Chrystee

Has anyone gone through an identity crisis after WLS? I feel overall happier than before, but I don't know if its culmination of my age (36) and the weight loss, but I feel like I'm going through a bit of an identity or mid life crisis? I'm glad my husband is giving me a little leeway, and we are having fun "discovering" things together.. but then I feel a little depressed lately too.. my whole identity is changing.. People call me beautiful, gorgeous, a MILF.. and I'm just not used to these things.. they seem so foreign. When I was over 250-300 pounds, people mostly ignored me.. no one looked in my eyes.. people were barely friendly.. my husband agrees that my personality hasn't changed that much.. but just the outside me.. I also discovered changes in my sexuality, that I had no idea existed. I went from 0 sex drive, to 150 MPH, raging, always wanting sex as well.. I'm rambling, but just wondered if anyone else has gone through this, and do the hormones calm down after a bit?

So I had my plastics consult.. My surgeon said that she's had really good luck with insurances paying for most of the plastics.. We are trying for a 360 lift, I have good reason, cause I get rashes in the back where I sweat a lot (TMI, but butt crack area ). She also believes I don't need much in way of a breast lift, just removal of some skin to tighten them up. She also thinks I don't need arms redone, but a little lipo she says will tighten my arm, and then I'm hoping for a little neck lift as well.. I'm so excited!

Surgery tomorrow!!!

I didn't provide anything. My Doctors office did everything.

I have BCBS Federal. My tummy is all skin now, and actually hurts when I run. We put in for a 360 lift, boob lift, and neck lift, and they only approved a paniculectomy (my surgeon does a tummy tuck, and includes a new belly button).

Start slow.. 1/2 mile run, and a mile walk, and just keep increasing. I did C25k for so long, and one day just ran a mile, then 2, then 5 half marathons last year.

Not to mention, lymes disease.. which I have.

Just an update, my surgery is scheduled for February 2nd! Only a tummy tuck was approved though. I still want a breast lift, but I'm not sure if I can afford it.

No, not needed for weight loss, but I've seen HUGE improvements in my body by building muscle. Smaller, tighter, etc.

@@BigViffer thanks! (I'm actually an ironman girl..)

YES. I love working out with the guys too now! I better check out those arms..

You don't have to tell anyone you were overweight. I've been at goal for more than two years and those who met me at my current weight, do not know I was heavy. I don't hide it but I don't announce it either. The only people who I have to tell about my weight are the men I have relationships with. And that's my choice...I don't have to do that either. I've had two relationships that went past a date or two and both those men knew I had WLS. I'm in a commited relationship now and he knows as well. I didn't disclose it right away but I saw where we were going and wanted to get it out of the way. Oh, and FYI, the reactions were always positive not negative. Good luck and like I said...it's up to you what to tell, and to whom. That's right, YOU DONT. I am so obnoxious about it!! I thought I would be the same way.. and now I scream 143 POUNDS LOST!! Aw man, he might not have known what to say! I know people who have batwings that haven't been super overweight!

Here's my progression if anyone cares to see. It takes time and patience, more than anything.

I've been weight training a couple years. Recently getting more serious, I lost a lot of muscle after my WLS. It can take quite some time, I think. I don't use any system or plan though, I just read stuff on bodybuilding.com and do strength exercises that I put together.

Music and having workout buddies!

Yea, we go out to eat frequently also. I make my own choices. I can find healthy foods.

You gotta give him a little slack.. You made a huge change, not him. Try to give him a little leeway..

YES! One thing I WISH I would have had prior to surgery was self love. I hated myself, and it showed. Keep loving yourself.

Had surgery in March last year, and had my gallbladder out in august!

so interesting.. My husband preferred me prior..

The attention has been difficult.. Guys checking me out, very visibly.. making comments, etc. at the same time, I love it. I looooove attention, then when its been awhile, I start craving it. The other hard thing for me is trying to keep myself out of trouble with my marriage..