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I heard on the radio today some speculation that Helio and Julianne might be an item. Seems like they have both broken off their engagements, wonder if there is any truth to that. Something about dancing that makes people want to get naked and dance.

I stay sick of Chrismas and have such a feeling of relief when Jan 2 rolls around. I would love to cancel it, and have tried in my meek, meager way, but it is just too overpowering. I just stay away from the things that make me really crazy and stick to the things that I enjoy. I came to the conclusion years ago that it is a necessary evil. I think people need some motivation to interact and stay busy during the bleak mid winter and Christmas is what has evolved. I know I would never see some members of my family or hear from others if it were not for the obligitory cards and visits, whether or not that is good or bad, I don't really know. I do enjoy exchanging token gifts and a nice party with my friends of over 30 years. Now that I have a grandson, I love buying him "lead infested" toys. I love a delicious traditional White dinner on Christmas eve with my immediate family, but I hate things with deadlines in general. I just refuse to let it make me crazy and look forward to the end of it. But I Celebrate it anyway, because to fight it is even more of a hassle.

Now here in the States where I come from, "eh" is kinda like a "so what", "forget about it", "I don't care" kind of statement. Said with a shrug and a half disgusted smirk on your face. Ya, Green is fatally cool eh?

Now that was a good one.....:hungry:

I would tell hubby that you can't, sounds like a perfect excuse to me!!! I can think of a million other ways to get protein and vitamin C. Just remember, it won't be on your clear liquid diet.

I am just freely expressing my impression. And yes, I will readily admit that I can be imature, it keeps me young. But it is what it is. But I seriously doubt that you haven't heard anything similar since high school. This board and others are full of high school banter, and not just from me.

There is no easy answer for this. Some parents are child abusers and should never lay a hand on any child because they have no control over their anger. On the other hand, I have swatted my kids in frustration from time to time. One unplaned swat, not a planned spanking, beating or corporal punishment as they called it in school. I think a law like that could really become way too complicated. Where do you draw the line? Is a frustrated parent who swats their kid on the butt guilty of something that needs intervetion by the govt? There are parents who are abusive and they need to be stopped, but I would hate to see a law like that become so invasive that a loving parent who swats their kid on the behind would have the police at their door.

Since this is a public forum, I assume that it is fair to say that anyone who comes to this section has the right to vent in their own way. What is all in fun for some wasn't taken that way by others. So they posted their opinion. Why should they be told to ignore, shut up or that their opinion doesn't matter. It isn't like the criticism was for some unrelated group of people. It was for the people that come here to post and get help. Or is it that they are not members of the club and therefore they don't matter? Everyone should post whatever they want here whether they are newbees or old hands. But when one group is ganging up on another, it is only natural that the side being ganged up on would have something to say for themselves. Or do they just tuck their tails between their legs and scamper off to some other section of this board where they feel more welcome?

You know for the life of me, I can not figure out why people would get annoyed over the same questions over and over. Just because an answer was posted 2 weeks ago, doesn't mean that it is easily accessible to the person doing the questioning. If it is a question you don't want to answer, just don't. When I started posting over 2 years ago on another board, I was totally new to internet communicating and message boards. Never had a desire to communicate with strangers. But when I was contemplating the band I could see that I was in a whole different world. There is no figuring this stuff out on your own. So I needed to ask questions. I asked on the board and I did research. I was amazed at how helpful and understanding people were. It made me feel good about being part of a lap band support board. I am a person who likes to figure things out by themselves and I really didn't ask questions that I thought would make me seem dumb. Well I figured out that LOL meant lots of love. I would answer very serious posts that were no laughing matter and sign them off LOL. No one ever said anything but I thought that sometimes my nice supportive posts were not going off so well.....Only later did I learn that it means Lots of Laughs! And Yes this is harder for some folks than others. Some people lose weight with the band better than others through no special effort of their own. Some struggle for reasons they have no control over and they just plain struggle because they are addicts and are sick of dieting. It is a rather rude awakening when you find out that the weight is not pouring off the way it does for some. Now I realize that there are people who diet and exercise there asses off after they are banded. I wish I could do that. I am taking the scenic route. I don't complain about being a slow loser much because I realize that I am not doing everything that I could. Does it make me a bad undeserving banster. No. I don't do dangerous stuff like force myself to puke or eat until I hurt. I followed my Drs. post op orders and then some. I make the wrong choices, lots. I am a food addict. I don't apologize for it, nor do I want sympathy. I am what I am. I am working on it, but I am a very stubborn case. I just wish people wouldn't justify being snide, cruel and condescending in the name of being "right". It sometimes seems like they just like making others feel stupid. What good is ones exerience if they are giving it out with a holier than thou attitude? Yes sometimes people need a kick and some honest assessment, but it can be done with grace and class.

Reporting in for the big booty faction. Baby's got back for days on end. Boobs are the same, tummy is way down, have a defined waistline now. Just makes my butt look all the bigger!!!!

Oh if you want to see something seriously creepy, Wayne Newton is about to dance on the final show. He reminds me of the Holloween monster, you know the one from that movie with Jaimie Lee Curtis. Ewww, he is so ugly. Sends shivers down my spine. There was a bit of a Canadian twist, Celine Dion was on and sung a song. Eh, as you say up North. When I say eh, it is kind of like a dismisive shrug I am sure you look marvelous with your face lifted up a bit. I am too poor for any PS, so I will continue looking baggy. Maybe I will spring for some dermabrasion when I can't stand it anymore. Hubby likes older women so I am good for a few more years.

Green, I think she is our age, give or take....But I keep wondering if she has had any plastic surgery because she looks great for an old broad. If she has had any, it is a very good job. Scarey spice is a good dancer and I wonder if her boobs are real because if they aren't, she had a good boob job. I just hate the ones that look like flesh covered tea cups. I gotta admit, I love Dancing with the Stars. It makes me feel like I am getting some vicarious exercise. Now if I could just get my fat ass up off of the couch and and hustle it around the living room for real.

Except for not enabling him, there isn't much you can do. It is his issue and unless he wants to do something about his weight, there is nothing that you can do. You can not change anyone unless they want change. Continue to work on yourself and hope that he will want to please you by being attractive to you and healthy for both of you.

Children are very resilient. Just focus on healthy talk and not fat talk. Sounds like you are doing the right things with her diet and that is the important thing. Kids that grow up on a steady diet of junk food are really at a great disadvantage. Give them the good stuff and they will always want to eat healthy most of the time. Tell her she is beautiful and healthy and don't even use the word fat.

It took me 9 months and 4 aggressive fills to get restriction. It is also natural for the body to plateau after losing a goodly amount of weight in a short period of time. Patience and determination are key.

Dating just sucks. I have always hated it. Either you like him and he could care less or you are being pursued by someone you are not attracted to. I actually prefered being dumped to having to dump someone. I never liked hurting feelings and found it easier to get over being dumped than to get rid of someone I just wasn't ga ga over. Anyway, I think it is hard to meet up with the right person so you just have to be pragmatic about it. Unless someone is crazy about you and you feel the same, why bother. You can't make someone love you. You just have to move on and keep at it untill the right one comes along. Keep working on yourself and feel good about you, others will notice.

Pinenuts are better than Grapenuts.

I think countries should be able to refuse entry to anyone for any reason. They should just apply it equally across the board to all, from any country. I liken my country to my home. I have the right to refuse anyone entry into my home and I think countries should have the same right. I think citizenship should have it's priveledges, and if you are born in a country they are stuck with you period. To be fair NZ, or any country, for that matter have a right to only admit healthy people. The bad thing about obesity is that it is kind of hard to hide. If you are a smoker or an alcoholic, that can be covered up as long as it hasn't started to effect your health. So if you are fat, you are screwed.

Green, I can so identify with being an old fart. I think we need to form our own "Old Fart Club". We can have great big glitter siggies that say 'Old Fart and Damn Proud". All like minded old farts are welcome.

There is a book called "God's Brothel" that goes into the LDS groups that live in the Southwest. I believe there is also some sects in Canada. I highly recomend the book. As practiced by these sects, it is a totally disgusting way of life. It is womanizing, incest, child molesting, phyical and mental abuse, welfare fraud and more, all under the guise of religion. Being legally married to more than one person is against the law, but these people are commiting real crimes whether they are legally married to more than one person or not. Love the title of the book by the way.

What I want to know is who will be milking all of those rats??? What the hell was Paul McCartney thinking???

This Thanksgiving DH and I will be celebrating alone. Mom is in a nursing home in another State. Oldest Son is on vacation in Brazil. Middle son and grandson are going to the inlaws. Daughter in NYC will be here for Christmas but not TG. Sometime over the weekend I will go see my Mom. She doesn't know what day it is anyway. They are all the same to her at this point in her life. So DH and I are going to escape to our condo at the beach for the long weekend and get in some much needed R&R. I have so much to be thankful for. My gorgeous, talented and healthy children and grandson. My sexy hardworking husband, the fact that I am near retirement and my good health. I am a little bummed that it is so frickin hard to lose weight even with a lap band. I keep trying different stadegies and keep pushing on though. I am extemely grateful to be an American, we are blessed. There is a great Documentary about the first Thanksgiving called Desperate Crossing on the History Chanel. It was absolute hell, amazing that any of them survived. Happy Thanksgiving to all

I live for the day after New Year's when it is all over. I wish we could just cancel Christmas just once!!!!! I like the holidays where you dont have to cook, see any of the relatives, buy presents, or eat 3 lbs of cream cheese. I like Columbus Day, now that is my kind of holiday. A day off from work and no "family" to deal with.

You have a right a duty and an obligation to break bad on your husband instead of reaching for a hot fudge sundae. pizza, Fuhgehdaboudit!!!!!

I met a lady who had just come back from visiting the region and she said that by far, the people of New Zealand where the most charming and nicest people in the whole region. America once had an immigration system that kept out people who would cost the govt. money. It was called Ellis Island.