Heather B

Please know, diabetes being gone instantly does not happen for all RNY patients. In very well may go into remission over time but there is no guarantee. About 75% see the diabetes go into remission. Do not expect it to be gone instantly. If your doc is promising this, he is misleading you. Also, it is not cured. It will come back with weight gain. Regain is rather common so, a true diet change for life is needed. Below is a link to an article. It states only 30% of diabetic patients leave the hospital with no medication but, it could resolve within days to weeks. It does take months for some patients as well, however. My sister, for example took about 9 months to come off all meds. The time you have had it and the severity of it both are factors in determining when and if it will resolve. http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-789X.2010.00802.x/full

I know insurance usually requires you wait a year (if it covers it at all). Since you only have 60lbs more to go, maybe you should just suffer a few more months and see what you can lose. I would wait. Get a good garment (spanx or something like it) and see if that helps. Maybe they even make something for ladies in transition. I have a large pannis too so, I feel your pain....

While I was losing with my sleeve I packed lunch and snacks everyday. When I began gaining I was buying food from out and would go to Walgreens and buy junk for my afternoon snack. Packing is a way to go. This also helps planning for the day to meet goals.

I have to admit I am guility of thinking (while I have been at the info meetings or followups or even reading posts)-- why are they having surgery? I always thought it is all a lot to go through if you have 100lbs to lose since you will liekly max out losing 60-70% of your excess body weight. I was over 570 at one point and 60-70 does not seem to be enough to warrant having surgery, especially RNY. It took me 3 years to admit I had to do this so, it boggled my mind why somone less than 1/2 my weight would put themselves through this. But, after reading all your posts I see your side and realize weight loss is all relative. And I do not think anyone who hasn't resorted to having surgery (especially those who would never need it) can understand it at all.

Bariatric Divorce is a real thing. The rate of divorce among bariatric patients increases significantly over the US average 50%. I know you weren’t married but the principal applies. My husband and I both had surgery. We had been together for 15 years and married 10 when we saw the pre-screen therapist. I asked her about divorce after she had spoken to my husband and me. We said we concerned and did not want the surgery to hurt our relationship. She said we both asked the same question separately. She asked some follow up and then told us together…The biggest reason for separation after surgery is low self esteem and settling. She said a lot of heavy folks settling for what they can get or the self esteem of the partner who becomes self conscience when the partner loses weight. Jealousy kicks in and breaks up couples. She said we would not have these problems and we didn’t. It seems to me from the little I could gather that you may have settled because you thought you wouldn’t do any better. I personally do not care about his money or video games (my husband is a stay at home dad and he will never earn near what I earn) so, this is not something I care about. I knew this before I married him and I am ok being the main bread winner. But if it bothers you, that is enough. You have to be on the same page with your mate or there is no partnership. My issue is what he did at the mall. With your surgery your grocery bill will decrease anyway (lol), you will manage financially. I would rather not have cable or some other luxury than to let someone treat me like that but then again I am pretty arrogant (in spite of the fact I am over 400 lbs). I do not think an apology would suffice, I find it unforgivable and there is not much I find unforgivable. As far as the poster above saying that this it was “on you” if you won’t let it go, I do not agree. Where do you draw that line where you are not obliged to forgive? There has to be one. His actions at the mall were over that line to me, but some allow beatings and cheating and forgive so I guess it’s all how you value yourself.

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Be careful! That candy craving took over about 1 1/2 years out . Since nothing made me sick, I began eating loads of candy every day and gained back 60% within a year. I have been revised for a month to the RNY so I cannot eat candy ever again! When I was on the wagon I used Livestrong's My plate to track everything I ate & was told to stay under 1000 per day but you should really ask your Nutritionist what is right for you, your height, age and ideal weight. Calorie goals can vary by person...

That is an advertising page so, it may be all they do at that particular facility and looks like they are pushing sleeve hard so they may not do RNY at all....

Mine worked for about a year and then I went crazy. I had an extreme amount of stress and was always a stress eater; I overate. After the sleeve I could no longer eat large portions but I could eat anything. Nothing made me sick or disagreed with my sleeve. I began eating entire bags of candy in a day mutliple times per week. I gained back 65% of my weight in a year. My sleeve was done becuase I was too high risk for the RNY and he did not think I could lose all 300 lbs with one suregery anyway. I was always to have a second surgery but with the gain, I had no choice, there was just an added element of embarassment. It boils down to not following the rules. For the first year, I was vigilant and tracked everything and then it all went out the window. I have now been revised to the RNY and hope to have dumping syndrome (but do not intend to test it). I beleive I have learned from my mistakes and now know how serious my sugar/junk addition really is. I can NEVER touch those things again. I also must "diet" for life and track my food.