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So how do you handle eating with others? I can fake it at parties buy just mingling with a plate with some food, and drinking virgin Vodka Cranberrys But I have some smaller more intimate events coming up like taking a friend out to dinner for her birthday and a brunch with two old co-workers, and a small company team dinner. We also have large family dinners at least 2x's a month. I have been able to play off not eating by saying I have some stomach issues, IBS, and the good old "im on diet, " but im afraid of what is going to happen with these more intimate situations. Doing something not related to food with my friends is not a realistic approach (I can't eat but they can!). And I need to learn to cope with these situations. I haven't told anyone about my WLS surgery other than my immediate family. And to be honest I'm still dealing with my own issues on this - feelings of selfishness and failure for not losing the weight on my own. Right now I'm on my Mushie week, but next week I'll be on soft foods. I can't eat more than a few tables spoons without gettng painfully full. What has worked for you?

I agree with you cuttlecake. At brunch I saw my friend eyeballing my plate. I could have dismissed it as me reading too much into things but at dinner people did speak up and comment on my lack of eating. Hopefully I'll learn to brush it off.

So today was the day. It didn't go great but I survived. I had a brunch AND business dinner. So at brunch I asked my daughter to share a meal with me. But I still could only eat two bites. I feel like it was noticed. But no one commented. Then I had my work dinner. at the pre dinner hour I nursed a glass of wine and nibbled on a bread roll. The bread roll went down very easily. And I spread eating it out over an hour. Everyone else had starters. I was envious. It was a fancy restaurant with smaller portions. When it came time for our meals I ordered a small plate/appetizer of scallops. I don't know if it's because I'm barely out my 3rd week (mushies) or the bread or wine or all 3, but at scallop #2 I had to excuse myself and vomited in the bathroom. My fellow diners noticed that I wasn't touching my expensive meal. I blamed it on my brunch earlier and they ate the rest of my meal for me. As dinner ended I couldn't excuse myself fast enough to go be sick again. I just feel like I'm still to heavy to justify me not eating to my friends and co workers. I mean I obviously didn't get my figure by nibbling a few bites here and there. I wouldn't even east so little if was dieting Now that that this is over I only have a happy hour date and one more company dinner to navigate this month.

I had surgery with Dr. Joya at Amerimed Hospital in July. The Dr. And staff were wonderful. The nutritionalist Natalie speaks fluent English as does Dr. Joya. And the hospital is newly remodeled, immaculate and very comfortable with around the clock staff.

So I've had few lunches with coworkers. I managed to eat a 1/4 of a sandwich. I took one extra bite and I almost died. I ate 1/3 of a cup (not bowl) of split pea soup today. But this Sunday I have a big dinner with coworkers. I was an appetizer , 1/2 a bottle of wine, meal, and dessert girl. I wonder how I'm going to pass off eating two bites of food. Oh and I know its taboo, but I have discovered that vodka and cranberry is tolerable. Just one is all it takes now.

Kissifur. I agree with you 100%. I will take the lowfat alternative when it doesn't contain preservatives or additives to make it. Like nonfat milk. But I will use butter not margarine and sugar and honey not sweeteners. What is the point of having this surgery and then dumping carcinogens into your body. So I'll have that soft drink once in awhile. And I'll make sure it's sugar sweetened not with aspartame or corn syrup. :-)

I am 3 weeks post op...and dying for a coke. I am comforted by the thought that I will eventually be able to have a sip of one in the future. I know a few people with WLS who drink Soda and wine (months and years after surgery though). I just would not advise it all before your tummy is ready. I had a sip of mineral Water and it hurt!! I can't even drink them if I tried right now. That taught me and I think I will wait a good 6 months before I try again. The upside is I have now banned soda's in the house and the kids will benefit. And I miss beer too!

My Surgeon was Dr. Armando Joya, at Amerimed Hospital in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. He was great and the standard of care I recieved from the hospital and staff was beyond anything in the US. He, the other surgeons,and the nutrionist all speak English. I would highly recommend him. I had around the clock nurses (usually 2). My stay was 3 days and 2 nights. My cost without the hotel stay was $6,500.00

Had my surgery on 7/21 at Amerimed Hospital in Puerto Vallarta by doctor Armando Joya. I'm 35 and have been curvy/plump my whole life. The last five years have seen me go from plump to outright fat. I'm 4'11 and XL sizes were getting snug. My mom had been hinting at me that I needed help. I knew I had to do something I realized when my neck and chin were so fat I had neck sweat and it was physically bothering me. Yet my BMI was only 35, not enough to be covered by insurance. So I went the self pay route. I conversed via email with Dr. Joya and the nutritionist and along with the questionnaire we decided on the sleeve. I had lost about 10lbs on preop diet when I went in and weighed 160. The day of surgery I met with Natalie and all my surgeons. They were so nice and respectful of my fears and concerns. I was so nervous they couldn't get the IV in. The 2nd surgeon took over and joked with me a bit to calm me down and used a smaller needle and the IV was in!! I woke up a few hours later and was taken to my private suite. Comfortable beds. A seating area for visitors. Flat screen TV. Squeaky clean. Nice large bathrooms with towels soaps and shampoos. It was like being in a hotel room. The nurses were amazing. So kind and attentive There in a minute whenever I called. After the anesthesia wore off I did have pains and nausea and some vomiting. I was up and walking to bathroom right away though and it did ease the pain. I was out on the 3rd day at went to recoup at our family home. I walked on the beach went on a boat trip (no swimming) and was fine with only some minor discomfort and needing to take a daily nap. Now I'm back home and been at work since day 7 post op. I'm very tired some days. B12 seems to help I started full liquids but I always feel "hungry" I can't tell if it's in my head, acid reflux, or real hunger. That is disappointing. I'm my head I still feel as if I could eat a horse. I also have pains when I drink anything thicker than water And I've only lost 5 more pounds. This makes me want to cry. I'm hoping it will get better. I won't be hungry. I can insider stand what my tummy is telling me and most of all - that pounds will start dropping.

Thank you for your post. I went into my WLS feeling so guilty that I was crying in the pre op room. I was worried that if something happened to me people would say "she was so selfish". I have a child of course it worried me that what I was doing was putting my life at risk for selfish reasons. But as your post stated - I've always lost the weight but never kept it off. And I was suffering from PCOS, back pains, bladder issues, planter fasciitis, and I'm sure the list would had only grown. Having a lower BM I'm finding weight loss after the surgery has not been easy. And to me that justifies the struggle i had before surgery. If I have to work hard at it now with my most if stomach gone -how would I have ever succeeded naturally?

Thanks all. Intellectually I know these things but emotionally it's hard. One thing that is good is that The pounds coming off slower after surgery validates me in the fact that I was having such a hard time losing weight preop. Also I have to look at other positives. I could button my jeans today without it hurting. :-) I can start seeing my jawline again. (TMI) I was also having some bladder issues that have improved with the lost weight. No knee pain today either.

So good to know it's not just me Yes I'm on the omaprazol 2xs a day. I will be on once a day starting tomorrow. It's just these "hunger" pains that are discouraging me, but it's good to understand that once I start on more solid food that I should start feeling satisfied. I'll hang in there. What choice do I have. :-). And I'll take the advice to stay off the scale. I was actually feeling happy because my snug clothes are actually fitting me as they should. That got me so excited I went to jump on the scales and then disappointment.