I'm a year and 2months post surgery and the best advice I can give is communicate all fears up front and be understanding...I wish I had gotten that advice...I lost 80 lbs in the first 7 months and it really screwed with my head...I thought I was going to be showered with affection from my fiancé once the weight began to fall off and that didn't happen..as my self esteem got higher he seemed more distant and the only positive affection I was getting was from other people...and when you are having your ego inflated by other men....it's trouble ....I wish so much that he and I had been upfront about what we were feeling