There is a section on this site for slipped bands. I've read of unfills for a couple of weeks to see if the band will reposition itself before a complete removal. I would contact a different office and ask for advice. I'm so sorry your experience with the band (and doctor) has not been as productive as you wanted it to be. Also, please bear in mind, some people are slow losers. If you get to your sweet spot- you may lose a little more, a little faster. It took me 9 fills to get there and I currently have 3.8cc's in a 4cc band. I am a slow loser (in my opinion) I was banded in 10/07 and have lost 70lbs. I am ok with that. I am 70lbs less than I was a year ago! The weight is coming off, just not as fast as some other people.
As for your surgeons bedside manner- if you are not comfortable, then you should find a new doc!
BTW- what was the end result with your dillema? I see you originally posted on 9/3/08.
Good luck to you-may all work out well!