Dragonwillow

I'm not sure how to explain this but am going to torture you all by trying to muddle through. I recently heard a speech or whatever you call it on Sexual abuse and harrasement. Now...I have never thought of myself as being a victim of this, but this person obviously has triggered something. I can't stop thinking about what she said and this one moment in my life keeps poppingin my head when I do. When I was 16 my moms boss at the time grabbed at me and tried to kiss me....he said something about if I wasn't careful that I would end up as fat as my mom. His teenage son came in and kinda kept anything from happening. I remember telling my Mom, but she didn't believe me and said something to the effect I must have been mistaken. Now here is the interesting part...or the part that has started making me thinking I'm mental. Looking back through pictures and videos of myself, I wasn't heavy at that time. I won't say I didn't have a weight promblem, because I did...I was dieting almost constantly...and in the typical teenage fashion doing it in not so healthy ways. But sometime around that time is when I slowly started gaining weight. I mean it wasn't sudden, but looking at my pictures you would think thats when my weight promblem started, because thats when my attempts to control seem to have started failing. Now I have lost weight over the years...and to be honest I haven't thought about that incident in my life for years and years. But since hearing the speech its been tumbling around and around. I have a pysch evaul in August, and I really don't want to delay the surgery at this point....but think I might benifit from some type of body image counsiling as I loose the weight. Anyone else want to psycho anaylize me in the mean time . And if I talk about this now with the psych will it jeapordize my approval? I have never before thought that my weight promblem was all that emotional, since my weight gain was slow except for the weight gained and not lost during my pregnancies. Melissa

Congrats! August 3rd is just around the corner! Keep us posted on your progress. Melissa

Dr. schmitz is my Gastro doc. I just met him when I had the endoscopy done, he is very nice and personable. There is only about a 10 percent chance that the antibiotics don't work. The H pylori bacteria causes ulcers. I don't have any ulcers but I did have the bacteria. So maybe the band has saved me from ulcers? As I don't think I ever would have found out about the bacteria otherwise until I developed an ulcer. I don't know what happens if the antibiotics don't work....nobody has said. I know that I'm on a different regimin of antibiotics than they usaully prescrib for their first choice...because the first choice has a type of penicyllian in it. I'm allergic, have been since a child, so don't even know what my reaction to it is....but didn't want to find out the hard way LOL. On another note I did good on my "diet" yesterday...until I found a bar of Dove dark chocolate hidding behind a can of tuna in the cabinet. Oh well today is a whole new day. And Hubby will be home, I've missed him this week, I'm glad he doesn't have to travel too often. I'm not good at the single mom thing. Melissa

Welp talked to the gastro doc today. I have to wait 6 weeks from when I finish the antibiotics to be retested to make sure I don't have it. I told kim I was thinking of not posting in the meantime, but I think I'd be better off trying to diet along with you guys. I mean my consulation is my official weight I think, so if I can loose 10lbs in the next 2 months, how much better off will I be at surgery. So looks like you guys are stuck with old impatient me. Us virgos and our schedules and time tables will drive the world crazy. Melissa

I haven't been banded yet...still in the testing testing and more testing stage. But my doctor requires a two week liquid protien diet before surgery. This is to shrink the liver to make it easier to perform the surgery laprosopically. That being said, the protien powders they have us use are all very LOW calorie, and very low carb. GNC has one that tastes pretty good call gnc Pro performance 100% whey protien. I really like the chocolate caramel flavor the best. It has 120 calories, 2g fat, 4 g carbs, 3 g sugars, and 21gs protien. Add carb countdown milk and thats ALOT of protien. If you aren't required to I would do a full liquid diet. I would do like a shake for Breakfast and then either another for lunch or some type of lean meat and veggies for lunch and dinner. I would avoid the carbs if at all possible. And like someone else said, drink plenty of Water, and remember to drink another 8 oz of water for any caffine drink you drink. I'm currently trying to loose weight myself since my surgery can't be scheduled until a test is peformed 6 weeks from after I finish the round of antibiotics for the h pylori virus. From the instructions I am suppose to avoid Calcium with in in 3 hours of taking the pills....and since I am taking 19 pills aday spread out to 4 different times a day...I don't see when I can have any dairy. So no protien shakes for me for two weeks I guess. For breakfast I had pb toast, lunch a can of tuna and some crackers (the mayo made me feel sick so ended up eating it dry...almost as yucky...heheh) and I have no clue what I can pull out of the freezer for dinner. Anyone else go through this? Melissa

The geeky computer, star trek freaks make the best hubbies! LOL You will always have a working computer, they tend to look at the whole picture. And they look better as they age...heheh. Not that I thought it at the time, but damn my hubby was one skinny bean pole when I met him. Before my I met my hubby I was all about the cute bad boys. I'm joking really, I'm sure there are lots of great guys out there that aren't geeks. Just know that there is someone out there for you. Someone that will see all the beauty inside as well as outside. Someone that wants the best for you, who doesn't feel the need to put their limitations on you. And when this person comes along you will appreciate them for who they are too because you have had this experience. Like Kathy said, document everything. And if you think there will be a promblem getting him to move out, check with your local goverment...there may be steps you have to go through to officially evict him. (long story but my dad had to do this to my brother) And in the meantime if you give him time or if you have to give him time to move, charge his butt rent! Make him sign a document agreeing to pay you rent from such and such date until you say he has to be gone. His failure to pay would also give you more backing to get him legally evicted. Melissa

10lb equals you haveing caused a 35,000 calorie deficient...so I think that is a major accomplishment! If you really want to get a visual...go to the store and pick up 10lbs of butter, and think about the fact that it used to be on your body! I sometimes think its a wonder I can walk around since I seem to be carrying a large child around in excess weight. I could carry 3 of my five year old and it would equal about the weight I have to loose. Melissa

My-o-my you are right in that it was VERY wrong the way I was treated by him, and the fact that my mother didn't believe me (why would I make that up) was very wrong. I have a 13 year old, and if (and hopefully never) she ever tells me anything of this sort you can bet that I will believe her and do as much as I can to help her emotional over it. I would also have major issues with the person who inflicted anything like this on my daughter (even if they are similiar in age), it would NOT be swept under the rug. I don't think I can blame all my weight related issues on it...obviously there is some over eating and exercise issues too. But the more I have thought about it this week the more I have wondered if it did some how give me persmission pyschologically to gain weight. I mean I had a great bf (now husband) that believed me and was plenty mad on my behalf. He has loved me from 135lbs all the way to 260lbs. He is always the one that gives me the pat on the back, puts up with my emotional episodes and all the baggage I brought from the relationship with my mother. I'm so thankful he came into my life when he did, he truelly saved me. Melissa

I volunteer my 13 year old.....heck some days I'd give her to you outright. Melissa

Oh had never heard that one 'god gave us family because he knew we would never pick them as friends" I'll have to remember next when some family member gets under my skin! Melissa

I will most likely NOT be on liquids sigh...have hit another delay. All I can do is keep chugging along. I'll get there eventually, cause I KNOW someday I will run out of things to slow me down! HEHEH I have the h prytori in my stomach. It apparently can cause ulcers, though fortuantly I don't have any. But before I can get the okay for surgery I have to be on a round of antibiotics to get rid of them. So for the next 2 weeks I will be taking 19 pills a day. Then after a certain amount of time I have to be retested to make sure they got them. The nurse made alot of sense now that I think about it...but I really just didn't want to hear another delay. So picked up my 75 dollars worth of drugs (my cost) and will start them tomorrow. Melissa

I asked similiar questions...here are some of mine that i didn't see already listed or that were a bit different. In your opinion what is the difference between a lapbander at goal and one struggling with the band? How soon can I return to weight lifting? ( I was told 2 weeks, so I'm thrilled ) Will the port interfer with any of my ab workouts? Have you had anyone have revison surgery from a lap band to another wls...and in your view was this band failure or non compliance. I have others but the actual paper I wrote them all isn't here right now, will post more later. Melissa

I'll be there

Thanks guys...I kinda regret posting this...as in the lightof day and normal hours I'm feeling a little silly. Jodie I am sorry that happened to you, it sounds like you did the right thing and stood up. I can't imagine how hard it would have been to have ongoing harrassment like that. I was at least able to avoid my mom's boss from then on out, especially being alone in a room with him about. Kim, thanks for telling me more about the test, I have been going crazy thinking it going to show I'm crazy LOL. Loreli thanks I've already had the lets sit down and chat bit of test just waiting for the test he has to give me for my particular surgeon. It probally doesn't help that hubby is out of town all week, so my best friend isn't here to keep my confidence fire stoked. LOL Melissa Melissa

I don't have blue cross, but wanted to say hi and welcome. I'm just waiting on one more test and then I'll start the insurance waiting game myself . Good luck. Melissa

Once when I lost almost 50lbs on a diet and my aunts came to visit....my mom actually bragged on me. (It was rare) She said, can you believe it, Melissa is lost almost 50lbs. My aunt who isn't a skinny ninny said, "looks like she needs to loose about 50lb more" It was almost true, but it was rather harsh at the time. My 5 year old she tells me I'm not fat, I so want to loose the weight before she realizes I am. LOL Which since she starts kindergarten this year, won't be long. Melissa

Kim, You would just go 77 south..take the arrowwood exit and its right at the bottom of the exit ramp. Its pretty new (less than a year I think). Diane I have no promblem with you eating what ya want, and don't think others do either. I mean we all have family members who eat foods that we don't eat. I'm really hoping I"m on my "liquid" diet by then...and If I am I plan to just order a sugar free tea, and chat . Melissa

Are we stuck on ihop? Is it because they have eggs? What about Ruby Tuesdays? Its right at 77/arrowwood, should be easy for kim to get to that day, not too difficult for the rest of us either. They have Soups and stuff like that I believe. The Ihop is near there too. There is a Ihop at 77/woodlawn too that would be easy for everyone to get to as well. Not as far for the concord crowd to go to. Melissa

I think the one at 485/49 south charlotte is pretty easy to get to for everyone? So looks like we are down to two dates, but The 27th is the best for everyone right now...especially if we meet closer to lunch time around 11 giving Kim time to get her consignment fix. Maybe we can get like a certain day like the first saturday a month, or whatever for future meetings? Find something that works best for everyone that way we can kinda know tenativly we have a gathering that day when we are scheduling things?

Still wide open for dates here, though I do need to let the guy know soon when he can do my hair. Apparently he is pratically rubbing his hands together because I told him he could do whatever he wanted. (he is starting to make me nervous...lol) So if everyone else can decide on a date...I'll be there. Looks like the 6th is the best date so far. Can anyone not do the 6th? And Peanut Butter...yeah I like the simply jif. On weight watchers though...peanut butter is just too many points for the bang. I try to go for "volume" foods when I can while doing weight watchers....otherwise I'm hungry all freaking day. This consignment....how big in sizes do they go up to? Karah wears a size 4 still....sometimes 3's...but not in long pants....they are too short. Melissa

Actually Kim, rDr. V told me I needed to loose 100ish (his words exactly) Considering I weighed in at 260 on his scale, and need to weight 155 according to him. I told him I liked my scale better...it says I only weigh 254. Course at home I weight in my birthday suit! LOL But anyway we at this moment have about the same to loose now. Went over my points today by 4....peanut butter is evil I tell ya. I think we are going to do without for awhile when this jar is empty. Melissa

Guys you are all doing so well! I'm a bit jealous...started doing the weight watcher thing today....hungry..and its driving me nuts. I did get 6 bags of clothes out of my closets for goodwill though. LOL Hubby is out of town, so thought I would start PURGING stuff we don't need. Wonder if I would get into any trouble if I started purging old computer parts? If I lost 40lbs I'd be at my lowest adult weight..I'm so proud of you guys. Charlotte area banders rock! Melissa

Ah, my insurance requires I see this one. So guess I'll wait it out. Only 2 more weeks now...and maybe they will work me in? We can always hope . Melissa

None at all, just reminded me that I will learn patience. LOL But as it is now I won't see they psych till august 1st...so dr. V's won't have all of their needed stuff until after that. Right now I haven't though about it much, been reading harry potter....but when that is gone I'm sure the obssession will come back! LOL Btw, have we decided when we are doing our next meeting. My husband does computer work for a hair person, and he is trading his services for hubby's. LOL So going to go in and get a total overall on the old mop. I'm a little frightened because I told him he could do anything to it he wanted except go pixie cut short! Anyway now that Diane is back maybe a date can be decided...even if we still work out a location . Melissa

I'm right there with you...I have managed gain 5lbs after maintaining the same weight for almost a year. Its crazy...I have vowed to do weight watchers again till i get a surgey date at least. Even if just to keep from gaining MORE lol. I'm actually hoping the antibiotics I got for the h pyrori bacteria will make me naseuaous so that I don't want to eat. Melissa