Hey, Dont let her make you feel like a failure. I have No regrets getting the lap band. It has helped me start living a normal life, I have lost 45 lbs and I feel so much better, I no longer take pills for high cholestorol, or for high blood pressure. I am more active in my life. Now this was in no way easy, It has taken lots of work. You can do it though if you put your mind to it! :whoo: