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Now if that doesn't beat all. Can you imagine the grievance of that write up? That poor person won't stand a chance of overturning that write up if they happen to let one during the meeting!!!!! HA!

It is all about the kid and what is in her best interest. I doubt if any rational person would conclude that being raised in poverty would be in her best interest. Married fathers are always presumed to be the father of any child that comes from a marrage. It isn't exactly like returning some pajamas for a refund. Ya, I agree that is sucks for the man to find out that his wife was sleeping around and that he was duped. However, the girl is the innocent party in all of this and she should not be punished. I am sure that his name is on the birth certificate as the father and if he can turn off his love for this girl because she is not biologically his, then I don't feel on bit sorry for him. Just think how many men never help support their children in any way and get away with it. Shouldn't we feel just as outraged for the mother and child in these situations. Life is not always fair, but not supporting a child that grew up believing she had a daddy is not fair either. It is only money and it will end when she is 18

Viridenscence, Your friends just have not gotten to the same place as those of us who have chosen WLS. We have all been through countless attempts at a million different diets, then finally came to our senses. We all come to this through our own realization and nothing anyone else said or did made any difference. We can only control what we do, and not anyone else. Your friends may someday decide on their own that what they have been doing isn't working. I wish them lots of luck and the same to you.

Ya, you just can't make up stuff like that. That was hillarious in such an other wordly way. I have no idea which world because that guy was definitly mmm...shall we say unique??? My fav was the girl from Allentown Pa with the glitter covering 90% of her body. "and if I could legally moon ya, I would" but her a$$ was so skinny, it would not have been a proper moon anyway, just a pale sliver.

And there in lies the problem! Priority # 1= Eating, good taste, feeling a full tummy = pleasure. It always goes back to that. It isn't that I don't have other things that I really enjoy, it is just that eating and food always works it way to the top. But thanks for reminding me that I need to focus on the things that I enjoy that are not self destructive and will give me the most pleasure in the long run.

I wish there was something that would motivate me to a good diet and self control. But I am afraid that I am a hopeless case. Way too much a a hedionist to practice either. Have I mentioned that I was banded almost 2 years ago and I am still fat?

There are also excerpts from Susan Wicklund's book in the latest issue of More Magazine. It is very well written and it really hit home to me the reason why abortion must never be made illegal again. Honestly, it made me cry to even think of what women would have to go through if their bodies are ever again held hostage to anyone but themselves.

Stand your ground. If he doesn't beg your forgiveness on bended knee with the moola in hand, kick his ass right out the door straight on over to his bitch sister's house.

Me, me, me!!!! I got pregnant when I had an IUD. They can get slightly displaced and lo and behold, preggers. I am not going to go into detail about how it happened, but it did and I got pregant, which of course, I didn't want to be.

My choices of addiction are very limited and that is why I think that I still cling to the food thing. Alcohol, not predisposed to it and don't even think about it. I will have a drink on rare occasions to be sociable. Shopping, haven't lost enough weight to want to buy many new things, plus I have a closet full just waiting for the lbs to fall. And I live with a pack rat husband so I do not need any more junk. Gambling---way to sensible with money, plus witnessed firsthand the devistation on self and family. Sex---post menopausal..enough said. What else is there? I have become attached to this and other WLS boards out of necessity and for recreational purposes. I need to become addicted to self improvement. That is going to involve exercise and I find that impossible to wrap my head around.

My resolutions this year are pretty selfish but I have spent the last 37 years devoting my time and energy to my kids, husband and Mother. So 2008 is for me! I want to be more productive and creative Unfortunatly losing weight is still at the top of the list. I want to lose 50 lbs this year. Rather aggressive for me since I have only lost 50 in about 2 years. I am going to take better care of myself in every way. I am 58 now and I need to hold back time in a serious way. Get rid of clutter in my house, my body, my mind, my job and my relationship with my husband. Happy 2008 and good luck to all.

If that turns out to be true, I am so pissed that a beautiful animal had to die because of a stupid human. That stupid human sounds like he was doomed. Too bad he had to take that tiger with him.

None of those cooking broads bother me. I don't watch the food network much, but I used to turn on Lidia's Italian Kitchen for my mom to watch. My mother was the best Italian cook and when she got dementia, she could no longer cook but still thought she could. I was a vicarious adventure for my mom. Lidia is much more authentic and not as grating as the others.

There always has to be at least one bitch. Either it is the ex wife or the new wife/girlfriend. In my case, it was the new wife. I could not have cared less about either my ex husband or his new wife, but they both revelled in trying to make me miserable. My advice is to not let her get to you because that is exactly what she wants to do. Rise above it.

When I am in my right mind, I am a very subtle flirt. If I feel an attraction toward someone, I will almost avoid them at first so that they will not pick up on my feelings. As I get to know someone, I will just be very nice and reveal things about myself that I wouldn't with others. If I were single, I would have them over for dinner, and then.... But basically, I do not flirt lightly.

Bullies thrive on the internet. In real life they would be confronted and backed down. On the internet they just keep coming back like the monster in the movies that refuses to die. It really isn't even worth confronting most of the BS that goes on here. Getting mean with people seems to be a form of stress relief. So when the bully bitches get fired up, why not just let them get in out. I really can not take it very serious when things get ugly. It is mostly very laughable.

I have done just about everything as far as creative hobbies. I don't have much time, but I do manage to organic garden, and because I have to cook anyway, I do gourmet cooking. Right now I am making jewlery.

There is absolutely nothing easy about this. I think this whole lap band process is extremely hard. Dealing on a day to day basis with a whole new way of eating is challenging to say the least. While it is an aid in keeping me from overeating, the other aspects of banding are very difficult. Otherwise why would we all be here trying to figure it out everyday? Taking weight off by any method is hard. Keeping it off without serious intervention is impossible. If it is the easy way, would someone please tell me why anyone in their right mind would want to make it any harder! There are no guarantees that even surgery will work in the long run. I don't give a dead rat's ass what anyone thinks of my method for "trying" to lose weight. If I could lose it and keep it off I would be pretty stupid to get a device to put a strangle hold on my inards to keep me from stuffing myself. And I am not stupid. It is a fricking shame that people no longer live natural lifes and have an adulterated crappy food at their disposal. We have to resort to artificial exercise and making choices that are not always easy. Why make it any harder than it already is?

green, finally something we disagree on. John Edwards is just the finest piece of eye candy out there. I would just love to mess up his hair a little and he would be even better looking. I don't know who I will vote for and I will never tell anyway, but there are many reasons why I don't like any of them all that much. But I must say anybody will be an improvement.

Lindata, Banjo? Arkansas?......Strains of Deliverance going off in my mind, de da dum dum dum. Be careful out there girl. Yes, of course you can be my friend and we can also be Green's friends, cause we think she is so so funny!!!!!!!

I go to the Maryland Eastern shore alot and I have always loved crab. My Maryland crabcakes 1lb fresh backfin crabmeat 1 beaten egg a heaping T of Mayo Old bay seasoning, don't overdo dash of dry mustard blend it all up without breaking up the lumps of crab too much enough flour to lightly coat the patties that your form, kinda messy brown on both sides over med heat, takes about 5 mins on each side. Makes about 5 Douse with hot sauce and lemon.

All of my friends are eccentric in some way and are very funny and fun loving. We love to laugh at the absurd things in life. I also like it when someone knows a lot about a subject that I am interested in. I like silver tongued devils who can woo me with wit and charm. I don't enjoy being around normal boring people. I like creative and resourcful people. I like big picture people. I feel comfortable around emotional outgoing people who are not afraid to be tender and open. If you are funny and quirky and open minded then you can be my friend.

I think there are lots of negative posts. But two things: Some people who have not been banded yet and bandsters who have not experienced problems and are doing well, tend to ignore or be in denial that problems exist. And people who are having problems and are not happy with their band experience are actively shut down by some folks who just can not identify. I am speaking in generalities. I think there is plenty of support to go around for those who are doing well and those who are not. But there is always going to be a faction on either side who do not want to hear what the other side has to say.

Yup, that is pretty disgusting. Dirty old men and alcohol are a pretty grissly combonation.

The world is a terrible place. Yes, it is torture The masterminds and aggressors in war should be tried as war criminals, as in nations that practice geniocide and other atrocities. Torture shouldn't be sanction by any govt. If it is information that is wanted. Give the prisioner a deadline to cough up the info, If they don't, or the information pans out to be false, try them, find them guilty, kill them. This would not be applied to legitimate prisioners of war, just terriorists. As to the question of saving lives, I have mixed feelings on that. Because if it were someone attempting to or who had harmed a loved one of mine, I would have no problem making them suffer.