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My mom lives with my husband and I for the past year following her husband's death ( cancer ). I love my mom but recently she has become my worst enemy. It is almost like a sabotage against me. She brings food in the house I'm trying to stay away from and will ask me if I want them Knowing that I'm trying to lose weight. She tells me I'm depriving myself all together, but I'm not. I don't crave the sweets right now ,but when I see them I'm like dang that would taste soooo good. She is a major factor in my obesity. She would sneak me sweets behind my dad's back and let me eat whatever I wanted as a child.... how ( without snapping her little neck -that's a joke!!!!) Get her to stop the madness and to get her on my side and not against me!?!?!?

I'm near jackson TN surgery in Nashville TN with Dr. Clements

I (and doctors) over the years have had these convos with her. She doesn't see where I need help. She calls me "chunky" or "healthy" when actually I'm MORBIDLY OBESE. It's like she doesn't see where it hurts to have sweets. She could eat a box of little debbie a day and not gain an ounce! I have talked to her about this surgery many times and she snarls her nose to it and tells me I'm being ridiculous about it all. Her sister died from diabetic complications. She was obese like I am. Now that I think about it, I don't think she wants to come to grips with the fact that I could easily be next.....

Which kind do ya have? I have reserve selct which is just like standard

Hi yaw! Greetings from west tn! I am not new to the site... I posted some last year and have constantly hit road blocks in my journey to weight loss... no one around here took my insurance... my pcp quit taking it and I loved her!!!!! I gave up on it after a while and told myself that being fat is just what I'm meant to be... I am currently 335 Pounds I am ashamed to say. I look in the mirror usually with disgust that I have gotten this way... I hate feeling the way I do...we changed insurances to tricare reserve select (hubby is military)...and from what I've heard I have a better chance of getting the surgury....I need this surgury.... I need this change. It quit being a want a long time ago... I have got to make this happen...

Ahhh I was auto corrected :/ I meant Christopher

Hi chris!! And welcome ????

it made a huge difference from the other surgeon I saw. He made me feel super optimistic ????

I am a nervous wreck lol. Wish me luck folks!! I hope I get me a bit of good news today today I am chosen to be optimistic and hopeful ????????

Soooo some of you that have read my other posts knoe I've had a lot of different things going on this past year especially emotionally. This weekend my husband and I had an entire weekend for us alone! It started out really bad. He kept suggesting all these places he wanted to go and things he wanted to do like bowling, movies,etc. I really do love doing those things, but my weight always gets in the way. I don't like the looks and stares from people who glare at me as though I was a walking zombie. I don't fit in the theatre chairs comfortably anymore and I finally snapped this weekend. I finally had to break down and tell him why I kept saying no to these places. After my 20 minute crying spree and rant his eyes were the size of 1/2 dollars! He was so mad and me for holding and tell thay in and never talking to him about it! Then he just looked at me and said I get so much now that I didn't realize before. He is totally okay with this surgery and has now become my personal cheerleader! Today I feel blessed ????

I love that doc!!! He was so attentive and made sure numerous times I didn't have questions. I found out that I am negative for hpylori, that my insurance only needs 3 months weight loss attempts, got all my labs done, and scheduled all my apps for my NUT and PSYCHOLOGICAL exam. It's all going great so far!!!!

I have tricare and I can't find out anything from anyone :/ I go see my surgeon tomorrow. Do u have prime or reserve select? It is ALL different as to what is covered, needed, as well as where u get it done

Lau4lau I once sat through a lecture by a bariatric surgeon who flat out said mental health, depression, and anxiety had nothing to do with obesity that it was strictly bad eating habits (?!?!?!?!?!) There are HUNDREDS of different research studies done that say otherwise. Now looking how uninformed a surgeon is, just imagine how uninformed the general public is!!! People see over weight people as lazy and gluttonous. They have no idea that it's a disease. It is an addiction. I posted about my breakthrough with my husband just this past weekend!!! It took me literally being fed up to the point I vented it all out.

Hope you guys have a speedy recovery!!!! GOD BLESS!!!

Thank you!! I have an amazing pcp!!! When I say this woman will fight for you I mean FIGHT. She is the most down to earth doc I have ever come across and she makes sure she sits down with you and answers any questions you have. I have never once felt rushed or unwanted there

I'm in the weighting room and my head is spinning with questions I should ask her. She is super supportive of me having the surgery (we have spoke on it before). I have never been nervous of having to see her before, but now I feel like a huge ball of nerves.... makes no sense!!! I'm glad things are getting back on track for me, I really REALLY hope I don't hit many walls this time :/

Can't wait to join ya ????

Oh my goodness! I know that has to be frustrating and painful! Best wishes for a speedy recovery!!!!

I was completely addicted to sons of anarchy and the walking dead. I also love criminal minds

I want to cry at how overwhelming all of this is! I want this surgery so bad that waiting to do a diet makes it seem hopeless... I get the liquid diet 3 weeks before surgery,but the 6 month thing seems kinda shady to me. If a crack head needs rehab do you say ok now dear u must go with no crack for 6 months and then we will help u. ????. For a lot of us this is food addiction related and 6 months may be too late. I'm done venting and crying now lol. Much love and respect to all of u that made it through the weight loss journey without goin crazy!!!!

I'm gonna have to use tricare. If self pay was an option I would definitely do that!!!!! I was told they will cover the tummy tuck and breathe augmentation if medically necessary so I'm hoping all this will go in my favor

I go see my pcp tomorrow, but with TCRS we don't have referrals. We go see who ever we want as long as they are listed on the website as in the network. I wanted to kinda find out all I could before I go see her so we can pull up and see what all counts as being done or not. The website says you have to show failed diets, but I have been over weight since 1st grade!! I've been on a lot of diets just none documented

Vanderbilt is okayed by tricare and so is my doc. That much I did find out for sure lol

And thank u bellabloom!!!!! I feel very lucky for sure. I honestly wish I would have just told him straight up a long time ago my issues I have. Honestly this sight has helped me open up to him. Seeing that you aren't alone in a struggle is massive!!!

I just couldn't see myself choosing a surgeon who seemed bored with talking about it.... I want a dr with passion and fight!!!!