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nina874

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    What are your favorite, but hated Stereotypes...

    I hate it when people look at my lifestyle, and then get jealous and bitter and act as though I dont know what it is like to struggle. I started my own business with my sister, when we didnt have a pot to p*ss in and risked everything, and yes it paid off big time, but that doesnt mean that I have forgotten what it is like. So I guess the stereo type would be that rich people have no idea what it is like to go without. The other doozy that drives me demented now that I have handed control of the company to my sister and become (in theory) a silent partner/SAHM , is 'so you dont work then??' WTF???!!! Have you ever tried to look after 6 kids , all their freinds, 4 dogs and a house this size???? Give me the office ANY DAY!!!LOL My sister gets wound up by people who try to box her off, she was a hetro woman who fell in love with her (hetro) best friend, but they both still find blokes attractive, but everyone calls her gay - she has loads of gay mates not got an issue with it at all - but actually they are monogomous bisexuals. Oh and people are always shocked when they meet them cos they look like barbies, she always laughs and says 'what did they expect??' Big boobs = low IQ is another one that cranks me, me and sis have slid some tough conditions into contracts that blokes didnt even read before they signed on the back of that one..heh heh heh! People addressing all money questions to DH -cos obviously I am just the little lady !! HAH Hmmm I am sure there are loads more that annoy me, I am easily annoyed!!LOL Nina x
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    What are your favorite, but hated Stereotypes...

    :heh::heh::heh: LOL I am with you on that one!!! Nina x
  3. Hi all, I hope that you can give me some help here. Before I even had surgery I asked to speak to one of surgicare's (my clinic) fitness experts. I specifically asked him about using my power plate, and he went away and rang back to tell me that 1 week post-op I would be fine to use it. I asked him about all sorts of exercises and basically he told me to listen to my body and build it up. I have merrily been using my plate, doing my crunches, a bit of light weight training ( I am crap at cardio, but I am joining a gym next week) and now looking at the posts on here I am worried that I have dislodged my band/stopped it healing properly! Surely I would know if I had???:confused: HELP if I dont work out my weight loss will stop - I know what my body is like - and if that happens then I will get negged out - I have to stay in the zone if you know what I mean :faint: Nina xx
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    Do You Agree With Brad ??

    I think if people live good lives - and by that I dont mean as laid down by a codex somwhere - just plain old fashioned looking out for other people, respecting others, trying not to hurt anyone etc etc, then all of us would get on a lot better. I have friends of every colour and religious belief system, and I know total ass**les of every colour a belief system, people are people, the rest of it is just window dressing over their true personality. Nina x
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    judgemental people......

    I know what you mean, and the slimmer people are the more likely they are to start talking about diet and exercise!!! Here in the UK weightloss surgery is not common at all, so I get comments like 'well you arent REALLY fat what are you risking an operation for?' Ummm let me think so that I dont get even fatter and then make the whole op more risky and have evn more to lose' DUH!!!! Just ignore them you will have the last laugh! Nina x
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    When is your 1st fill?

    My first fill is Nov 26th and it cant come soon enough!! I can eat huge amounts, I know cos I lost track one night while we were all eating cottage pie and I had scoffed LOADS!! I have no restriction at all but I coping with will power - well I am not pigging out. I am working my ass off and trying to stick to high Protein, but I must admit I feel very much like this is just another diet at the moment! Hopefully after the fill I will be ok...... Nina x
  7. Lainee - I was banded in Manchester UK did you buy a post care package or do you pay for your fills when you need them? I would be talking to them about breach of contract if you have signed up! If you havent then go to another clinic for your fills. Nina x
  8. Ouch!!! Does she know nothing about the band???? I was told not to expect to lose any weight til my first fill and if I did to veiw it as a bonus! You see the glaring fact that she seems to be missing is that if we found it simple to stick to a protien shake diet we wouldnt have handed over £8000 to them now would we?? Keep strong hon I am in exactly the same place as you are and it SUCKS!!!!! ((((hug))) Nina x
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    Humiliation

    The answer to that one of course could be 'but I can lose weight, what are you going to do about your IQ?' What I have often found is that they who are most likely to throw the stone, are least capable of dealing with it when it is chucked back in their direction Keep your chin up hon, and like Marnie said you will have your moment when you have lost weight ( which you will) (((((((hug))))))) Nina x
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    Share with us: What has improved for you?

    :eyebrows::eyebrows: ROFL!!! Ok you win!! LOL
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    Should I have to

    Yes Green , get those piccies up. I on the other hand both look no diferrent and lack the techno know-how to load them Nina x
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    Should I have to

    I didnt mean that bit, that was fairly to the point, I meant how the argument kicked off, and I still believe that there has been crossed wires earlier on that lead to this. Please dont get mad at me, I hate people flaming each other, especially on a support board.
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    Should I have to

    Oh and before I put on my asbestos suit, I love seeing all the people at goal , if noone on here was at goal I would be pretty depressed about the whole thing. And much as I argued with Jach I have actually taken a lot of what was said on the other thread on board, I guess I just like to play devils advocate! Just one more... I promise... if it werent for the pictures that people post I would stuggle to ever visualise what a HUGE difference it makes, so please keep your piccies up all of you. NIna x
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    Should I have to

    I am just a bystander in all this, and I can see why all sides are getting irate, cant we just all agree as adults that we are getting over sensitive here? * please dont flame me it is hard to see people tearing into each other* This has got waaay to personal, I dont think that Mariposa has been leaving messages, she said how she felt here that isnt the actions of someone who would post anymously is it? Chickie I think you should be proud of what you have acheived, but I havent been here long and I have seen you be a little bit sensitive when it comes to posts about 'skinny' when people are actually talking about themselves,some of the examples used have been people who are openly fighting a battle with an eating disorder, and I know in my case having been borderline ED in my early twenties that food issues can go both ways. My DH has expressed concern that my issues will switch so if I say that I dont want to be too skinny I am sometimes skirting around issues that are real to me ( I think that DH is being very sweet really considering that I am a good 5 1/2 stone away from that particular danger ) I think that there is a lot of misinterpreting what people are saying on both sides, but can we agree that either extreme is unhealthy and leave it at that and all be friends again? Come back chickie and lets all start over. Nina x
  15. Elena - Totally! My mums best friend got pregnant in the 60's when there was no abortions to be had, she was 'sent away' to stay with my great gran as soon as she started to show.She had to give birth to her little boy in a mums and babies home nurse him for 6 weeks and then sign him over for adoption.She also was given no choice and she also is madder than a bag of snakes. I have had many friends who if they hadnt chosen to terminate would have found themsleves on a very different path - at least 2 of them with violent partners that due to the 'rights of the fathers' would have treated them the way that they treat the women that did have their children........ As it is harsh though it sounds, I dont think any of them ever regret the choice, they all have good lives, most are happily married with kids now and I haven't heard them mention it for years. Again though it comes down to the central principle NO-ONE should have the right to make that choice for themselves taken away from them, I think that Elena's friend wouldnt be struggling half as much if she had made a choice HERSELF whichever way that had gone, it is the fact that she didnt have a choice that torments her, just as much as your friend who was made to carry the child, it is all about having the right to make that decision youself. Nina x
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    Emotional issue and I can't eat!!

    Hi tulip, First of all a huge ((((HUG)))) Infertility is such an awful thing to deal with, and it does impact on your relationships with other people. You might want to try posting on iVillage.co.uk: The website for women , they have a big section on the message boards for fertility and I found them to be a great comfort when I was going through a hard time. On the food subject, I cant think what would help,what about a nice flavored sugar free popsicle, but it is ok to cry you know, I think that sometimes we use food to almost numb ourselves to things that are upsetting us rather than acknowledging that it is ok to feel that way. I hope that your infertility problems can be resolved hon. Nina x
  17. You mean you dont actually blow???
  18. :clap2::clap2: PAYBACK!!:biggrin1::biggrin1: You and my DH would have lots in common :hippie: Nina x
  19. Hi Elena, I agree with everyone else, at this stage blame isnt going to help her. I would try to explain to her how much her mum loved her, and that it was a very different time then, when there was an enormous stigma attached to unmarried mums. You must have seen instances where her mum did all the right things, try to remind her of those and maybe she will accept that her mum was trying to do the right thing for her. I agree that counselling would probably really help her, there could be all sorts of issues tied up there. Nina x
  20. I love the insights too, kind of makes us more than just a lap-band! Boarding school...thats a bitch...DH got sent to one in Kenya when he was 6 , ran away into the shanties in Nairobi twice - lors I love that man he hasnt changed a bit! You have reacted the way that my sister did, I went one way she went the other, but both the same thing really, she was scared of screwing a kid up, I was determined to do it right, talk about opposite extremes! I am sure that my teenagers will have an long list of things they will never do with their kids... My sis always ended up with blokes that wanted kids and she used to say when you find a way to carry it, give birth and are willing to sacrifice your whole career to look after it I might think about it. I think that emma (her GF) might just give her a run for her money! Nina x P.S Glad to hear that I am not the only person that Prozac numbed from the waist down!
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    How much should I eat?

    I think that you should ring your surgeon, I didnt have any difficulties with liquids, and only being able to swallow an oz and sliming could mean that you are still very swollen inside. I would let him know what is happening, you could get dehydrated and then you will feel really ill. Hopefully it will ease up as the swelling goes down. NIna x
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    First plateau...

    have you been spying on me.....? I have been known in my youth to adopt the plyer approach to jeans. Not for the faint hearted.
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    First plateau...

    I should amend that to say the tape measure never lies...... unless you pull it really tight...ehem... not that I ever would.
  24. We dont have medicare here but I suppose I could use the NHS as an example. I actually had a very good friend die I feel as a direct result of the management of her VMO program. She was never offered any type of surgery,she weighed 400lbs+ and she had mulitple co-morbidities, instead she was put onto a LIPO TRIM/Cambridge diet type program where all she could have all day was 3 shakes and Water or black coffee.......she was on it for 18 months. She was monitored by the hospital and they had agreed to do a tummy tuck as she had an emormous apron that caused her all sorts of health problems, only they gave her another 3 months to lose even more weight.As the time got closer she panicked, it was summer and surprisingly enough for England it was hot, she didnt eat anything for 4 days and started having breathing difficulties. She had a massive heart attack and died in the back of the ambluance, she had 3 little kiddies and the eldest was only 10. Do I think that she should have been offered weight loss surgery on the NHS? Do I think that she might still be here today if she had? Yes yes yes! She had worked her whole life until her weight issues made her too ill to be able to walk anything more than short distance, the NHS let her down and now a beautiful soul is dead and her kids have no mum. Over here if you want PRIVATE banding you should have a BMI of 35 with co-morbidities, or over 40 without .Although I had severe reflux I still had to sign pages of legal work to cover the clinic as my BMI was only(!!) 36.8 at my initial appointment! The shysters will always want something for nothing, but a lot of the people who are very morbidly obese did work and contribute, and being brutal, it will probably save the government money in the long run. Nina x
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    First plateau...

    I spoke to my trainer about this very thing yesterday and his words of wisdon were ..... DITCH the scales for a short time, make the tape measure your best friend. You will see the inches coming off even when the scales dont move, as muscle mass starts to increase, he also said to remember that muscle burns fat/calories so the more muscle you have the more you will burn even when you are alseep. He reassured me that it is very common, especially if you like resistance training ( as I do) and that the tape measure never lies! Nina x

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