blondebomb

everyones comments are all over the board. heres my 2 cents for what its worth. sounds to me like he is definitly insecure an I also think maybe this is being used as the excuse or should I say this is the icing on the cake..like maybe there was already unresolved issues before the surgery? you dont have to answer that...when men (sorry men I dont mean to stereo type y'all) but when my hubs gets irritated an something on his mind thats serious an he doesnt know how to bring it up (which your actually went as far as really hurting you I feel bad for you) but mine will say something an blurt it out an then we cool off come back an talk about it heart to heart. can you draw him out any? I know your hurting emotionally. that was really mean ..I dont want to plant ideas in your head ...so I am going to stop right there. sounds like he's angry bc you are trying to better yourself an leaving him behind I dont know you nor him ...how about couples therapy to get this talked out? just throwing this out here. I believe in marriage an the vows take it seriously. none of us are perfect an in our insecurities we say things we really dont mean. I sure hope you 2 can sit an have a heart to heart. ...xx

hes def insecure..an he is scared at least it sounds that way to me an he's uneducated on this subject an pride. once he sees this working for you theres a very good chance he'll hop on board. I hate that your dealing with him an this mental an emotional struggle bc its hard enuff going thru the changes you will encounter. some ppl have no problem my first month Im going to tell ya it was brutal on me. I had some days of crying out of no where. I was dying for a pizza or a big juicry hamburger. but I got thru it. my surgeon told me the first months the roughest an it was for me. he said if you can get thru the first month you'll do great! it was right , for me. so please prepare yourself, you'v gone this far your on the right track an you have your mind set an your doing this for YOU! I sure hope it backs off. you might just have to tell him to just STOP an for him to do his loss his way an you will do yours your way. I have 2 dear friends are in their 300s an have been for 40 plus yrs...they enjoy their food(who doesnt right?) we all do! but he doesnt want to lose or change an he feeds her as well an so he keeps them so called "happy" that way. but I dont say anything its none of my business. when ppl decide on their own when to get healthy they'll do something about it. lord I wish I would have done this yrs ago! I am happy for you! keep us posted dear! hang in there! come here when you need to..

I have pred as a back up when Im flaring bad with lupus or fibro pain is out of control but its been 5 months since Iv need it. when I did take it def watched salt intake, it messes with insulin an its a roller coaster. have to make a mindful effort to hide everything an I dont buy the junk to bring in house! I even put the hubs on restrictions..lol..if he had to have ice cream in the house (of course) it is weight watchers. an I keep raw pecans, carbmaster yogurt (kroger) there less then 4 carbs per cup, small apples, cheese stix, always easy to grab protein...I have a love hate relationship with pred..I dont want to use it so I avoid as much as possible but I know some dont have a choice so just watch what you bring in the house I uess is bottom line!

I had the hiccups all the time I still get them just not as often. when I would eat a bit to much they would start or even drink to fast.

pure protein shakes here...I also loved chike products. I also bought a big container of a unflavored high protein gluten sugar free an I would add a teas to everything I drank for the first 3 or 4 months. soups, teas, coffees smoothies..etc

I switched to organic liquid in the B12 and Vit D3, I use magnesium topical oil I started out with the gummy multi I got at natural living then I quit that all together. I do take the tiny biotin, folic acid . the things like counting calories, certain weight goal numbers not briatric protein nor vitamins he doesnt say anything about. its what I already used or use that I have stuck with. had complete BW last wk all came back wonderful. I have a swallowing issue and the fillers that are in OTC vitamins I didnt care to use. the liquid has done wonders an made a differance for me.

I dont do the artificial sweetner, SF nor FF stuff. its either organic RAW sugar for us or stevia . an for the snack bars or nature bars of some organically less processed no more then 10gm real sugar per serving here according to my NUT. an I still dont follow mainstream NUTs much. they are still teaching old school diets an we go beyond. the artificial ingrediants in the SF an FF items make you crave it more..messes with insilun so we just avoid it.my first few wks I did keep the SF popcicles around but I swear after having a few of them I was done. made me really really thirsty.

I took my own meds (I do this instead of waiting for them to bring them) I take them when I need them..I took my own heating pad, gas x strips, chargers,ipad,phone,chap stick an everything else I usually takel I always over pack! but the heating pad, gas x strips an chap stix was my TOP priority..the heating pad really did help me. I put it on my chest after I got in room from PO...

I have always done consignment shops, gw, cato clearance...I have been going down a size a month..every time I turn around Im needing pants! last month I had to put a belt on to keep them up..lol..I never wear belt!! found black ones at cato. we have some really nice resale/consignments around here that I find alot of chico things..I even buy for later on when their that cheap! I do shop for quality. I totally understand the :pants" thing!! haha

woohoo!!!!! congrats and welcome to the new you!!!

at 3 months I was doing well to get in 500 to 600...I noticed you mentioned egg muffin? I realize everyones plan is differant but them kinda carbs the bread carbs are alot of empty calories . I am 7 months an I do well to get 1/2 to 1 egg an 2 slices of bacon for Breakfast. I still get under 800 cal a day.

it will go fast now!! start gathering! congrats!!

have you called an got an app to see your surgeon or talked to your nurse about this? when is your next follow up? I agree with the above I would go back to puree stage an ge protein instead of grabbing the simple sugars however I totally understand why you are. but I would replace this behavior quickly before it really becomes a difficult habit to rebreak again. I am 7 months PO an I only get about 5 bites in at 1 given time. I eat mainly chicken, salmon turkey protein is my first go to. I had some feelings of an upset stomach here an there but it went away. Did you have GERD before surgery? are you on nexium or similar? if you havnt called your dr I would call fri before the wknd an get you back to the softer or puree stage before this goes any further. thats just my input..keep us posted..

just checking in an wanted to say hi to the newbies an wanted to CONGRATS an welcome to the other side!!! hope you took before pics bc you will want them to compare down the road. I only took a few an then started taking a few this wk I needed to see for myself my NEW me now! haha.. simply AMAZING...

I don't hesitate to call! I knew I was approved within 48 hrs of being submitted. in fact when I called my Ins (BC/BS) the nurse who read over my paperwork had just ok'ed an entered it in the system so when one of the agents I was talking to she looked it up an actually had to look else where an then she read it to me..I was so excited an on pins an needles I had to know I knew I wouldnt be able to sleep! I knew before Ins even faxed the approval code to my surgeons office. once the office recieved the fax I had picked my own date and was on the list in less then 2 wks. it will happen fast from here on out! BEST WISHES..

ty for responding I wasn't expecting that. that was so sweet of you to say...I have a follow up app with my phsycologist an I am going to bring up a few things I am struggling with an get her perspective. I had already been thru 10 yrs of therapy prior an dong really well. and with the preop psych classes I went thru they did say this was going to happen so I expected this I just didnt think it would be this intense. its an emotional roller coaster. I started gaining weight at 17 an yo yo'ed till 5 or so yrs ago then the weight just kept going up an up an would not come down even at 500 cal day intake. finally dx with hashis, lupus sjograns an many many other issues including insulin resistance prediabetic with the right armour script great drs finally getting somewhere an steered in right direction. I am soo thankful for them helping me I just need to talk this out an get some perspective on body image. feeling "naked" even fully clothed..haha..the hubs an I talk frank about everything. hes my biggest fan an supporter!

it was a full time job for me the first several months ! the first month I swear was the longest in my life! it was exhausting to drink all freaking day. I agree with ya! I had a few word terms to say the first few months! others do need to be slapped silly when they make them comments! theres no easy about it absolutly!! it took me 4 months to eat scrambled egg, I didnt eat grilled chicken or nothing heavy for 4 months. I stayed with soft things for a while. Im 7 months PO an still only get about 5 or 6 bites an its small bites. I put fork down for 5 or so minutes rest an then maybe 2 more bites an Im done. but I dont care. I will never eat my "past normal or others normal amounts" ever again. thats what got me fat to begin with. so I eat till I feel full an stop. push away an Im done. its very hard. I know. hang in there! its worth it!!

CONGRATS GIRL!!! 1 day at a time...I have another 30 to 40 to go. ya look awsome!

it is the hardest thing I have ever done! agree with @lorimoms it is total opposite! I had tried everything under the sun an nothing worked. my weight kept going up an up! its the best thing (besides having brest reduction 15 yrs ago) I have done for me. I did it for no one else. I was sick n tired of being fat an sick n tired. my hubs told me "it takes bravery strength an courage for me to do this" I am very strong willed an out spoken an very independant. I dont ask for help much only when Im desperate. after 25 yrs of countless drs, specialists , testing etc 2 of my specialist referred me to surgeon next thing I no my life is on track to a newer me! the best was yet to come! it was tough the first month but I got thru it an I would not change a single thing. I would do it again in a heart beat. 7 months PO 105 pds down..THIS IS NOT CHEATING! it would be cheating yourself not doing everything in your power to help yourself get healthy. THIS IS A TOOL to get you there! it only restricts your intake. you make the proper choices an follow the plan an it will work! you still have to change your mind, your thinking, your behavior etc...its a attitude change, working together with this tool an it works! dont beat yourself up. its your choice. do it for you. your health. do your research. everyones journey is differant. an its so worth it. I dont live to eat no more. your taste buds change. your cravings change. its a lifestyle change an you'll do when your ready. I only eat to live. an I love it!! BEST wishes

Hi everyone!! I remember 7 months ago where you are! the wk before I swear I was having all kinds of thoughts! from OMG I will be skinny again! to what the hell am I doing?!! lol..yes I had every emotion an feelings all over the place! my tummy was turned inside out it was a good thing my last 48 hrs was liquid protein shakes period. but I got myself under control the night before I had a firm talk with myself deep down I was going thru this no matter how nervous I was. I had already decided I was doing this. so I calmed down went to bed a descent time got up next morning I didnt have to go in till 10 or so that morning. I slept good. I was a peace went to check in..got to preop got all prepped talked to all drs ready to go in ended up waiting longer he of course was behind. so the longer I waited the more nervous I got. it was just nerves. they gave me some things in IV calmed me down an baby they came an got me I was thumbs up all the way into OR!! I was soo happy! when I woke up I had gas pains in shoulders. tummy outside incisions were sore but managable. no feeling sick, I did have hernia repair so yes I had spasms when I tried to sip. so that didnt go to well so I just slept it off the first 4 hrs. I got in my room a few hrs later an after 4 hrs I got up I was awake enough to stir around. ended up not drinking much that evening. thats why I stayed in another day an night. I needed the IV fluids. if you feel you need xtra time hooked up speak up! I told my surgeon I needed to stay hooked up to fluids since I could sip by mouth. sure enough it was no problem. everyone is differant. get some sleep keep us posted. dont assume you will have problems take it as it comes then deal with an work thru. its soooo worth it! I just posted pics tonight. hang in there! your on your way to a new you!! keep us posted everyone that is having procedures done ! when you feel up to it! BEST WISHES!! rest!

Hey everyone! Been a while since I posted. Im sure Im not alone in this subject or maybe I do Have a issue going on upstairs an I am the odd one. IDK but I am 7 months PO 100 pds down an the last few months I have been fighting mentally about this new body image! I am estatic about this so far but at the same time I have really became insecure in my looks. as crazy as it sounds this is really getting to me. been having some anxiety an still dressing in seperate room etc...also sjograns is really doing a number on me the last 6 to 8 months I go to another dr this wk getting a second opinion hoping that will get straightened out soon. I am having fun shopping again! But the fact of the matter is I dont like this feeling of insecurity or feeling exposed if that makes any sense. I went thru 10 yrs of therapy stopped bc I reached a point where I got the results it was intending to do. its been 2 yrs since talk therapy I was still fat at the time but it was what it was. I was told by my therapist that some ppl go thru this after losing a ton of weight well it has hit! like a brick wall. theres days I walk an strut (got my self confidance back) but on the other hand theres days that I want to hide so no one sees me...ugh..such an inner struggle. am I the weird odd one here going thru this or has gone thru this ? any input would be appreciated..and BTW I have another 30 to 40 pds to go yet! my hubs tells me daily how hot I am looking an can't keep his hands off of me he has always been my biggest supporter ever since we'v been married. 16 yrs this yr. we were both married 20 yrs in previous marriages whom our ex's used us. now we are happily married yet with me adjusting to this new body is kinda freaking me out....TIA

I keep quest with me at all times! they are my go to on emergency or when Im by myself an not up to cooking. I have local GNC or I buy off their website. amazon also. their great to have on hand!

I dont understand the "calling authorities" part over testing positive bc of "adderall" but in your case was cold meds. I would def ask to take blood test especially for a job. Iv taken adderall for ADD an I wasnt addicted it does help. just felt the need to clear that on my end on the use of this particular drug. in fact I was suppose to take 2 daily an I did well to get 1 in daily. I couldnt feel the differance other then brain fog from the autoimmune diseases cause. Im sorry your dealing with the false positive hopefully this can get cleared up quick. if they really wanted to know the truth they could have checked on the drug list to see if your on it..anyone who is subscribed by dr legitimatly their name is on the data base for controlled substances. I know its stressful but the truth always comes out hang in there.. keep us posted ...I hope it works out for ya

I looked at this water website..so you have to become a distributer/business in order to get this? its not for purchase? I think I remember seeing this before a long time ago.

I will definitly chk this site out. I do have trouble but I drink all day an still dont get the 64 in..ugh..I stay thirsty but one of my meds does this also. I havnt heard of this water. how does it taste? any differant or just like spring water? I drink reverse osmosis I crave it. thx for the post. this sounds like a good find to me!