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i'm shrugging it off as ignorant people who really don't know what to say..although she did add "because of your health" to it. which irritated me, but hwatever. she is talking about being overweight and all the things that go along with it, although all of my comorbidities have been obselete since losing 15 lbs (bp, blood sugar, etc.). i'm really feeling better emotionally. i'm been sitting aroudn the house for 36 hours in a lot of pain in my back and shoulders. not sure if it has to do with the pregnancy or not. no bleeding, no sign of mucus thinning, nothing.... so i wait.... today they call to confirm that the blood work says the pregnancy is in fact lost. i know i should hold out hope, but i am even though i know that it is only going to cause me to go through this again. i can't help but hold on to the idea, that maybe just maybe she was wrong. i mean, the embryo measured 6 weeks and according to my research it is not a given that the heartbeat would be seen at such a time. i'm also hoping that maybe she was looking at my last period date of october to base her diagnosis, although i told her there was no way i could be that far along. the last 2 times i've gotten pregnant i got pregnant during a period where i was not having any periods. weird..i know. i will let you guys know the results ....even though we all probably know what they are. this forum has been more help for me that i could have ever imagined. people who have to see you in their day to day lives have a harder time dealing with it. funny thing, my husband has this one friend, and a brother, and a dad, who have been particularly worried about me. each one of them has came by the house every day to see if i need anything. his friend came by and tried to get me out of the house to go get something to eat. amazing, the men, i figured would be the ones to avoid it all completely, instead they are the one worried about it. and they don't mind talking abotu it. they ask me what i'm going to do, if i'm going to have surgery, if losing the baby is painful (you know they dno't know). it's amazing to me. i have friends that have just told me they can't talk about it because they don't know what to say. but i was really shocked to find the men in my husband's life to be the ones who are openly supportive and curious. ( my mom is too of course, she calls constantly, but she lives a little while away). my step sister has been a great help through all of this too. she delivered her stillborn baby at 7 months a year ago. she knew her baby was going to die, and she walked around for 3 months waiting for it to happen. i felt guilty at first talking to her about it, because it is just causing her to relive the whole situation, but it seems to be quite therapeutic for her too. things that she would not tell me then because she did not think i would understand, she tells me now. i feel like my pain is nothing in comparison to her, but she assures me that it is all the same. ok, i'm rambling, trying to avoid crying again, so i'm going back to bed, where i have been staying...in the dark.. :biggrin: i'm giving myself time to be depressed...

thank you guys. i am feeling better emotionally. i thought i was beginning to miscarry yesterday as i had really bad pelvic pressure in my back and awful back and shoulder pain, but i wasn't. i wanted this baby so bad. my husband and i have a 7 year old together and the only way i'm going to get pregnant is if it happens by accident. so we were both super excited, but now dh says he wants to wait 3 or 4 years. although i agree with him, i don't want my children that far apart. it was going to be a struggle on us financially but we were going to make it. so, i think that is what makes me sad. dh is going to be being extra careful, and i'm not. i want a baby, i want to heal completely from this first, but i want a baby. i am counting my blessings though, i have a step sister that delivered a 6 month old baby after she died. she knew her baby was going to die and just walked around every day waiting for it to happen. i would rather it happen this way than that. i also know that we have one child, and that is more than a lot of people. and having lost this one, it makes you remember how special your own child is, as it is easy to get caught up in the every day stuff. i truly believe that god has a plan and everything happens for a reason, although i may not understand it now, i know something good will come of this. i am depressed and withdrawn. granted it has only been a few days, but i don't want to go anywhere, and the fact that i'm walking around wondering when i'm going to start bleeding puts a great damper on things.

thank you.

thank you. i do know the risks of the d&C, i even have had one when i was 12. i remember it being painful, but i had a laproscopic surgery for endometriosis at the same time. i want to do it naturally, but i don't know how long i can walk around with a dead baby in me. it seems like mental torment, you know....if the doctor is right and the embryo is measuring 6 weeks without a heartbeat then i've already been walking around this way for a few weeks, and my pcp says miscarriage usually happens within 72 hours. well, apparantely i had a missed miscarriage. kat, you are right, i do feel so alone. my husband is just as upset as i am, but he is managing to at least act like he is doing ok. my boss had the gall to tell me that i had to have known this was a possibility, i guess because i am fat. i can't help but blame myself even though i know there is probably nothing that i could do. it just doesnt' all seem real yet...you know..i keep forgetting that i'm not really pregnant anymore.

my doctor's office will allow you to walk in a just get the blood drawn. no appointment, no co pay. all you have to do is call and ask. i had my blood work done 1/14 and it was negative. the blood can pick up 2-14 days and apparantely i was too early. i took 5 dollar general test before, one positive 4 negative. i was pregnant.

i don't know how far along i am, but i am starting to show, and you can see a visible "lump" where my port is. it used to be smooth but it is beginning to stick out...and i'm barely showing..so i'm sure, it is going to be popping out big time.

wow, that is awful. i haven't gotten any hate messages, but i haven't posted much outside of the pregnancy board. i'm told not to go over 1500 calories, regardles. so, i'm trying to follow it. i'm maintaining now, i lost 5 lbs one day and was down to 201, but it was back last time i weighed..so whatever that was....lol, but i've been a 206 for a couple of weeks now.

jachut, with my last one i carried just as you speak of..5 ft nothing..lol. i was so big at the end that i couldn't drive a vehicle. my belly would be up against the steering wheel, and i still couldn't reach with my arms. haha, which i wasn't heavy then, so i was all belly. i'm hoping this time is not so big, because i'm big everywhere else. :sneaky: i'll def be a "is she pregnant or fat" person.

it will be hard to lost weight when you are that tight...usually, because you will resort to sweets and liquid calories due to your body needing calories. i would say you may need an unfill. baby food is not a solid. you need to be able to eat some solids.

army..you are right. i actually went for an unfill last week, and the doctor was actually upset that i had not come sooner. his staff told me it wasn't necessary. ha!! i'm eating 1500 calories now. although, i am drinking orange juice..it is the only thing that i'm craving.

i'm so glad to hear that everything is ok with you, wheetsin. i can't wait for my first appointment. i'm starting to show now. just sticking out more kind of all over. more up top than down low.

I'm pregnant, and i have no idea how far along i am. from a post that i put on here freaking out thinking i was, i'm thinking i got pregnant beginning of january. with that said, i'm not real sure what i think my pre pregnancy weight was, but i would like to see how everyone else did. so, please post your conception weight (estimate), your delivery weight, and your current weight. this will help me i think. i'm currently 204, last week i was 209, i think when i got pregnant i was 221. (I haven't been keeping much down).

i know that we each are different, but i am curious to see how we are all reacting to different foods. i have 7 cc's in my band and although i do pb often, (just got restriction), i have only found a couple of things that i cannot tolerate: captain d's fish----- that was the most awful experience of being banded. i did not pb, i ate 1/2 fillet of fish and 2 french fries, 5 minutes later (everything went down fine), i'm drooling, unable to breath, and have a for real vomit. not a pb. i'm now completely turned off by the thought of fish....from captian d's. mcdonald's cinnamon melt---- ok, so i know that i am not supposed to have these. i used to eat them at least twice a week before surgery and i had not had one since. well, this morning, i'm stressed over my son (sick) and running him a around, and i stop at mcd's to get him a sprite, and i fall to my weakness and order one of these. well, that was an hour ago, i only had 3 bites, and i am still sliming. turkey breast lunch meat------ almost as bad as the fish incident other than that, i can eat chicken, steak, hamburger meat, lettuce, cheese, bread, oranges, bananas, green Beans...everything that i have tried. what about you? ---you may want to share you restriction level too because that makes a difference, i am pretty tight right now.

mine has slowed down significantly also, and i was losing tons.

i went and had 1.3 cc's removed on Wedneday due to a total lack of nutrition. i have lost 5 lbs since then. i'm down to 201 now, from 228 (probably when i got pregnant). dh mad..thinks i need to eat more, i think i'm eating fine now. i do feel better now that i can eat an actual meal.

OK, i had surgery 10/18/07. it took me a LONG time to get restriction, and i got it about 1.5 months ago. since i have lost 25 lbs. i have been pregnant the whole time but did not know it. ..little background…I haven’t had a period since October, and assumed it was from my body being in “shock”. However, in early February, I took a home test and it was positive. Then I took a lot more, including a dr. urine and blood, and I was not pregnant. Then 2 weeks ago, I confirmed it, at the dr’s office and at home. Around here they don’t want to see you until you are “8 weeks +”…however, I have not had a period in months. So, I don’t know how far along I am. I know that my morning sickness is gone (I thought that was the band), and I’m showing. So based on symptoms I am going into my 4th month. Ok, since I haven’t had a good fill for a LONG time, and since I was having nausea majority of the time since the last one, I’m sure the baby did not suffer nutritionally. However, lately, I have not been able to eat what I think is enough. One ob doctor, not mine, she wasn’t in the office…says I need to be eating at least 1500 calories. Well, the only way that I can get 1500 calories is if I drink my calories, too…and that is not good. What do you guys think? I’ve posted in the pregnancy section, but I haven’t gotten a lot of direct feedback, because all of our situations are different. I thought maybe some of the people that have been pregnant are not over there anymore. I’m trying to decide, unfill or not, my band doctor says no need to get an unfill that I can do just fine?????????

thanks you guys. i went and got an unfill yesterday because if it weren't for liquid calories i was only averaging 200 calories in solid food, and it wasn't healthy stuff, it was just what i could get down. since my unfill i have had roast (omg that was sooooooooooooo good), fruit and yogurt parfait (again..awesome), and cheesy bread..i know bad..i was picking it up for kid and babysitter, and was eating on the run. the doctor that saw me yesterday was upset that i did not come in sooner. he said that my eating habits were not acceptable period. he said i needed to be eating at least 1500 calories a day and eating fruits, veggies, etc. he took out 2 cc's. the anxiety of eating is gone. i can eat a decent amount now, without eating a ton. i felt full for the first time last night since my last fill. that was comforting..made me sleepy. and i ate normal portion sizes, deck of cards for the meat, 1 small piece of a potato, 1/4 cup green Beans. i have read in several places that ketones can cause severe mental retardation or low iq's in babies. i had ketones in my urine at my last doc appointment, so now i'm just trying to make sure to get myself out of ketosis.

i would probably do better. i just haven't been able to add them. i need to bring a gallon of milk to work.

i'm pregnant now, so some of my intolerable's may have just been morning sickness..but i have determined that i absolutely CANNOT eat bread.

MaryUm -----did you get an unfill?

wheetsin is right, it is a risk for a baby only (i want to say until they are 2, but that may be a stretch). it can be fatal for a baby, but we are fine to eat it..even during pregnancy. in fact, honey is a very healthy natural food. probably should use it more often than not, especially during sugar cravings.

i was banded in october and i'm pregnant now, and i have no idea how far along i am :shades_smile:. so i'm not sure how long i waited, but not as long as i wanted to. and i was taking bc and we were using withdrawal majority of the time, but i still got pregnant. ob says losing fat cells increases your fertility 10 fold. all that estrogen pumping through your body. after we have this one, i don't know what all we will need to do to prevent that from happening again.

i did not vote, because i have not had an unfill yet, but i am undecided. my problem is my doctor's office seems to think that i should have no problems going on eating 700 calories per day. my doc/ based on symptoms/ guesses that i am going into my 4th month....and i have lost 25 lbs all the while being pregnant, if that is true. my ob doctor says i need at least 1500 calories per day. i'm not sure if i'm getting that, and i'm trying to decide what to do. my bp and blood sugar just stabilized and i would hate to hurry up and put the weight back on and then have to deal with those problems again.

i've been having a lot of cramping too, but it just stopped. i haven't had any bleeding though. i hope that everything goes ok for you when you get to the doctor. i've actually heard of a lot of people that go through that, but everything turns out fine. my doctor is seeing me 3/31 for the first time, and my dh (call him that because we have been together for a long time), but we are making it official on 3/29...big wedding and everything, planned in less than 3 weeks ob doc thinks i'm finishing up my 3rd month based on symptoms.

i posted this in the general forum a month or so ago, but most of my responses came from women who are close to menopausal age, so i thought i would post it here. since my surgery (in october), i have only had one period, and it lasted 4 hours. i have taken prego tests..one was positive, five were negative. i do not know that i am not pregnant, but i assume that if i were, i would get more than one positive. has anyone else experienced this. also, my calories are still pretty high and i have only lost 10 lbs since surgery, so i doubt it is a low calorie, or high weight loss side effect.