I'm a closet bandster. Only my hubby, sister, mother-in-law and a TRUSTED co-worker who also had WLS knows. I've told my employer that I had hernia surgery and now I'm telling everyone that I lost so much weight from "not feeling like eating" after surgery that it's encouraged me to diet. I'm sort of regretting telling the co-worker because it would be very easy for it to slip. But I'll cross that bridge if I get to it.
I do not plan to tell anyone else unless I find out that they're going to have WLS. I just didn't want to deal with the prejudice.
I had to deal with the liquid phase for the first time yesterday. I was at a company event where Breakfast and lunch was provided. I showed up late, avoiding breakfast. For lunch, I told my manager that I was still tired from surgery (true- it was only 9 days out) and wanted to go lay down in my car. I drank my Protein shake there.
I'm lucky that I telecommute 3 days a week and only have to be in the office 2 days a week, so it's very easy to avoid the lunch invites.
Congrats on your date, and good luck!