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I second the congrats! I have mini's so no riding for me - but would love to ride a regular sized horse (mmm.....gypsy vanner) once I lose the weight!

My doctor said that there is a small percentage of people that will suffer post-GS nausea past a month. He said that the longest he has seen anyone go is four months and he has operated on thousands of patients. I have a feeling this is going to resolve itself in short order. When he said that I thought "just like morning sickness". I was sick for four months straight with my first child all day every day. Yeah, no fun!

This is awesome - "pick your hard". Yup, I totally agree.

Wow - you look great! Congratulations!

Congratulations! Your post is oozing with happiness!! YAY!!!

I am so glad for you that you found a happy place. And you are right about comparing smoking to being abused, either verbally or physically. Abuse is far and away a more severe problem to face. I'm so happy that you don't have to deal with it anymore. He's really a great guy and I need to remember that this is a stressful time for everyone involved and more TLC and understanding than usual should be given and extended to everyone in the family. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I really appreciate it.

We did finally talk and what it came down to was exactly what you said - he was very hurt by the way I have been acting and was very concerned that it would get worse as time went on and as I lost weight I would become increasingly difficult to live with. I have been making him feel really bad and for that I apologized profusely. I had no idea how I was making him feel because I was so preoccupied with what I was feeling. Not a bad thing but when you don't consider others too, not so good. Thank you for taking the time to post a response - you were right!

Thank you so much for sharing. You may be young, but you are wise. I really appreciate the suggestions and I did look up the link you sent - I am going to order her book. Thank you again!

Thank you so much for the reply - everything you said is so true.

I'm not sure I want to live out there anymore. I'm tired of the constant work to keep it up and the money it costs to keep it up at just a minimum level.

After I read your post I thought a bit about what you said. Yes, there is a lot more going on here than I can really share in good conscience because they are too private and sharing them would be a betrayal to him, even in a forum that is relatively anonymous. There's no drug use, cheating, he doesn't drink or beat me or anything like that. I just had the revelation that having this surgery is opening up a whole can of worms for me. It's bringing to the surface things I have suppressed over the past 20 years, things I didn't want to deal with or think about that I pushed to the subconscious level. And I think that is what is happening to him too. And it's not very pretty.

It's very nice to have a male ex-smoker's opinion. Thank you very much for chiming in. I am so sorry that she continues to smoke - I hope she quits sometime in the future. Best of luck to you too in every challenge you face.

You are totally right - I have to either accept it or move on. I can't force him to do what he really doesn't want to do. And if he had treated me like this before I was ready to make the decision to take control of my weight, yeah, it would not have gone well. I would have been angry at him for trying to tell me what to do and sad that maybe he doesn't find me attractive anymore.

I have been feeling like I can't stand his habit anymore to the point that I can't live with him anymore if he doesn't quit. I just have to live apart from him so I don't have to be around what he is doing to himself. Not necessarily a divorce, but just be separated. I know I can't be any fun to be with, so to me, moving out solves that part of the issue, but then causes others in its wake. In the very beginning, I told him I couldn't marry him unless he stopped smoking so he made the decision that he wanted to be married more than he wanted to smoke, so he quit. He has promised me over and over again within the past 6 months that he will quit...maybe I bullied him into doing that and he feels resentful.

All I can say is wow - you look really good. I can tell you have spent some quality time in the gym. Congratulations!

Awesome weight loss!. Off topic - you have gorgeous hair.

Uggg...they just shared with me yesterday that they require a fecal test. If it comes back positive, then they will order a colonoscopy. Never had one before...not going to get one now. They sprung this one on me at the last minute, since (I thought!) I have fulfilled all of my pre-requisites. Yes, I know they are doing it to make sure I am healthy and they want to know what's what, but sorry, I just can't do it. The presence of blood could be due to other factors, and not just cancer or polyps. For women not yet in menopause or for those who have hemorrhoids, you know what I mean. If I were older, getting a bypass and/or had a family history of colon cancer or polyps, I don't think I could make this argument. But hell, I'm not, so I am. I've jumped through every hoop they've asked me to. I'm drawing the line here - (insert Trek reference here.."the line must be drawn here..this far and no farther!.."). Anyways, emotional, non-rational rant over.

My doctor and nutritionist said the hair will grow back. Hope they are right! I may be in the same boat with you-all. Bright side - maybe this will be the time to get a wig and try being blonde! LOL!

So I got a date - August 18. If I can get my hemoglobin levels where they need to be, this will be the day. I'm close, but not close enough. If not, we will have to postpone. And that is fine by me because I want to be as healthy as I can be going in. Not feeling much of anything right now. I can guarantee you that as I get closer, that will change. I will start to get scared, I am sure. Just thought I would share. Thanks!

An attorney friend of mine uses this site and she always looks great!! I love the outfits she wears and they always look brand new. This is such a good suggestion - I didn't even think of it until i saw your post and went "oh, yeah..that's right!" I was planning to do the thrift store thing, but it is hard to find nice stuff when you NEED to find them. Always when you just pop in to see what they have is when you get lucky. Oh, she said you can also purchase an item if you really like it at a reduced price.

That's great to hear. Hope you continue to heal and improve.

Your profile pic is hilarious!!! Thank you for the kind words and even though I don't know you, I am so happy for you that he is in remission. For everyone that asked, I do not have any symptoms at all - no issues whatsoever other than occasional heartburn-I've pretty much got a "cast iron" digestive system. Colon cancer (or any cancer for that matter) is almost non-existant on both sides of the family. Still, I know I can get cancer anyway - might be the first one, who knows? However, I think overall this has been a good thing because my freak out over this has pointed to a deeper issue that I must resolve because I will eventually need to submit to the test as a regular part of my physical check up sooner rather than later.

Update: I have the nicest and coolest doctor in the world - gosh I feel so lucky right now that he "gets" me. We will be moving forward. And I know that I need a little more help in the head shrink department to deal with the issue I have so that I can be healthy in the years to come. For those of you struggling with similar circumstances, you're not alone.

I saw your post elsewhere. I am SO glad for you that it worked!

So sad now to know I have to go find a doctor that will stick their finger in my butt. Sorry @@BitterSweet*, I was really hoping it was the other way around. LOL!!