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Don't feel bad. That's normal. Some part of you is breaking up with the physical self you've grown used to. Some of us gain weight as a shield around ourselves. I know I did. It's natural to be afraid of losing that sheild, and also facing a huge life change. Maybe having sex made you feel afraid that you may not be the same, things will never be the same. Some part of you will be removed. But that's not the case. You will still be you but healthier, more physically capable and more alive than ever.

Also, lots of wls patients do eat carbs down the road and maintain their weight loss. It's all about portion control. And ask yourself, do you think you'll be able to lose weight naturally not giving up any foods you like? That's not the way it works. We have to compromise some things for better health. I don't miss the foods I used to be addicted to. Any more than an addict in recovery misses the drug that was destroying them. I'm so happy to be free of those foods.

After i had my seminar like i wasnt able to sleep feeling so dum for going over all this and not being able to do it on my own at the end of the day i do want to but i feel so bad for waisting all this money just because i cant do it alone like anyone normal that eats healthy and goes to the gym for example ???? Have you read the statistics on how rare natural weight loss is? Less than 5% keep the weight they lose off. You could spend thousands doing that only to likely fail. Wls resets our bodies to a new set point for weight. You can't do that naturally. I've seen so many people lose weight only to gain it back. Many times over!! Your making a wise investment in your future. Don't feel bad about not being able to do what 95% of people can't.

That is so messed up!! What is her problem? People are so cruel and stupid at times. They are jealous and just downright mean. As if you cheated or something. They came up with this surgery as a life saving intervention for people with weight issues. Someone is an alcoholic, and they get medical help. Do we judge them?? No we applaud them!!! It's bullshit that wls gets this treatment. You should feel so proud and you should definitely go above her head with a complaint. That is your PERSONAL information she shared. When people I don't want to tell ask me, I say I eat low carb, no sugar, and workout, and portion control. Which is all true. I do tell a lot of people however and the reason is because I know how nearly impossible it is for most people to lose weight naturally and i don't want to spread false hope that the diet industry does. The fact is once we become overweight our bodies reach a new set point which is very difficult to undo. I feel natural weightloss is mostly a myth and I want to raise awareness that this surgery is a wonderful thing and put there for people. But strangers? Yeah I don't usually tell them. It's too personal.

As it turns out, I have a pretty bad case of dumping syndrome. And I'm not entirely sure what causes it and how to manage it as it had started up rather suddenly. I wasn't sure it was dumping syndrome but I have confirmed it with my surgeon that it is. After I eat I become severely nauseated for about an hour, 30 minutes if I take zofran. It's so bad all I can do is lay there and groan. I can't talk or walk. It seems to be set off by anything sweet- ice cream, evens glass of milk, yogurt, etc. It also seems to happen at other times- just after any meal. I'm not sure what's triggering it. Can dumping be triggered by portion size alone? What foods trigger your dumping if you have it? What can be done to help with the symptoms? How do I avoid this from happening? Any advice appreciated. It's pretty awful.

Not for me. But dairy will and so will regular carbs

I had a bypass. Had to have it reversed and converted to a sleeve. I had complications with the bypass and my awful surgeon chose to take care of it that way. I ended up with major scar tissue and had to deal with a stricture for 6 months. Anyway I'm good now but just experiencing this dump ing. My surgeon said sleeve patients can have dumping. Basically I have an intolerance to sugar and dairy and carbs and also get sick from too much at once Today I haven't had any carbs and have had no issues. It's rough to not have any carbs though because I drop weight super easy and I definitely can't lose much more!

Well, a life lesson for me again. Don't date an alcoholic. I've never known an alcoholic before. The man I've been dating the past 5 months is one. It snuck up on me, realizing how bad it is. We were together successfully 3 months when he lost his job, his brother died, and now his dad has prostate cancer. He's totally hit rock bottom and spends all day drinking. I've been trying to survive in the relationship. We've already broken up once and got back together recently. The first time we broke up, it was after I was spending the night at his house and in the middle of the night he got up to use the restroom and fell on me and almost broke my ribs. He is a pretty big guy (6 foot) and he was dead weight and I'm very tiny now. I was so bruised I could barely lift my arm. I broke up with him and then regretted it, missing him and the company. So I decided to give it another try thinking it was a one time thing. Then last night, I was at his house in bed and he got up, came back to sit down and sat down backwards too close to me, and the back of his head cracked into my face sooooooo hard, I thought my eyebrow was split. I cried and held my face for 15 minutes seeing stars with tears streaming down and shaking. I'm so surprised I don't have a black eye today. What is wrong with me that I can't leave this situation. I'm getting hurt and it's dangerous. Clearly he is sick and I have no business being in this. On top of all this, he is totally narcissistic and I find him rather irritating and boring. He doesn't ever talk with me about my life, only himself and his problems. Why am I still in this??????? The weird thing is that although he doesn't listen well, ask me questions or take and interest he is constant saying how much he loves me, adores me, how sexy and beautiful I am, how he wants to marry me and he also wants to have sex with me around the clock!!! Makes no sense.

I have had both bypass and the sleeve so my situation is a little different. I currently have a sleeve. My surgeon confirmed it is dumping. it's awful.

You look gorgeous!!

Great thread!!

Alcohol seems to affect me exactly the same post surgery as a dead prior to surgery. I have a fairly high tolerance. So far nothing alcoholic has made me dump and id. pretty severely. I drink wine and champagne because those are low calorie options without a ton of alcohol. Whiskey on the rocks is something I like as well. Occasionally I splurged on a mixed drink like a Mohito but I really watch those because of the sugar content and the calories. Looking at mixed drinks there are a lot of low calorie options like the skinny vodka drinks and things made with soda Water etc.

Hey guys. So glad I found this forum. I'm entering goal weight and I'm afraid of slipping back into old eating patterns. I'm at a loss of how to eat now. For the last 6 months I've had a severe stricture which made my food choices very limited. It's opening up now and I've been able to eat more, and I need to make sure I set good habits. 1. Breakfast. I really struggle with this one. Can you give me some low carb, low fat ideas for breakfast? I've been eating bagels and Cereal which I feel is too high carb. 2. lunch. I hate smoothies- and I eat out a ton because of my job. Anyone have any great lunch ideas that will keep me satisfied until at least the afternoon? 3. Snack I don't really like snacking but I do get hungry in the afternoon. I've been eating beef Jerky. Any other ideas as to what will keep in my car? 4. dinner. I'm always at a loss for dinner. What do you eat? 5. Late night snack. I like to eat before bed although I know I shouldn't. Hopefully I can get some options here besides cereal which is my go to. Thanks guys!!!!

It will be very similar to your gallbladder removal surgery in terms of pain. Less painful on your outer body than a C-section for more painful on your inner body because of the gas pains associated with the laparoscopic surgery. If you could handle a C-section without having narcotics the surgery is going to be a walk in the park for you

She definitely needs to eat more not getting enough protein is going to have issues after a while when I wasn't getting enough protein in the back of my legs went numb and I had some pretty major vitamin deficiencies she needs to put calories and protein right away and speak to her doctor about these issues. A lack of B vitamins can make one very very tired

I have dumping when I eat anything too sweet. Sometimes I think I also get it if I overeat. It's a good thing. Keeps me honest!!

This was a very interesting article I've never thought of it that way but I could see how some forms of anorexia could be more of a habit thing.

You look amazing! So happy for you and your family!

Glad to see you doing well!!

Am I anorexic. No I am not. Am I on the way there? I don't think so but it's something I do think about. First off I am in therapy with a counselor who is both a dietician and a specialist in eating disorders. I've been seeing her weekly since before I had surgery, over a year now. This is because I have a long history of an eating disorder. I've struggled with binge eating most of my adult life and also had a stint with bulimia. I've been through intensive inpatient therapy for it and am very aware of my issue and tendencies. I knew going into wls it could become a problem for me, hence therapy. To be diagnosed as anorexic one has to be 15% below a healthy BMI. I'm not even close. I'm still in a healthy BMI for my height. I'm aware of how thin I am and that there is a point at which I will become too thin. I personally feel like a few more pounds could come off but I don't intend to drop to an underweight BMI. I do know that I am very thin whereas anorexic people usually don't recognize their thinness. I wouldn't say I'm obsessed with food and calories to a harmful degree. I am aware of them just like any wls patient and want to make sure I continue to follow a healthy eating plan. I don't have food rituals and I don't use laxatives or make myself throw up on purpose. I am eating around 1200-1700 calories a day. That is not what anorexics do! I am trying to eat to maintain my weight within a few pounds. I'd like to be between 115-120 for my weight which puts me a low normal BMI. So. Am I anorexic? No I don't think so. Am I aware that this possibility exists if I get to 115 and still don't find it acceptable? Yes I am. One thing that concerns me is how losing weight relieves my stress and makes me feel "safe." Like @@Babbs said, eating disorders are about control and stress management. Yup!!! That's how it does feel for me at least in part. That's an indicator that I may have trouble stopping. I don't think I'll aggressively continue to lose weight but over time it could sneak up on me because I'll be tempted to get the validation of weight loss continually past healthy weight. It is something that makes me feel so good and my rational mind struggles with the urge to see that number getting smaller because yes, it relieves fear and stress. There is a disconnect happening between me recognizing the size I currently am and the number on the scale. The issue lies in the fear of regaining and the activity that relieves that fear being weight loss. Everyone who posted has valid points and as you can see I'm not in denial. I realize this is a possibility for myself. That's why I keep posting about it. I'm looking for support from those who have achieved maintenance and dealt on some level with the fears I have. When I first got on this forum I was surprised how few people seemed to have past diagnosed eating disorders. I would have thought it more common. Especially because bulimia can often result in binge eating and huge weight gains over time. I do feel rather alone with my issues and a little embarrassed. I'm just trying to get support. It will be as difficult for me to end up looking like a skeleton as it was for me to be obese.

Today my surgeon told me that increasing protein and supplementing with vitamins will not help hair loss. That's its the body in shock from surgery and from weight loos and one just has to ride it out!! (((

Less than 20 grams a day. I'm not encouraging this!! Just lettin you know I didn't die or go bald.

I didn't get my protein in for about 8 months. Some hair fell out and I lost a lot of muscle, but that was about it. Now I'm getting better and being able to eat more of it. It does sometimes take time. Try your best, get in as much as you can, but don't freak out or regret surgery. You will get there!!

This is awful!! Is your mother supportive of you having the surgery? I have to admit, my mother also tortured me about my weight. She would constantly make comments. In fact, I think this subject deserves it own thread!!

Strictures are really weird. I still have things get stuck although it's gotten so much better. It's unpredictable that's for sure. For about six months all I could eat was cheese, potato chips, and liquids!! Ugh. The idea of gaining weight back keeps me up at night!!