famine. It’s natural for them to depress in this kind of situation. Just try and get your food in as best you can. There is a huge emotional reliance of food for most overweight people. It’s a coping mechanism for many of us. And we’ve also dieted a lot and followed that by a rebound binge. Well, you can’t now. So the pattern is broken and your realizing your coping mechanism is gone. It’s really important to focus on getting some new ones that are not food related. What other things do you have in your life that can get you some comfort? Get some exercise. Your body needs endorphins. Post surgery our bodies go through a slump. Go out and take a walk in the fresh air. Go for a jog. Get your heart rate up. It will really help. The best cure for depression is endorphins. Hang in there. This too shall pass.

3 years out, I feel ill in one way or another about 80% of the Times I eat. That’s reality for many people.

YOURE not a failure. Your a wonderful beautiful human being. Losing or gaining weight is not a reflection of your worth. You are worthy no matter what. Wls and weight loss is really hard!! You can hit stalls and it can get scary. My advice is to just stick to the plan you’ve been given as best as you can and focus on doing the things that will give you the best restriction. Weight loss can be slow for some people and that’s okay. If you eat off plan, don’t beat yourself up!! It’s not an all or nothing thing. You have restriction and your body may just need some time to begin losing again. Work on your self worth. You are so much more than your weight. Even if you never lose another pound, you are NOT a failure. You are great no matter what you weigh. It’s good that you are trying to import a your health but your health and weight does not give you value. You have value no matter what.

I went through 4 months of in and out of the hospital after my surgery and 6 stomach surgeries in all. It was hard!! Very hard. But I’m 4 years out now and doing well, not perfect but definitely happy. You will get through all of this. Hang in there!!

Pretty sure I’m batshit crazy haha but I was like that before surgery 🤨[emoji6]