leag78

Everyone looks so amazing and I can't wait to have my surgery so I can have before and after pics too.

Hi my name is Lea and I'm just venting. My mom and I were discussing my decision to have gastric bypass surgery and she believes that deep down I don't want the surgery. She stated that she believes I'm sabotaging myself into not having it. We'll here is a little background. I started this journey back in June 2014 and my insurance requires 6 months before I can have surgery. So I originally should have had the surgery in January, but because my protein was too low the doctor would not operate. So had to wait another month to retest. We'll I tried different protein shakes (nasty) and I admit that I wasn't drinking the shakes like I was supposed to, so it shouldn't have been no surprise that my protein didn't improve, in fact it actually dropped some more, and again the doctor would not operate. We'll I'm doing better with getting my protein in, but to add insult to injury I'm still smoking. I can't seem to help myself and I don't know how some of you, who have smoked were able to easily quit. I don't smoke daily, I smoke only when I go to Bingo. Which is every weekend. I'm fine during the week, and I haven't bought my own pack in months but soon as I step foot in that bingo hall with either my sister or sister in law, who both smoke. I end up smoking off of their pack. I give them $5 toward their next pack because I smoke their cigarettes like it's my own pack. I usually smoke about 4 - 5 cigarettes when I'm there. I don't get the cravings at home anymore it's only when I'm at bingo. So 2 addictions, bingo and cigs. Now if my doctor finds this out he's definitely not going to operate because he takes that very seriously, and I really do want to stop so I can have the surgery. I just don't know how. Am I really sabotaging myself?? Because it will be my own fault if I don't have the surgery. If anyone can offer tips on what helped them I'm all ears. And if I can't handle not being able to smoke will I fail at this whole process?? Because if I can't quit whose to say I'll succeed with my new weight loss surgery lifestyle?? Please any words of encouragement, advice, prayers?

I empathize with your situation. I'd ignore the ignorance in the workplace, because it's none of their business what you did. You shouldn't have to explain to no one, and your supervisor would be wrong to tell them. Just keep up the good work and stay focus and remember that haters are gonna hate unfortunately. Stay beautiful!!!

Virginia Beach here

When you say brushing skin, brushing skin with what?

I'm just curious to find out how your life changed after surgery? Did it change for better or for worse?? How are others treating you and are you completely satisfied with your decision to have surgery?? No regrets??

Unfortunately I still don't have a date. I was originally scheduled for Jan, but because my protein was too low I had to wait a whole month to increase my protein to normal, and was looking at a Feb surgery date. Now it's looking like it's going to be March because of my stupid protein still being too low. Went from 6 to 8 months of waiting for a freaking surgery date...smh

@@InspirationMySon, We've been besties since high school almost 20 years ago, so a lot of her actions I've learned to put up with. And yes there's been plenty of fights because of her actions but I've also come to terms that it's just her personality and unfortunately that's a part of her that won't change.

Praying for your speedy recovery

@@Happyfrog4u, thank you for taking the time to answer my post. I totally agree with you and deep down I know that I'll change. Partly because I'm going to be losing a whole lot of weight, a whole person. And I believe that she will not accept the new me, but it's definitely not going to stop me from having this surgery to become a better, healthier me.

@@drmeow, I didn't know that. The surgeon is sending me back to the nutritionist on Monday to get me on a higher protein diet. If my protein still doesn't increase to a normal level then they want me to follow up with my PCP to determine the real cause. And to my knowledge all of my other tests must have came back normal and they only mentioned the protein and my iron being a little too low. So I'm starting a supplement for iron. But no one ever told me about the affect the protein will have on your recovery so I thank you for that. And I'm glad that my surgeon is taking it serious as well.

Thank god for this site because I'd go crazy without it. It's nice to talk with others who understand and have some what an idea of what I'm going through.

Is it just me but does it seem like they make you wait on purpose? They know how badly you want the surgery, and make you jump through hoops just to qualify but they take all day just to call you to schedule the surgery. I had to complete 6 mos of requirements and is now waiting for a date. I don't want to blow their phone lines up, but I really believe they make you wait on purpose. Sorry just venting!

@@Djmohr, thank you! Like you I haven't missed a single appointment so I thought that I would've had the surgery by now, but not looking that way. So I went from having my surgery in Jan to possibly having it in March or early April. Oy!

Thank you for that. I needed to know that I wasn't alone because what really hurts is That I started this process about 2 months before my brother did and he is scheduled to have his surgery 2/11. He's going through a different practice than me. They were going to schedule him for 1/28 but that was too soon for him to get time off work. I thought the reason why his process is going so smoothly is because he has better insurance than my medicaid. I just feel discouraged. @@della street thanks again for sharing your story because it really does help.

Thanks for sharing. That is truly something to look forward to.

Hope all goes well for you. You're in my prayers

Congrats you look amazing

Just an fyi...We all should be taking vitamins anyway. Whether you get the sleeve, bypass, lap band or any other weight loss surgery. We should be taking vitamins. Even if you aren't having surgery you should be taking vitamins. I heard a lot of people speak against the bypass due to one of the reasons being dependent on supplements for the rest of your life, but technically shouldn't we be doing that anyway??? Is that such a bad thing???

That's why I'm just preparing myself for what I already know. She's too self absorbed and I believe in my heart that our friendship will dwindle.

@@InspirationMySon, I've thought about all those points you made. When I say she has some good qualities I'm talking about when I need her she's there. If I ever needed anything she'd give it to me no questions asked. We've been friends for almost 20 years and me call each other sisters. I just don't like her way of thinking, because in her mind it's all about her. If this were her movie she'd be the hero and I'd be the sidekick. I noticed that most of these posts are talking about friends who are also plus size. I haven't heard any one mention that they have a skinny friend. So was I hanging out with the wrong crowd in the first place.

Have any of you ever started the process of getting the bypass and changed your mind and got t g e sleeve??? I'm done with my 6 mos supervised diet and waiting on a surgery date. I originally wanted the sleeve but because I had type II diabetes my surgeon suggested the bypass. I really want the sleeve but fear that it's too late to change my mind. Can anyone please tell me if they've been in this same situation and if so what did they do? Also your opinion and advice would be greatly appreciated.

Those 6 mos are gonna go by so fast. Seem like mine did. I started my 6 mos July 2014 and completed everything this past Dec. I also thought t g at it would take forever, but it actually went by pretty fast.

It's hard to quit a habit that if you're like me you've smoked for years. Especially when there are triggers, like going out for me, and home life for you, and those triggers sparks up the urge to smoke, no pun intended. ..lol...but you make a decision to stop and you find yourself falling back on old habits or making excuses as to why you back slid in the first place, like myself. But I'm only human and although I've been smoke free for about 2 weeks now, I still think about smoking, but then I think about how badly I want the surgery and I'm back on track. That's what's been helping and lots of gum chewing...lol

Originally I chose the sleeve because I wasn't really feeling the whole bypass thing, and never thought twice about the lap band. After my first consultation with the surgeon he chose the bypass for me because of me being a type II diabetic and high blood pressure. Wasn't happy at first but after speaking with the surgeon and doing my own research I decided that maybe the bypass would be a better option for me.