Stevehud

You need some psychological healthcare. Simply sounds to me like you weren't ready for this and jumped into it way too fast. Too many people don't really think about the consequences of what this surgery means. See a counselor or psychiatrist. You have made some HUGE misstatements. You say you can never eat a healthy portion? and you've done so well, knowing what a healthy portion is, in the past? Healthy is a lot smaller than you think it is, otherwise you would not have been obese to begin with. This surgery takes the fun out of food, with good reason. Food is what you live ON , not what you live FOR. This may sound like I am uncaring but I care a lot more than many might think. This surgery saved my life, no even more than that, it has given me a life to spend with my wife and friends. A whole new world has opened before me, and it can for you too. That life does not include being addicted to, and to run my life around, food. Think about it, and go talk to someone.

So i was talking to my PCP, yesterday and He asked me this question. "what is the biggest thing you've learned about yourself since the surgery?" It is a tough question. Thinking about it, I would have to say, that I Don't need food to be happy. How would you answer that question?

So here I am 4.5 months post op and I started having chest pains about two weeks ago. I was hospitalized in the ER for two days while they ran test to rule out heart issues. Which they did. then i went home and for a week felt great, then it came back with a vengeance. So now though i have a cause and effect. Eating whenever i eat or even drink to some extent, this pain comes back. it radiates just under where my heart is . ( which is why we had to rule out cardiac. It throbs but does not increase with inspiration or expiration. So my surgeon is setting up a cat scan for tomorrow, and we shal see. thankfully i dont have any fever or localized tenderness or anything that would indicate a leak. Im hoping for some erosion of the esophagus perhaps, or something like that. So my question is, anyone else dealt with something like this, this far post op? And no its certainly not heartburn or gerd. lol I wish.

the single most blunt reply i can give besides stepping on the scale at my doctors office and breaking the 400 pound barrier. I was having a hard time ( no pun intended) with sex, physically, you had to sort of guess at location and aim, if you understand what im saying.

Absolutely wonderful I applaud your great accomplishments both academic and personal. After i got my paralegal degree, all my professors went nuts when i told them i wasn't going on to law school. Sorry but a 44 year old law student sound a bit..wasteful. and I really couldn't afford more student loans. lol I'm extremely happy to see you do well and make your goals a reality. Very Well done indeed!!

lol true probably not a hint at all. i should've said, here's an explanation put bluntly, that would have been more appropriate.

So, as many of you know i recently had an issue with chest pain radiating to the back/shoulder blade are. atypical type pain for a leak or stricture. After a stay in the ER and a nuclear stress test cardiac problems were rules out, a ct scan showed enlarged abdominal lymph nodes, which brought up the cancer word. I had an endoscopy a few days back that showed no abnormalities, no stricture leaks or ulcers. But i still live now daily, with this pain, which is very hard. I have been doing as much research etc as possible and am leaning towards pancreatitis or stones of some kind, i don't have my gallbladder but evidently you can still get stones in the bile ducts. Now i've started getting very lightheaded, especially when moving from, say a seated position, to a standing one, or vice versa. I dont think I am dehydrated. I try to drink as much as possible. Has anyone else had to deal with these things. While I am losing weight etc, these issues have taken a toll on my physically, mentally and emotionally. Any help, or suggestions would be appreciated.

Simple put , it is all about money . Dr H has a vested stake in the SHOW continuing, and any way they can make their investments keep paying off, is what they will do and say. I love these doctors that act like altruistic saints, until you find out they have a book or two to sell, or a tv show to shill for. It is all about the almighty dollar, Dr H gets a cut from the show and the camp and he will seemingly do anything to keep those interests lucrative and producing. By the way Dr H has been linked and associated with steroid abuse among athletes, specifically while he was team physician for the Oakland Raiders. He was called to testify several times before congress on steroid abuses and has been linked to several steroid scandals. The man is a quack , plain and simple, and will advocate anything for a buck.

it happens to us all, i posted in the ladies room once. thankfully i was only laughed at a bit. lol

there are many vegan Protein shakes that use wither hemp protein or ben protein etc. these are lactose free and a godsend to people who have lactose issues. You can find many of them online or your local Vitamin shoope or Vitamin Shoppe online. Good luck!

i had a handful of doritos at a superbowl party. while i didnt have any ill effects from them, but, i put myself into a 5 day stall. not very smart on my part.

you cannot chug anything, nor take huge gulps even or gulps at all, you have to train yourself to drink slower. And be careful with talking about leak tests etc. Many surgeons do not bother with such a thing unless there is a suspicion of problems or other complications. Every surgeon/medical group is different.

actually there are several interviews where she says she hopes to gain much more weight and that people lie about fat being unhealthy and how many other things like that. do a google search you'll find them. No one is saying you should loathe yourself by any means, but the idea that you should just accept being fat and embrace it, is great for your psyche and for talk show hosts but your psyche wont help you fight off diabetes or heart disease or the myriad other issues including discrimination, shaming, mobility etc. Im not advocating hate, im advocating help. if we can make the help available then more people may take on the task of getting healthy and less people will die at a young age because of their weight.

I think the problem i have with this woman is that she claims she is healthy and the lifestyle is healthy and she pushes the lifestyle, i have no problem with plus size models or people, but promoting it as healthy, well we all know the real face of that. Denial aint just a river in Egypt. We've all been victims of denial, and enabling, there are many very large women and men who model sexual fetish sites and the like, but making money does not make it healthy. We know it, we live it, we are fixing it. She can live her life, and It won't affect me either way. The truth is not debatable, we are a part of that and yes, the truth hurts. The days of the Fat happy person stereotype should be washed away. too many people suffer and die needlessly, we know with help, you can retake control of your life, we are all examples of this, ( some more than others, thank you for leading the way) The food addict is no different in denial from the other addicts who are just fine and dandy with being addicted. When i was a smoke ( 17 years ago) i used to say " hey I like being a smoker, I enjoy my cigarettes, no one is going to make me quit if i don't want to.". In truth that is just me deflecting from my addiction. I did the same with food, "hey i enjoy my food, i could be a drinker or take drugs, its just food.." I think most of us know where I am coming from. So in the grand scheme of things, is she hurting me? No. Is she hurting herself, that's a different story entirely.

lol love it, I had to go in for a nuclear stres test recently and between the meds they had me on and the radioactive tracer dye, my wife told the doc she was upset i didnt get any super powers...Then again i was upset too. sigh. lol

First , great questions, ones id like to know as well. and secondly, great job getting there man, every success in achieving goal, helps me get one step closer.

we grew up with bozo the clown, Also we had willie whistle who didnt really talk... well kinda.

i do use a spanx undershirt, i have some sagging issues no doubt, i use it mainly as a smoother to smooth out those areas i dont like to accent. lol i also just buy underarmor compression A-shirts and buy them according to size to do the same type of thing. you can get a waist wrap or a tummy control brief, i find them a bit too restrictive for me. but it might work for you.

Ill clap for that breakthrough!! way to go!!

i always loved salads, now that being said , my salad choices were not healthy, the old ill have the chicken caeser salad with 1600 calories of dressing lol. i havent been able to tolerate lettuce as of yet although i havent tried iceberg, but romaine, bibb and boston are all way out.

I have to agree with Alex. But I will say don't put so much stock in calories as a label. Put your stock in grams. that is, are you getting in enough bulk Protein to nourish and maintain proper muscle growth and retention, as well as basic cerebral and general bodily functions. You have to have enough protein to not only fuel your body , and compensate for the loss of carbohydrates and glucose, but also to facilitate the proper muscle growth and maintenance. If you dont , then as others have said you will burn muscle as well as fat, and you wind up in a stall. Think of your body like a construction crew and a demolition crew, each one works on the building that is your body, if you have 10 people building the building, and 20 tearing it down, who will win? the demolition crew will. So if you have more people building than tearing down, you will gain muscle. Good luck, and you can do this.

ahh i took some roast beef sliced and threw it in a pan to warm it sprinkled some cheese on it and a little pico de gallo salsa, and bang wakeup tastebuds.

thats sugar free italian sweet creme is my godsend. that stuff has made coffee so good. although my nut limits me (sleve0 to one medium iced coffee per day, which since i dont even finish half of it. is fine by me.

a. What am I doing? Getting healthy b. Do I believe that I can get to the mental state that I will need to be successful by August? We all had to make changes, you can too. c. How will I still be able to attend to my husband's physical needs while I am recuperating from surgery? Seriously , if his needs interfere, tell him to beat it..pun intended. d. Am I being unforgivably selfish? Dont you deserve to be the best you , you can be? e. Is it a mutilation of the "temple" (body) that my Heavenly Father has gifted me with? e.1. Of course, my temple has been unfit for the past 30 some years as I've gained and gained and gained. God helps those who help themselves. f. No diet or miracle pill has worked well since my teens when I turned bulimic, why should this? This isnt a fad nor something you can simply stop, its a lifestyle change. g. What if the surgery brings back my eating disorder? g.1. But it can't, can it? g.2. I mean, you HAVE to eat each meal; you can't skip one because of the need the body has for nutrition. You can sabotage anything if you truly want too. You have to want it. see the mental state question.. h. I won't even be able to participate in the monthly Fast Sundays for Church anymore. Now, that is a bummer! Youre regular lifestyle will kind of be a fast. you will make sacrifices others can only dream of. i. What if it doesn't work? Make it work. j. What if I can't maintain the diet needed to succeed? If youre not ready for it, dont have the surgery ( again see mental health question) k. What if all my hair falls out? Get your Protein and Vitamins and keratin in and youll have no problems. Besides when your skinny , short hair looks great! l. I won't be able to cook & bake anymore! Of course you can, just dont gorge on the results. You can also develop new recipes and baking dishes that feature healthier ingredients m. No more chocolate?!? AAAAAARRRGH! Says who? just cant have it every day or a lot of it. you are changing your lifestyle not going to jail. You can do whatever you wish to do, if you decide to put in the effort.

you dont want to swap addiction for addiction, but for me I spent those times i would normally just boredom eat, with new hobbies. I now play guitar and take guitar lessons. I go to the gym. etc. i write, I do my blog, etc. lots of things you can do to kep your mind off of food. Do i miss food, heck ya and I always will and there are many days i wish i could just eat normally, even e\ating healthy but a normal portion and then I have to look at how much I've lost and how far I have come and I am okay with it all. It will be harder I am sure more months down the road when im at goal and just maintaining, but ill cross that bridge when i get there. You can do this.