CandySmooch

This wasn't really embarrassing but more funny. We have to wear dockers and polos for our uniforms at work ( I work in a 911 Communications Center) I have so many pairs of dockers over the years some of them wear thin. I was at the vending machine alone when I bent down to retrieve my Hostess Cupcakes and I heard a rip like no other! Sure enough I went to the bathroom and completely blew the ass out of my pants! I just found it ironic that I happened to be bending down to get cupcakes at the time ------is that a sign or what?? Keep your ass off the cupcakes!

First off, I was very upset at people wanting this thread removed - I understand taking the extra precautions but then people kept coming back. Stop reading if you are offended. Some of us NEED this thread. I struggle with bedroom stuff and I need a group of gals who are big like me to talk to about it. You understand what I am going through. I once bought a sexy nightie and matching stripper shoes for valentines day for my boyfriend. I took a bath and put the outfit on and thought I looked ridiculous! I took off the shoes and opted to keep the teddy on but then I went and put my big fluffy pink bathrobe over it. I just thought it didn't flatter me. How silly my boyfriend must have thought after he opened my robe and saw I was hiding sexy negligee' under it because I didn't have the confidence to walk down to him without the robe. I still see the shoes sitting high up in the closet thinking - one day - one day soon I'm going to strap those puppies on with the same negligee and try it again, but right this time. I look in the mirror and from the shoulders down, I don't like what I see - I don't find it attractive - and my boyfriend will be a typical man and make a comment once in awhile about a hottie on tv - nothing crude - he'll just be like dangggggg. In my head when I look in the mirror I think what does he find so attractive about me? If he thinks the skinny girls with big boobs are so hot - I look nothing even comparable to them - so why is he with me? Yes I have a beautiful face and I'd have to pick my face as my sexy feature but other than that....... My gal pal who is big also told me if you haven't taken a good look at yourself "down there" then you need to. I said how? She said put a mirror on the floor and straddle it and take a look. Mmmmm, not such a good idea - I'm disgusted by my body so how can my boyfriend not be? I have numerous scars on my thighs and pubic area from sores I've gotten over the years from my thighs rubbing together and I think - I don't blame my boyfriend for only heading south once every few months. If I was a man I wouldn't want to either. My man and I got into a fight one time and I brought this up in anger and later he told it wasn't anything like that - he'd do it everyday if I wanted him to. I believe him. We make wonderful, passionate love - sometimes it doesn't last as long as I'd like - but that happens. Mostly we do the same old things because that's what works, not that I don't want to try, but its too complicated and uncomfortable being this large. I think he understands that because he doesn't push for those things anymore - like I'm noooo good at being on top and I know he'd like this. It's too hard for me to move around at this weight and I feel veryyyyy self-conscious and akward in this position. But I will when I get some weight off. Thanks for reading - and anyone who is offended can kiss my big toe - I'm a big girl with a healthy appetite for sex who has some problems and needs someone who understand to share with.

Yes I too am a sloooooooooooooooooooooooowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww loser. And I mean slooooooooowwwwwwwwww. I was banded May 24th, 2005 - lost 8lbs right after surgery during the liquid phase - gained 4lbs back before my first fill July 7th. After first fill - felt no more restriction - only lost 1lb before my second fill Aug. 31st. He filled me too tight and I lost 2.5lbs in one day and a 1/2. He took .5cc out - which I know was too much because now I'm back to not much restriction and NOT losing anymore weight............ So total weight loss in 3 1/2 months - 8lbs I was soooooo sure I'd be the one to drop 30 right out of surgery. Nope - I am literally one of the slowest losers I've seen on the 4 forums I belong to. I'm hoping my next fill will get me to the sweet spot that everyone speaks of. I've got a long way to go to. Not as easy as I thought it'd be - whoever says "oh she took the easy way out and had WLS" - is full of dooky and in my book is about as worthless as a poop flavored loli-pop! I've had to work for my 8ln loss and that's really nothing to brag home about either! Good things - like staying fuller longer. Like not having to heap a full plate of food to satisfy me. Like asking my boyfriend to take 1/2 the food on my plate (let him gain a few pounds lol) That's all I can think of for now. I will tell you - that the bad things we're not supposed to eat will go right on down smoothly - when I was filled too tight and couldn't eat solids - I found that oreo Cookies went right on down - no problems. I still battle the sweet tooth - somehow I don't feel satisfied until I have one sweet treat a day whether it be a candy bar or a couple cookies or a piece of candy. Before being banded it was nothing for me to hit the vending machine at work 2-3 times during a 12 hour shift for something sweet. Now I rarely do. That's everything I can think of - hope it helps!

Why should she have to beg and grovel - I'd be flat out TELLING the Dr. I'm keeping my band for now until I deem a decision otherwise and please go ahead with the Gall Bladder surgery and we'll discuss removal of the band at a later date. Why is he pushing so hard so soon when he doesn't have proof that its the band causing problems - I'd be getting a 2nd or 3rd opinion - I understand you like and trust this Dr. but they are not always correct and that's hard to realize when you like and trust someone so much - if he pushes for the removal on weds w/ your gallbladder - I'd tell him flat out you'd like a second opinion before he removes it - if he has a problem with it - then so be it - don't let the fact that you searched through 5 different surgeons to find this one - there are others out there who can help you. Dont' let that stop you I'd fight to keep it for sure at least for awhile after the gallbladder or he could prove w/ evidence that it is the band for sure!

My dietictian said I could have tomato soup and crackers in my liquid stage. Said the crackers would be carbs and would fend off the hunger more. I lived off of tomato soup and crackers my first week or 2. I also had a mexican soup with very thin noodles she said would be ok - think it was called Videl? Its all individualized - I healed very quickly and my appetite came back full force before my first fill I had gained 4lbs back even though I was eating 1/2 as much as pre-band - go figure - that's something I'm still having trouble with - I'm eating 1/2 as much but the weight is coming off sooooo slow - it's so discouraging - going to try to some yoga soon on top of walking.

I also am a loving bandster by Dr. Sanchez - he's wonderful and very affectionate. I've never had US dr.'s run up and hug me in the first meeting. I had nooooo worries whatsover - the worst part was the plane trip from my home in Kansas City - KC made me miss my connecting flight in Dallas! Everything else was a breeze - even the language barrier at the hospital stay is not that bad - Dr. Sanchez's team will give you a cheat sheet with common requests for you to relay to the nurse in Spanish. They were all wonderful too. His private guesthouse where you stay before and after surgery is very cozy and nice - the back patio faces the beautiful mountains in Monterrey. my cost was $900 deposit to reserve surgery date - $7000 upon arrival and the cost of your own airfare rountrip. which mine was $500 so total of $8400 and he gives free fills for life - you only have to pay for the flouro which is like $100 but I can get fills here in the US for $100 so I don't go back to MX. Everyone you deal with from start to finish with his team is superb! I filled out an application and Judy called me the very next day - everyone else took up to a week to call me back. His website is www.ready4achange.com if you have any further questions please PM or email! Will be happy to assist.

I'm also wanting plastic surgery when I'm done, but hoping I don't need it (proabably will as I already have a hanging stomach, but it doesn't hang too far maybe 5 inches or so) but I was told that a good plastic surgeon wouldn't touch me before I lost ALL the weight and had children - which makes sense - why have all that work done when your going to screw it up having kids? I'd also like a boob job - uplift and possible implants if that will make them stay perkier longer. So I'm 24 now - I'd like 2 kids - have 0 now - so before I can begin to show off a beautiful body after plastic surgery I'll be into my 30's which is disapointing because I wanted a naked nice figure in my 20's.

I used Dr. Sanchez in Monterrey - he was wonderful total cost was $7900 plus $500 airfare - he's done over 5,000 surgeries w/ minimal complications and no deaths. I like that he owns his own private guesthouse where you stay before and after surgery (u only stay in the hospital one day) and arranges all transportation. It was oddly enough a very relaxing experience - his back patio faces the beautiful mountains. I took a roll of pics to remember it. He did not require any weight loss prior to surgery and I was 293 - bmi 48

Interesting - thanks for the info - looks like flintstones it is!

Everybody's different. I have experienced only 1 that I would consider a full blown PB. But I don't get as much saliva as everyone else describes. I've had the painful ate to fast and have to give it a few minutes, but that's not so bad. But let me share my first experience shortly before going to full solids after banding - this was a bigg no no, and I was stupid to think it'd be ok. My sister throws a BBQ - and no one in my family knows I've been banded besides my mother, step-dad, and my boyfriend. I figured she'd be having hot dogs and hamburgers - now grant it I felt very healed and hadn't had one lick of problems with any other foods - soooooo I show up and they have nothing but smoked BBQ'd ribs - not the baby back that are lean - but the fatty ones. I put one on my plate and figured I could pick around it - I purposely had not eaten that morning so I could get at least a little salad or something down and not be so obvious. That rib looked & smelled soo good, and it really was soooo tender I thought'd be ok and it was before I got some fat - I tore off a tiny piece and ate it - went down just fine - another 2 bites - ok - 4th bite had a little fat on it and BAM! I immeditaely tried to be discreet and handed that rib over to my boyfriend and he just looked at me and asked what? don't like it? I quickly shook my head and he knew something was wrong - I told him I'd be right back and I went into the bathroom and was doing lamaze breathing for a good 10 minutes! I had tears in my eyes and breathing was the only thing that got me through it - I just remembered what my friends had said - it only has 2 options - to go up or go down - you just have to wait it out and see what it's going to do. I breathed and breathed and breathed - put my arms up over my head and paced in the bathroom. I believe that is what everyone calls a PB and that was my only bad experience thus far. Like I said - I've felt really uncomfortable when I had a too tight fill and ended up throwing up for the first time - but it still never compared to that rib bite I took and I will never forget that!

Damn - I just went through my closet and donated all of my plus size clothing to other plus sized friends and then what was left to Goodwill just a few days before Katrina hit!

I would but I'm at work and they have a block on chat rooms. Got a question though - what kind of multi - vitamin do you take? And where can I find these liquid vitamins at?

I too had "last supper syndrome" - I was eating like a queen my last few weeks hitting every favorite restaurant I had. My last night was at a buffet - and actually that was it - one last hoo-rah - now when I go I just have a salad & breadstick or something although I was bad tonight and ordered a crab cake that i'm sure was loaded with fat and calories Funny, I remembered it used to taste better.

I second Princess - well said! And I can't wait to receive my catalog!!! Boyfriend had issues with me owning a vibrater so I got rid of it towards the beginning of our relationship because it made him uncomfortable. But NOW!!!!!!! I've been working on him for 2 years now trying to convince him that it is NOT replacing him, but enhancing our sex life as a couple together. JUST last week - he said he's listened to what I've said and has agreed to get one! BUT he wanted to be the one to pick it out since he'll be the one using it on me and he didn't want it to resemble his male member - I am completely ecstatic over this as I only used my vibrater for clitoral stimulation anyway - it felt unnatural any other way and I didn't like it. I've heard about the little butterflies and bullet shaped ones that back a lot of power. We'll shop around the catalog and awayyyyyyy we go! Soooo 2 years later and I'm getting a vibe again - I can't wait!!!!!!!!! This was a huge milestone in our sex life together! Also can't wait to get all this weight off so it will be even better and we can do more things that I'm not able to at this weight - like somersaulting off the ceiling fan in the bedroom LMAO - teeeheee !!!!!!!!!

THANKS - i've got it figured out now - this thread can be deleted by a moderater now.

How do you get the cute little weight scales that everyone has on their signatures? I WANT ONE! Too cute! Can't find them anywhere.

Is there anyone who can help me with the ticker factory? I have made up my ticker and tried cut copy pasting all 3 different codes they give you and they just keep showing up as the codes - no scales - I have the current one from tickercentral but I don't like it. I must be doing something wrong but I've tried everything I can think of. Anyone?

I had a body fat % done right before surgery and I was at 53% - not a good feeling knowing over 1/2 your body is pure fat - but I'm right there with ya sista! I've only lost 8lbs total since being banded so I'm a slow starter to boot! Hope to get the scale moving so I can get that body fat % down too - hand in there - your not alone!

k, got the one to work off of tickercentral - but liked the ones better off of tickerfactory - couldn't get that one to work and did the exact same thing - any other suggestions? it's the html one right?

Ok I made mine up and pasted the code into my signature - can't figure out how to do it and there arn't any instructions ???????????

I am soo glad I'm not the only one. When I first started researching the band and read about slow losers I was so confident that it wouldn't be me - well now that's kicking my in my ass! I was self-pay banded and would do it again. The funny thing is that my food intake is drastically less than pre-band but still not any significant weight loss - that still boggles my mind! How can that be? Anyway - I was banded May 24th, 2005 - lost 8lbs within the first week or so. Gained 4lbs back before my 1st fill of 1cc on July 7. Lost 1lb after that fill and just had my 2nd fill of another 1cc on August 31st. I lost 2lbs in 2 days at 2cc because I was too tight so he took .5cc of that fill out and now I feel just like I did before my 2nd fill so probably not going to lose anymore until I get a little more back in. I'm thinking I need at least .3 put back in before I can start losing. Soooooooooooo in a little over 3 months it's been a struggle for my 8lb weight loss - I thought it would go faster but hope my next fill will get me going - God knows I felt the restriction at 2cc but that was too much - I wasn't able to get down solids at all - that's how I lost 2.5lbs in 2 days. Time willl tell

Hey shag who did your surgery in Mexico? I had Dr. Sanchez. I'm just wondering if I will have a problem and i've heard of a lot of people having to have a port revision - what's the deal with that? I have Dr. Malley as my aftercare and thank God he was able to locate the port right where Dr. Sanchez said he had it with minimal trouble. I just had my 2nd fill of 1cc for a total of 2cc but then I was tooooo tight so he took out .5 so now I only have 1.5cc in my 4cc band. I think I need a little more back in as I don't really feel too much of a difference with only the .5 I got. I've only lost 8lbs to date, but Dr. Malley said at least we know the band works (in reference to me being too tight) since he doesn't have flouro we haven't got to see the position of the band yet.

Yes I found out some more info on another local Missouri Forum - no one knows for sure. It was not a happy ending and MWIBS is really doing a good job at trying to tarnish his reputation. They are telling several different patients several different stories about Dr. Malley. And yes someone else mentioned the no compete clause and he might have to move his office to North KC.

Well I located Dr. Malley - apparently his nurses and receptionist left with him and he's started his own practice that opens next week. They are moving into his new office which is still in Overland Park, KS just a different location - so if he has a restraining order to practice medicine (which I've never heard of a restraining order to practice, that's just myself though anyone else?) then he is taking a huge risk by opening his own practice and being so pubicly open about it. Dr. Malley's nurses were excited I had heard about his new practice and are going to be scheduling my first fill soon. I had told them I wanted to see him a few months ago but they had pushed me onto Dr. Lopez which I didn't really want, then a few days before my fill I get the letter stating they were charging $2,000 a year for patients who didn't have their lapband with Dr. Lopez/Malley. Dr. Malley is not charging that $2,000 a year in his private practice. I am excited to see him, he is the only Dr. I've found in the area who hasn't given me grief about going to Mexico. His nurse said it doesn't matter if your band was in Mexico or Tennessee - he accepts all patients. I haven't actually met him, but I've only heard great things about him and now dealing with his staff - I feel like a prayer has been answered for me as I didn't get good vibes after dealing with several other Dr.s. I will keep everyone posted on how it goes, but they are calling me on Friday to scheudle my first appointment.

Interesting - I would really like his new number to see if he's taking on mexico banded patients like he was a 2 months ago before they put that crappy policy in place. Also interesting to find out because I got hooked up with Dr. Lopez also because the institute really pushed him on me - they told me that Dr. Malley's case load was too high so they were giving all new patients to Dr. Lopez. Please if anyone gets his new number soon - please email me candysmooch@yahoo.com or send me a private message on here! Thanks!