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Brief Stats: lost a significant amount of weight with a gastric bypass almost 3 yrs ago, have kept it off but need to lose more; slight disability; never have had ANY support or connection from another WLS peer or support group; have joined several Facebook groups but I find them to be much too judgmental and quite impersonal; moved to a new state 2 years ago and have been looking for peer support but with no vehicle I am unable to attend the ONLY group I found way across town; CURRENTLY FRUSTRATED AND LOSING MOMENTUM Any suggestions for locating joint buddy support (not just a group) with someone who has at least as much WLS experience as myself (I would be a great buddy too) on this forum or any other location? Thanks In Advance

...thanks for the reply I wish you well

ANYONE ELSE SERIOUSLY STRUGGLING??? Brief Stats: 61; lost a significant amount of weight with a gastric bypass almost 3 yrs ago, have kept it off but need to lose more; slight disability; never have had ANY support or connection from another WLS peer or support group; have joined several Facebook groups but I find them to be much too judgmental and quite impersonal; moved to a new state 2 years ago and have been looking for peer support but with no vehicle I am unable to attend the ONLY group I found way across town; CURRENTLY FRUSTRATED AND LOSING MOMENTUM Any suggestions for locating joint buddy support (not just a group) with someone who has at least as much WLS experience as myself (I would be a great buddy too) on this forum or any other location? Thanks In Advance

Hey Ms. Fluff seems like you have been around this site for awhile, do you know of any strong support groups, buddies, accountability partners, etc. for RNY folks our age online?

Hello I see lots of sleevers here, where are the RNY folks?

Generally speaking, what difficulties do you think we face having WLS at this age? If these pertain to you personally, what has been your solution?

Struggling!!! A whole year has gone by already and I have received more negative than positive from family and so called friends. Now I am concerned and feel ashamed because I have not lost as much as I should have. I did not even Celebrate my first surgerversery (sp). Just healing from two major surgeries at the same time (RNY & gallbladder) was enough but now I realize that the negative reactions sent me more into a depressive state. My starting weight was over 500, maybe there is a willing buddy out there who has been successful with losing a massive amount of weight too.

Struggling!!! A whole year has gone by already and I have received more negative than positive from family and so called friends. Now I am concerned and feel ashamed because I have not lost as much as I should have. I did not even celebrate my first surgerversery (sp). Just healing from two major surgeries at the same time (RNY & gallbladder) was enough but now I realize that the negative reactions sent me more into a depressive state. My starting weight was over 500, maybe there is a willing buddy out there who has been successful with losing a massive amount of weight too.

Hello :-) New to the area and in need of support resources and/or would love to have a buddy, thanks.

WELCOME!!! Just hang around this site, read, and ask questions. Send friendship requests and chat with others. We are here too, have a great weekend! :-)

Struggling!!! A whole year has gone by already and I have received more negative than positive from family and so called friends. Now I am concerned and feel ashamed because I have not lost as much as I should have. I did not even Celebrate my first surgerversery (sp). Just healing from two major surgeries at the same time (RNY & gallbladder) was enough but now I realize that the negative reactions sent me more into a depressive state. My starting weight was over 500, maybe there is a willing buddy out there who has been successful with losing a massive amount of weight too.

CONGRADS on your surgery! Keep sleeping, get your rest, you are healing! We are not as young and need more quiet time. Expect food to get stuck, some things you might not be able to eat for a long while. Tiny, tiny, tiny bites of very soft food and chew, chew, chew!

I do Protein shakes as well, take my vits (received a great lab report yesterday), and drink my Water. I also went from a vegetarian to a vegan. Due to a handicap, I am unable to exercise much but I do what I can. In need of a strong support system which I why I am on this site :-). My keys to success - I haven't totally abandoned protein shakes (I usually drink at least 2 a day to get my protein in), trying to limit my carbs, and exercise (even if it's a 30 minute walk around the block). My active support systems - message boards (such as this one), a therapist, and I have at least 3 "real life" friends who have also had bariatric surgery. The last one is to NOT GIVE UP...Right now I'm fighting the battle to get below 200 pounds. I see you're also a little over a year post op. How has your experience been so far?

CONGRADS, wow you are almost at goal! What are the keys to your success? Do you have an active support system?

Hi Tori! I had my surgery a little over a year ago, my move to ATL was in May. I know no one here in the WLS community. CONGRADS on your surgery, how are you feeling? You may PM me if like.

Thanks, so much for the reply! How's your journey going? You may PM me if you like :-). Have a healthy day!

Very new to this state, Cobb County GA buddy here! I am working on building and participating in a new support system as well. PM me, lets chat! :-)

YES, I DID MAKE A DECISION TO CHANGE MY LIFE!!! YES, IT IS MY TIME TO SHINE!!! Thanks for mentioning Pastor Osteen, he of my favorites! I needed to be reminded of that this morning! Thanks for the support, I wish you well on your journey...take care...don't be a stranger. I haven't had surgery and my starting weight is lower, but I wanted to give you some words of encouragement. You did something wonderful for your life! This is your life to live. People are always going to have something negative to say. Let them talk. Let them say what they want. I'm sure you're doing great and probably better if you had a better support system. Don't give up! I don't know if you have heard of Joel Osteen but he has a radio station on Sirius and I started listening to him. There is a message he's constantly reiterating that I'd like to share with you: shake off the negativity, shake off the self doubt, this is your time to shine! Congratulations on your decision to save your life . Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Oh :-), thank you so very much, you will be hearing from me! Have a fantastic day!

Struggling!!! A whole year has gone by already and I have received more negative than positive from family and so called friends. Now I am concerned and feel ashamed because I have not lost as much as I should have. I did not even Celebrate my first surgerversery (sp). Just healing from two major surgeries at the same time (RNY & gallbladder) was enough but now I realize that the negative reactions sent me more into a depressive state. My starting weight was over 500, maybe there is a willing buddy out there who has been successful with losing a massive amount of weight too.

...and I will use your box real soon...thanks so much for reaching out to me...have a great day! :-)

Well, the problem is that I recently relocated across country to remove myself from the chaos and have no team here, not that I had much of one before (different topic, different day). Yes, refocus & re-establish, exactly why I am here asking for help. I will PM you soon, ty so much for reaching out to me!!! Have A Wonderful Day :-)

Thanks so much for your input! :-) I know all the answers to those questions. I am about 75% of the way there but I believe now that I would benefit from a bit of support from another WLS patient. Never had a buddy before and did not want one...lol! Now will I stop working hard if no one comes along, of course not but for me, just chatting on the phone would mean the world to me. A real example of my seriousness...just relocated across country to remove myself from chaos...difficult but DONE! Now to get re-established (have no transportation to get to support groups in my area) and on these forums looking for support. Thanks again for responding, wish you well as you enjoy your great health! :-)

TY sweetie, I wish you well with your new journey! :-)