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I HAVE TO SHARE THIS. I TOLD ONLY DR, FIANCE, AND MY KIDS, WHEN I WENT TO MY REGULAR DR, WHO SUGGESTED THE SURGERY, ABOUT TWO MONTHS OUT, WHEN HIS NURSE (WHO I KNOW OUTSIDE OF THE DR. OFFICE) FOUND OUT THAT I HAD THE SURGERY IN JANUARY, HER COMMENT WAS, " YOU'VE LOST 50 POUNDS, AND YOU HAD THE SURGERY, HERE I THOUGHT YOU HAD BEEN DIETING REALLY HARD". I HAD TO BRING IT TO HER ATTENTION THAT I LOST 30 ON MY OWN BEFORE SURGERY AND 20 AFTER SURGERY AND THAT YESI HAD BEEN WORKING HARD......SHE AND OTHER PEOPLE LIKE THE SURGERY IS JUST A BREEZE, TICKED ME OFF SO BAD. EVEN SOME PEOPLE IN THE MEDICAL PROFESSION DON'T UNDERSTAND IT AND VIEW IT AS THE EASY WAY OUT OR THE MAGIC WAND. I'M STILL ILL ABOUT IT AND SO GLAD I CHOSE NOT TO TELL ANYONE.

FIANCE, DR, KIDS -NOONE ELSE ON THE PLANET

I was the same way. 3 months out I am finally feeling normal. You may not take as long but....IT WILL GET BETTER

Trying hard not to regret my surgery but all this is really taking a toll on me. 9 weeks out. Anyone else gone thru this? I'm now in anti depressants and anxiety meds. I can't believe it but I just couldn't cope.

I AM JUST OVER 3 MONTHS POST OP NOW, IT IS THE WEIRDEST THING, SATURDAY NIGHT WE STAYED UP TIL ABOUT 2 AM BECAUSE WE WERE BUSY, WHEN I GOT HOME I FORGOT TO TAKE MY Vitamins, SO SUNAY MORNING, WHEN I FINALLY WOKE UP, IT WAS THE FIRST NORMAL MORNING THAT I HAD IN ABOUT TWO MONTHS, NO ANXIETY, NO NAUSEA. ANYWAY, I STOPPED TAKING MAGNESIUM WITH MY EVENING VITAMINS, EVERY NIGHT AFTER THAT AND I HAVE BEEN sleeping BETTER, BARELY ANY ANXIETY, AND I DON'T FEEL LIKE CRAP FOR 4 HOURS AFTER I WAKE UP. SO STRANGE. SO I GUESS I'M TRYING TO SAY THAT I'M LIVING PROOF THAT IT REALLY DOES GET BETTER LIKE EVERYONE SAYS.

I HAVE A RASH ON BOTH OF MY WRISTS BUT I'M 3 MOS. POST OP....BUMPY AND ITCHY. I WAS WONDERING IF IT WAS DETOXING OR SOMETHING...

@@llali82 you lost everything but boobs! You look great! Congrats!

You look great! Congrats!

Great!

That is not slow, I've lost 33 in 12 weeks

OK SO I HAD THAT ROUGH PATCH A FEW WEEKS AGO WITH NAUSEA, COULDN'T EAT OR DRINK, INSOMNIA, ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION. WELL ALL IS GONE EXCEPT FOR A TAD BIT OF THE ANXIETY. I WENT TO THE DR TODAY TO GET MORE OF THE ANXIETY MED WHICH I TAKE AT NIGHT TO HELP ME TO SLEEP AND TO NOT HAVE SUCH BAD ANXIETY IN THE MORNING. I TOLD HIM I SHOULDN'T NEED ANY MORE AFTER THAT BOTTLE BECAUSE I'M WEANING MYSELF OFF. HE TOLD ME THAT ANXIETY MEDS ARE HARD TO GET OFF OF NOW I'M SCARED TO DEATH! I DON'T WANT TO BE DEPENDENT ON A PRESCRIPTION. HAS ANYONE BEEN ON ANXIETY MEDS TEMPORARILY AND GOTTEN OFF THEM SUCCESSFULLY? I'M DETERMINED TO DO THIS. I WANT TO BE NORMAL AGAIN.

No I haven't, which would help anxiety?

I'VE WORN 24 FOR LITERALLY YEARS. I WENT SHOPPING TODAY BECAUSE MY JEANS ETC ARE FALLING OFF. I GOT 18 PANTS. I COULD HAVE DONE 16 BUT THEY DIDN'T HAVE ANY AND I WAS LEAVING THERE WITH SOME PANTS! ANYWAY I SEE NOW WHAT PEOPLE ARE TALKING ABOUT HOW WEIRD IT IS TO LOOK FOR SMALLER SIZES AND ITS FUNNY THERE WERE MORE SIZE 24S IN THE STORE TODAY THAN I HAVE EVER SEEN BEFORE WHEN NOW I NEED 16/18. IT WAS FUNNY BECAUSE IT WAS ALL MOSTLY THE BIGGER SIZES. BUT MAYBE BEFORE LONG I CAN SHOP IN JUST MISSES INSTEAD OF PLUS TOO. BUT ANYWAY, ALMOST EVERYONE I HAVE RUN INTO IN THE LAST TWO WEEKS IS COMMENTING OR ASKING ABOUT MY WEIGHT LOSS. I REALLY TRY TO SHRUG IT OFF BUT IT IS SO FUNNY TO ME BECAUSE OTHER THAN MY CLOTHES BEING LOOSE I DON'T SEE IT YET, AT ALL. BUT I KNOW IT'S HAPPENING. I DON'T LIKE ATTENTION SO THIS IS THE PART I WAS SKIDDISH ABOUT IS WHEN PEOPLE START NOTICING. BUT I GUESS THAT MEANS IT'S WORKING!

ONLY MY FIANCE AND DR KNOW ABOUT MY SURGERY AND THAT IS ONE OF THE REASONS WHY. I AM VERY FREE TO TALK ABOUT IT ALL TO MY FIANCE SO I DON'T REALLY FEEL ALONE IN THIS. ITS PERSONAL TO ME, I LIKE IT JUST BEING OUR BUSINESS AND NOONE ELSE'S.

IT WILL GET SO MUCH BETTER - YOU'RE GOING TO BE FINE. I DIDN'T MOURN FOOD BUT I DID HAVE THE DEPRESSION ETC ETC ETC. IT DOES GET BETTER. YOUR BODY AND MIND ARE GOING THRU A WHOLE LOT RIGHT NOW.

CONGRATS...HOW ARE YOU DOING?

WELL! GIVE US AN UPDATE!

Oh I'm just 12 weeks out but the first couple months was awful dry skin. When I would take my clothes off dry skin would be all over them (black clothes) and dry skin would fly everywhere like dust or glitter in the air. I got Nivea 48 hour moisture (stole my daughter's extra bottle I got her as she suffers from severe dry winter skin) and it helped tremendously but like others have said now that I've got my food and water under control it seems to have subsided.

I haven't lost enough that I consider myself attractive again and I'm not getting "noticed" again yet. But if and when I do I know I'm not going to know how to handle it either. It's been a few years since I got looks, stares, glances, and smiles from men. I'll probably freak out too. But that brings up another subject we've talked about on here too. That new attention for me will probably bring mixed emotions thinking about the fact that if these people paying attention to me now wouldn't have taken a second look at me just months ago. I will feel weird about that too. I think if someone tells me how hot or good I look etc. I'm going to say well you should have seen me a hundred pounds ago!

Forgive me but I absolutely hate that question: how much have you lost? I know many people mean well, and some don't. But I've learned a lesson, I will never ask anyone how much they have lost, I will simply tell them how great they look. But to answer your question, I do not give anyone numbers at all. My surgery was a secret but many people are noticing. I have had a few so far ask how much I have lost and I just say I'm not sure. That usually lets them know that I don't talk numbers. My weight problem and weight loss has always been a personal thing to me. I mostly get "are you losing weight" or "you have lost weight!" And I say "I guess so!" and "Thanks!"

I had a breakdown as you call it too. But I was about two months out. I know it feels like you will never get over this nervousness and worry, but you will. As everyone says, it will get better. I believed no one when they told me that. I thought I'd never feel better. I didn't expect this kind of thing to happen either. I knew "depression" could happen, but not a nuclear meltdown. I'm getting better and you will too! I will be thinking of you and praying for you!

klonopin .5 - I took half last night and I will do half tonight and none tomorrow night, that way Saturday morning if I have anxiety I won't be having to go to work...i'm going to do this. I just don't see why I ended up with anxiety after this surgery. I don't understand. I wake up in the mornings and worry about anything and everything that comes to my mind. It's awful.

Thanks so much. I really think I can, it just makes me nervous to think I'd have to feel that anxiety again. But I'm doing half a pill tonight we'll see how night and morning goes as that is when I experienced it. I'm praying about it too

SOUNDS LIKE YOU'RE DOING GOOD! CONGRATS!

Mine did over two months later, I was fine all along then bam!