Essence46

Good luck to you.

Honestly, it's a mindset. Until you have made up your mind to workout, no excuses, it will be very hard to be successful. Having the mindset and getting there is 90% of the battle. The working out part is easy. Find something you like and start there. Good luck to you.

My job gave me 6 weeks but doctor said I could go back after 3 weeks If I wanted to. I didn't want to so I took the whole 6. Glad I did too.

I am sort of upset and disappointed with myself. After years and years of struggling with horrible events and things in my life, some where along the line, I stopped loving myself. All of those things caused me not to shut down and not love "Me". Why did it take me losing 50 pounds for me to start loving myself again? Don't get me wrong. I love the changes and look forward to more to come but I am upset and disappointed in myself for not thinking I was worthy of my own love when I was 50 pounds heavier. I don't even know if this makes sense. Sorry. Just venting.

Thank you all for your comments and encouraging words. I really appreciate them. Thanks for the book recommendation Livvsmum. I am going to purchase it.

I wasn't feeling that at all! LOL!

Oh yes...

I like to keep her bald so I shave twice a week. Have been shaving for the last 15 plus years. Never had any issues but have cut myself a few times from rushing. I wanted to try to Brazilian Wax but they wanted me to let it grow out a couple of inches first then come back. It hurts when I get my eyebrows done so I couldn't even imagine doing that.

Yay!!! Congratulations!!

Those heffas had a lot of nerve!!!!! SMH! Now that I got that out, you are doing the right thing by taking the high road. You keep doing what you are doing, hold your head up high and smile.

Sleeved June 18. Down 50 pounds but have stalled the last month and a half or so. I have switched my workout routine and increased my calorie intake. I hope this helps. It seems like everyone is doing pretty good. That makes me smile.

I typed up this long comment and decided to delete it. Only you can decide what is best for you.

LOL!! Your post has me dying laughing. Not to laugh at your misfortune but, with the week I am having, you have given me the laugh I needed. Thank you. For the record, I am cold alot now too. With that and battling menopause, I am a walking hot/cold mess. My poor hubby. LOL!

The first few weeks the constipation was awful. I ended up taking suppositories to get some relief. After that, I took stool softeners for a few weeks. That helped a lot. Good luck.

My first thought while reading this is you are doing everything right but you don't eat enough. I would increase protein too.

The first day to new beginnings! Good luck to you! Praying for you.

I am almost 5 months out. It was hard at first especially being limited with what you can eat, knowing how much you can eat, etc. I can pretty much eat anything I want now but only a small amount. Since I can't eat a lot, I try to make good food choices. Unfortunately, this is not always easy when out with friends. I went out of town on a girl’s trip this past week. At dinner I order grilled Asian wings and a small side of greens. I always try to eat vegetables and Protein first so I ate the greens first then I had 2 wings. I was done after that. At brunch I order a side of bacon and two scrambled eggs. I ate all of the eggs and two strips of bacon. Then I was done. You can chose from the kids menu if you like but I have found the kids menu is usually not the best. It usually has chicken tenders, cheeseburgers, chilled cheese, etc. Stuff I try to stay away from. You can also consider ordering just a side. I am not a big meat person so I will order vegetables that I like. Either way, find what works for you and try not to let it stress you out. The last 5 months I have had to eat to live as opposed to living to eat like before. Good luck.

I usually tell people "I made a decision to save my life" and leave it at that.

I usually tell people "I made a decision to save my life" and leave it at that.

If I had $1 for every time I heard that, I could buy me a nice Coach bag. I heard it from so many people including other bairiatic patients. It was part of the reason why I didn't tell many people.

Oh man.... I can soo relate to this. I wish I could give you a hug. I agree with what the others have said. We have to love ourselves. I equated me being fat to me being fat, ugly, unworthy, etc. I didn't love myself. I let the weight destroy my self esteem.. my spirit.. my joy. I didn't realize that I was awesome at any size. Losing the weight has really helped my confidence. It's good and bad. It's good because I am on a new journey to loving me. It's bad because I was deserving of my own love 50 pounds heavier. I didn't see the beauty others saw in myself because I couldn't see past the weight. You are awesome. You are worthy. You are beautiful. Being big or small.. doesn't change that. I look foward to following you on your journey.Wishing you the best.

It's normal to feel the way you do. I think we are all afraid of the "what ifs". I agree with recycled... you should try and look more at the glass being half full as opposed to half empty. Even though fear is expected, at some point, I believe you have to find peace in your decision. For me, I prayed about it and prayed about it. A couple of weeks out from my surgery date, I found peace in my decision which made it so much easier for me. I woke up the morning of my surgery excited!! One thing I didn't do was read any stories dealing with complications, anything going wrong, etc. For me, I carry so much in my spirit. I felt anything negative would have too much of an affect on me. Wishing you the best. You will be fine. *hugs*

Hey there. I would love to be pen pals! I can use all of the support, conversation and bonding I can get. LOL!. I will send you an email shortly from my gmail account.