CandySmooch

oh this is great everybody! keep em comin - nice to meet you all and your lifetime partners. My Bambi says welcome !

I think you look hot!! I would say got for another 10 possibly but nooooo more than that - forget the 29 for vanity - you look great - maybe another 10 if that's what you want - then I'd say your done with weight loss! Congrats!

For me my first fill did nothing - my second fill did too much - had a partial unfill and now just a little better than after my first fill. Its not an exact science so you may not feel anything and will need to schedule your 2nd fill in a month.

Which one is the "Just Like Me"?

I was the one who calls my junk Giblets - thats my own personal name for mine but one of my girlfriends and I always call it our "Chachee" - pronounced like Joanie loves Chachee - I don't know how to spell it because I wasn't old enough when the show was around. So if anyone knows the correct spelling please feel free to correct me. Boyfriend calls my twins "Big Boob MaGoo" - I still laugh every single time he says it! He calls his "member" Stanley - how original right??? Sample sentence with girlfriend "Oh the ol CHACHEE wasn't agreeing with what was going on last night" Or "I'm pissed off at the CHACHEE, Aunt Flo came early and CHACHEE missed some lovin" sometimes we shorten it to just "CHACH" example - "So I was shavin the ol' CHACH last night when........" I have another girlfriend who calls here boobs - BUPPITS and her southern region NOONOOS - she always says BUPPITS AND NOONOOS. She also calls her tampons the OL' ROLY CANNOLI'S. I've always just referred to oral sex as "Going Downtown" or "Went Downtowm for a ride last night" What a great thread to bring smiles and laughter - come now spill the nicknames!

Good to know about the "Like a virgin" - I don't have a problem with it right now but later on in life that might change - so good info to keep

Wow that's great. I also was looking at the "dolphin" but I decided against it because I just wasn't sure that small dolphin would be able to handle the job - but apparently it does??? I went ahead and ordered the X-Scream in Buttercream and Finger Fantasy....I'm only interested in giblet toys as I feel like the internal stuff is completley unnatural to me, that's why I also considered the dolphin and since you recommeneded it I might try it next time. So does the tiny dolphin dance like a mad hatter or what? I need some major ooomph in my toys! Thanks for sharing

I'm still contemplating on whether or not to schedule another fill. I think I've lost a pound or 2 - but just when I'm ready to make an apointment for another fill then something will happen where I'm like well there's no way I could get more when I feel like this now..........so it does happen and I'm in the same boat - to fill or not? Maybe I could just get a small one. Maybe that would help.

I am a large frame or big boned. The smallest in my adult life at age 18 was 230lbs and I looked hot - I still was big - but I was very muscular but I still had a tummy althought that was it - now at 285 where I am now - I have a tummy, thighs, saggy boobs, and flabby arms. If I can only make it down to 230lbs which was the smallest I ever was - then this surgery would be worth it to me. I think the perfect weight for me would be 180-190 although I'm shooting for 165 I think that I would look silly at that weight - but who knows? I have my father's frame and he was very heavy and so is his entire side of the family - but I did carry it well until the last 2 years probably when I've gained so much. Now you've got me re-thinking my goal weight. The only doctor who never made me feel bad about being overweight was the only one honest to enough to tell me with my frame and height that 200lb would be about right for me. All the other doctors said "according to their charts" I should be 150 at my heaviest - I have not doubt at 150 I'd look anorexic. I think I'm going to re-consider my goal weight - I only chose 165 so I'd have room to play with - but maybe I'll change it to 175 - that seems a bit better for me for a goal. I was mentally thinking 175 is too close to 200 ---- ok let's go for 170. that's only changing 5 lbs but mentally I think it will movitivate me more.

Robyn, please keep us updated on how your doing. Hope all is well and each day gets easier for you!

This is soooo true - I feel sorry for the ones being calcium deprived from no Ben & Jerry's once in awhile. This is such a funny thread! I will ponder on this for awhile and report back in when I can think of some more to add!

Best of luck! Keep us updated - we're here for you!

Donali - thank you for sharing with us - I know it is not easy for you to post about it. What causes erosion?

My surgeon gave me a receipt and a letter stating what I had paid because they did tell me I would need it at tax time as a write-off. My mom paid for my surgery so I will give her the receipt and letter for her to file at tax time.

Kare you crack me up - hell yea I'd be the first to boot out a rabbit! But we'll be here waiting if you run out of steam. VINES - thank you so much for being so honest with not only us but also with yourself. Stop countin those calories girl and get off the scales!! I don't count and I don't own scales maybe that could contribute to my slow weight loss, but I refuse to become obsessed by my diet. I try to make healthy choices most of the time and practice moderation. I too have pb'd on Peanut Butter...........ahh the one true love of my life makes me soooo sad and I miss him soooooo. I can usually eat a teaspoon of it plain - but on toast or a loving PB & Jelly???? FORGET IT! It just ends up wasted. You are not alone and here we are all together squishy arms and big butts to boot UNITE! HEAR US ROAR! We're going to do this all together everyone!

i am Schindlers List and Mother Theresa

Take a deep breath .........here I'll do it with you ........ready???? Innnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn andddd ouuuuuuuuuuuuttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt. Relax - you are doing this to be a better mother to your son. To be active in his life. I will pray for your safe journey. Best of luck! I went to MX too - everything was wonderful. You'll be back before you know it!

it will be in 2 weeks I'll keep everyone updated

Regarding other men other than the one's we're committed too. I would never cheat on my man.........but let me tell you there is a what if fantasy I like to keep alive with a firefighter here at work. I am a 911 Dispatcher and this man is so so fine! We've been flirting for 6 years now and back when I was single we had actually talked in depth about hooking up but it never happened. I will tell you it brings me such joy when I run into him though. He's usually affectiionate but not overly so. He'll hug me goodbye, or touch my arm, and we flirt with out words, but that's as far as it goes, but boyyyy do I like to share my encounters with my girlfriends of him. But that's as far as it goes and I like to keep that fantasy alive wheras if I acted upon it - it would be over eventually. This strong strapping young firefighter with dark hair and blue eyes - makes you melt everytime and he's always been interested in me ever since I was with one of his friends for a moment in time back in the day. But I do lust over him........I can't keep from saying it but he is FINE FINE FINE FINE FINNNNNNEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!! He's the type to make you thank God your a woman! And I'm sure he'd be a wonderful lay, but not much more than that. I still cherish the encounters because it makes me feel like the sexy woman I am - sometimes you lose a little of that in relationships - not that my man don't think I'm sexy - but receiving that from a different man knowing your taken by someone else and its not causing any real harmful temptations..........more power to it........his name is Mark and maybe I'll start posting our little encounters - they only happen hit an miss but boy do I think about him for a long time afterwards. As long as you excercise control when it actually comes to cheating and you know the boundries - I think it just makes us feel young and sexy and there's nothing to be ashamed of - I just wouldn't go home telling your significant other about it!

colonics are like an extreme professional enema - i don't know but i think enema's are only used to clean out whats down the canal area where the colonics actually go up into your colon area - I could be wrong - that was just my impression - like enemas are only temporary cleans - dunno

Nope there are many of us Fluffy Gals who hide in the never-ending closet of My Pants Don't Really Fit Anymore so let's try to see if we can make them look like they do. I totally didn't even know about tucking the flaps back in until another big girl was telling me her pants didn't fit her anymore and lifted her shirt to show me her zipper down 3 or 4 inches with the open flaps tucked back in..........needless to say I was in SHOCK - I said dammmmnnnnn here I've been for the past year just walking around with the zipper down making it look like I've got two simulatnioius growths out of my stomach from the flaps sticking out - making funny pokey things through my shirt! I only learned this trick a few months ago. Hopefully I won't have to pull this trick off too much longer.

we're all here for you. this is a wonderful support system of people who know exactly what your feeling and what your going through. I am not a perfect bandster by any means, but I try a little more each day - and its working for me. I've started just by parking far away from the stores I go to when shopping. gotta start somewhere right? well each day is a new day to start somewhere. as far as your husband goes - gggggrrrrrrrrr how frustrating I know! But when you say its because of your weight does that mean on your part or his? I know its difficult to be intimate when your so big - by the way how big are you? My boyfriend and I only have 2 main positions, at first he would want me to do all these positions that being a big non-flexible girl - it was impossible - he's stopped asking - I think he realizes its not that I don't want but I can't right now because of the difficulty. So what's the issue though ? I understand its weight but your problem or his? And yes with everything else you've got going on - this is one issue that can be put to the side only temporarily because it is an important one. I can't believe 2 years!!! I go without for 2 weeks and I'm sooo bitchy to him! I'm good with sex stuff as a biggin if you just want to fill me in a little more maybe I can help and if you don't want to do it on this thread then please private message me or email me and we can chat that way.

thanks for being so informative!

cindy - your smilies are soooooooooooo freakin cute!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks everyone for your kind support in my time of need! This place is the best!

Hi everyone, I need some support and have no where else to turn. My boyfriend and I unexpectedly split tonight after living together for 2 years. We had been in a cycle of fighting off and on, not that bad, but I really didn't think it was worth throwing it all away over. I really thought we could work it out. He's done, he's made up his mind, its over. He said I knew it and he knew it. Well I didn't know it until today. Our anniversary is next month on Halloween. Halloween will never be the same anymore. I really don't know what to think or what to do, but its really over. We were planning for our engagement in February, we've been looking at rings. I'm just so blown away, I've been crying all day trying to convince him its worth saving. His brother his picking him up in the morning and he's moving his stuff out - he's moving to Branson which is 4 hours away. I will never know anything about him after tomorrow. I don't have an address or phone number to even contact him at and he's ready to move on anyway. I have so many changes that I'm being faced with all at one time, I thought I was a strong person, but now I'm not so sure. I'm so bummed I don't even know what to do. I have a splitting headache and my eyes are all puffy. This is the worst feeling I've ever had I feel like I have no one I was ready to settle down and start a family - nothing will ever be like him. I've never felt I had truly been made love to until I met him. We had such a passionate relationship, not like any of my other relationships, I was so sure I had truly found my soul mate. I'm so sad, I don't even know what to write about anymore here And on top of that I haven't ate or drank anything today - I'm trying some chicken right now, but my band is being a fickle bitch too. I'm feel like I've just had a tight fill.