Inner Surfer Girl

Agreed. www.oa.org

You say you want specific action items and every response to your post includes some very specific suggestions. It sounds like you are taking positive steps by seeing a counselor. As far a specifics related to WLS, you have also been given lots of great advice. I would reiterate and expand on what I said in my first post: learn as much as you can about the process (ie, reading, attending support groups, etc.), focus on yourself and your own journey/actions, and consider pre-marital counseling.

Oldies but goodies I recommend from HBO: Deadwood and Rome. I can't believe no one else on here watches Justified. The last season started this week but if you haven't seen it before you need to start with Season One.

You seem to be really fixated on calorie restriction. May I suggest that you talk with a counselor or therapist? Since you are asking the same question over an over it is obviously preying on your mind.

It's not just the TV. Back when I was a regular at the Y, January was awful: no parking, crowded locker room, etc. once February rolled around everything started to go back to normal.

Acorn TV also has classics like I, Claudius, Poldark (there is going to be a new Poldark on PBS this year), Brideshead Revisited,etc. As well as lots of other British shows that never made it to PBS.

I wasn't shocked. It had been so long since I read it that I didn't remember most of the story but I wasn't shocked.

I am a fan. The first Agatha Christie I ever read was Curtains (I picked it up to read at my grandmother's house. If you love Poirot, Miss Marple, etc. you might want to check out Acorn TV. I watch it more than Netflix.

Are you seeing a nutritionist now?

Justified

I tried to read through most of this but found it difficult going. Paragraphs are our friends! You asked, so here is what I think. His journey is his journey and your journey is your journey. You can't control him anymore than he can control you. Since you are engaged and living together I would suggest you consider individual counseling for yourself and couples pre-marital counseling together. It's great that you are learning as much as you can about what he is going through. You can be loving and supportive while respecting each other's boundaries.

According to the commercials, this week's episode is Penny's update.

Two series that I found surprisingly fascinating were: Long Way Round and Long Way Down.

I love documentaries, too. A couple of music-related ones that I recommend: Don't Stop Believing Muscle Shoals

You have answered your initial question. -- You aren't getting your protein or exercising.

Looking forward with my date with Raylan Givens tonight!

Wallander (the Swedish version). For the person who asked about Call the Midwife, it's outstanding but keep a supply of hankies handy.

Don't wait for friends or family to volunteer. They may want to help but not know what you need. Have you asked for something specific (ie can you drive me to the hospital on Monday at 6:00 am?)? Do you belong to a Church? Churches are another great resource. Don't be afraid to ask for help.

I have a problem with mobility but feel much better when I exercise and know it is critical for my success. I was able to get in the pool this summer but since it is cold I had to find something I could do. Also, I am still pre-op but once I have surgery I won't be able to get in the pool right away. I got an exercise peddler from Amazon and peddle with my hands when I watch tv. I started using it for 5-10 minutes and now have a goal of at least 60 minutes every day. I am actually having fun pedaling. If something like this sounds interesting you might want to check with your dr and see if it's something you could do with your limitations.

I am baptist and we use grape juice and bread or cracker. With our portion size I can't imagine that it would be a problem since both are so tiny. I will say that up to now when we do have communion after that small amount I crave grape juice all day...

I think she meant "food", not "good". Go to www.oa.org for information about Overeaters Anonymous, meeting lists, etc.

Yes, I like Premiere. You won't know if you like it until you taste it.

I don't think you have to demand this. My surgeon said he removes all he can but they can't get it all.

CowgirlJane. Go for it! You could start with a church choir or community chorus.

Definitely go and check it out. Consider going to different meetings at first to experience a variety. OA has helped me with my insane relationship with food and more generally with life.