Garifab_VSG

I created a different FB page for anything VSG related ... I had previously joined a FB private group for VSG'ers under my real name/FB account and it started recommending my friends join it, too, and told them I had joined it. I didn't like that. Anyway, long story short, I will PM my FB name to you so you can please invite me!

Hi everyone. I'm March 31, so I'd rather be part of the April group. Particularly the April 1st-ers! If there is a private FB group, I'd love to join it.

I was told that routine carbonation consumption can stretch your stomach out back to its original size. My surgeon was very, very serious about the consumption of carbonation in any form. Interesting. My surgeon said nothing could ever stretch your stomach back to its original size, ever. However, obviously from the stories on this board alone, you can still absolutely regain weight with a reduced stomach size.

I'm still pre-op, but the date is nearing. From the start I said I wouldn't tell many people, but I've been telling more than I thought I would. I do get tired of reading the responses about how it's nothing to be ashamed of, be proud of the decision, and so on and so forth. Everyone is different, of course, as are our reasons for getting to the point of morbid obesity, however - I am totally ashamed of it, and not "proud" by any means. I'm ashamed that I had so little self-control that my body got to this point, and I need to have 85% of my stomach removed to be successful at losing it. There are people out there who manage to find the willpower and self control and discipline to lose over 100 lbs without having surgery. So no, I'm not proud of this decision, and I'm not just happily telling the world that I'm about to have weight loss surgery.

I agree, because this ... ... was not exactly what the OP was saying. She didn't say he didn't love her anymore, just that he had an issue with being attracted. Love and attraction are not one and the same. And thankfully that was clarified, because now I can understand better what he meant. Attraction is a crazy thing. You can deeply love someone and still be turned off by something, and it could totally be temporary, and that is also TOTALLY normal, and OK. Had the OP not followed up, I would have given the advice of ... just give him some time.

Please post what was on your pre-op diet list. I am curious to see how they differ from doctor to doctor.

I'm March 31, so basically an April sleever. Can I join?

He has far bigger issues than your having this surgery. He still hasn't even taken accountability for his own obesity. *SMH* I'm glad you're going through with this, and I will hold out hope that your marriage survives, but statistics are statistics for a reason, and the divorce rate post-WLS is high. *hugs*

Is this friend overweight? For anyone who posts a thread about someone (or ones) that are not supportive, I'd like to know up front if the people not supporting you are overweight themselves.

I wish there was some way to see when the last time noorjenna was online, because she hasn't been in this thread since Feb. 7th I hope she went through with her surgery.

I honestly can't see staying with someone who is so unsupportive of something of this nature. I'm so sad to see so many unsupportive spouses. I also wonder how many of these spouses are generally controlling people by nature.

Sorry, I realized what she was asking, but don't have the answer to what she was asking -- just wanted to clarify that in my doc's office, it was only one year, not two.

I never know what to put for height. I was always 5'7", but apparently I began shrinking the past few years.

I'm looking for a buddy group. My surgery was set last week for March 31. I'm 39, 265 lbs, 5'6-1/2". BMI is morbidly obese at 41.5.

I think I had to sign something at my surgeon's office stating I would not get pregnant for at least one year post-op.

39. It's my 40th birthday gift to myself.

Congrats on your approval, and your 14 years being cancer free! You've had a rough go of it. Good for you for taking control back and working toward happiness.

From the start, I said I would not be telling too many people about this. But I've found that I've told quite a few already. Granted, they are all people I either eat lunch with, or trust on a general basis, but more and more I find myself saying, "I'm not telling many people this, but .... " and then realizing, wait, yes I have! LOL. (I'm pre-op - surgery is 3/31.) I know one thing - I really don't want anyone's opinion about it, so if I'm telling someone who may be a little judgmental, I open with that. I start by saying, "I really don't want to tell too many people about this, because I'm not interested in anyone's opinions on the subject ... " So far, that has kept all but one person from turning up their nose about the idea, and everyone has been either supportive, or totally encouraging and excited for me. My favorite response has been, "But how is that healthy? You'll barely be able to eat anything." Oh! Right. Because being 120 lbs overweight is WAY healthier.

I can't believe how many of you don't even look like the same person from your "before" pic to your "after!" Amazing, and such HUGE motivators!! Keep up the amazing work!!

The human body is designed to eat solid foods for energy. To tell someone who struggled with a liquid-only diet that she must not want it badly enough since she ate solid food isn't really fair, IMO. In addition to struggling with an addiction, we're also battling what comes naturally to the human body, which is to EAT. I haven't gotten to my pre-op diet yet, but I imagine it's going to be one of the hardest things I've ever done.

@@cejiogu, that is interesting. I've had two c-sections, and my second was, BY FAR, easier and less painful than my first. My sister had three, and also said the same thing, that each one got easier, not more painful!

I never once laughed at the title of this thread. I'm still pre-op, but I think about this often, since now that I have a date scheduled, I've made it my goal to think about any and every aspect of the changes that are about to come. There is one thing I will greatly miss about being fat. I'm an extremely extroverted, friendly, open and affectionate person. I'm 39 now, but 15 years ago, when I was not obese, I had to scale down my personality A LOT because too many men (and a woman or two) took my personality the wrong way. This sounds conceited, but it is not meant to be ... but I got tired of being mistaken for flirting with someone, or giving off the impression I was "interested" because I was very friendly and welcoming to all. As a fat person, I very rarely have to worry about someone thinking anything of my personality except that I am a nice person. I've been very free to display my real self with my fat to protect me from people developing any type of feelings for me other than friendly ones. I've been thinking about that a lot. Granted, now I am married whereas I was not 15 years ago, so my hope is that is enough to deflect anyone from thinking I'm looking for something that I'm not. But on the funny side, I will miss being warm, too LOL! And using my belly to hold the iPad while I binge-watch Sons of Anarchy, Breaking Bad, The Walking Dead, and so on and so on

Oh yes, we do! Tell us~!

I'm totally the type of person who will have the why me type of feelings, so I'm really grateful for you posting things like this. It helps to at least know we're not alone. Bolding is mine ... but just trying to comfort your "past you" by saying that the majority of this country is overweight, so not "everyone else" is normal sized with a regular stomach! I say that with a smile, because I know you know this.

What's the issue with using a straw, besides the possibility of drinking too much at once? Asks the pre-op new fish.