I'm so sorry that they are acting like that. I just had my sleeve done 9/23. Without the support of my husband and mother it would have been difficult. I went thru the entire process and did not tell anyone but my husband until my surgery was scheduled. My sister also was not supportive. No reaction positive or negative. She acted like I said I was going for manicure. The night b4 surgery I actually cried cause she didn't call, text or email me. Good luck. I hope they all come around.