Gone4Now

LOL - I LOVE THAT! I think kids will say stuff like that and most are not trying to be mean. It's the ADULTS that suck. That mother was lazy for several reasons, and by the description of the kids' behavior and what he was eating, he may one day be fat, too.

I've been reading this (my mini-soap opera) and I'm sorry if I'm intruding on something that's personal. I'm guilty of going OH to view the profiles of people mentioned, but have no personal experience w/Sandy. Your post about responsibility reminded me of the Declaration of Independence. This weekend my daughter and I were watching that, and in one scene Nicholas Cage reads a section and explains that it means: If there is something wrong, those who have the ability to take action have the responsibility to take action. So, long story short, I believe that this quote is true. That if you know something is illegal, and that someone may hurt someone else then you should expose that person to the proper authorities and do what's necessary to protect people without that knowledge. (People like me, who may have stumbled onto that site rather than this one and followed ill-given advice. I'd be pissed if that had happened.) IMHO

- Being asked to leave a roller coaster because the restraint won't fit - Bathing suit season - Back to school night where I have to sit in the little chairs. I stand instead - Picnic bench seats that you have to climb through - Jumping, then stopping and having body parts still moving - Many enticing sexual positions I'd love to try...but that big 'ole bubble butt won't let me... - Cars that don't have tilt steering - Airplane seats, train seats, ANY public seating of any kind is too small. - Paying more money for my clothes than the same design that a size 10 pays. - Having fewer choices in clothing styles. - Job descrimination - Public toilet stalls and seats do dig at the legs! If I can manage to squeeze through the door that swings inward. - Walking up one flight of stairs and feeling my face get hot, sweaty, and red. And I'm breathing heavy, too. - Shorts ride up my crotch. - Stretch marks (which won't go away, I guess, but I won't get anymore!) - Not being able to go into the O.R. when my daughter had her tonsils out because I couldn't fit into the surgery jumpsuits that they provide for parents. - Bracelets don't fit - When I'm in a "regular" store, I go to the purses section, because that's all that will fit me. Even when friends say, "Here's an xxl...it's huge - It'll fit!" Um...No. - Buying t-shirts and sweats in the men's department. And, last, but not least: - The thought of not being alive or active enough to see my daughter's life, grandchildren, etc. I'm sure there are so many more things, but these are always on my mind.

You got your thinking all backwards! Reverse it and start thinking, "What am I going to think about HIM?" I did online dating for a couple years, and I learned to say volumptous, curvy for description in my profile. But, one-on-one emails, I'd be upfront and say that I was overweight, but "working on it" ha ha...etc. I also learned to gracefully excuse myself in the middle of the date when the men who said "6'1" were math impaired and meant 5'2", or any other truths that turned out not to be. After all, being big, I was looking for a big guy. People lie and it wastes time. So, I suggest being honest, but flattering about yourself. If they back out of the date after you describe yourself (or see pics) then good...move on the guy who's interested. Because there are plenty who are! Hope this helps, and doesn't scare you! I enjoyed online dating. Also, just take your chances...live and enjoy life. This guy probably isn't THE ONE, so just have fun with it. BREATHE....IN.....OUT.

It seems everytime I turn around someone is having a retirement/birthday/welcome to the company cake. If not that, then someone will go out and get Breakfast tacos. The smell is soooo good, I can't stand it! How do skinny people manage to sit and eat all day long? At 9am, they're talking about lunch! ARGH...what's a bander to do?

I did that the other night w/my boyfriend and best friend at dinner. They both turned to me and said, "Are you okay???" I was, mostly. I had taken too big of a bite. I'm not filled yet, but I still need to be careful until I am.

This is great - my friend emailed me again to tell me that she mentioned the exchange to her boss, and her boss sent the following email to that coworker: I would like to let you know that Anna notified me of your comments to her on her appearance. You noted a few things about her appearance like her face looks really good and that you liked what she did with it. - That is acceptable. You then noted that her hair looks good after a recent haircut and shows off her face better. - That is acceptable. The last comment to her was "you just need to lose a little weight and then you will look nicer". - That is not acceptable. Anna was sitting at the reception desk and your comments were in front of a guest waiting to meet with you. This is a sensitive issue for alot of people and should not be brought up or mentioned in the workplace.

Congrats! I know waiting, for me, is always frustrating. (I'm not all that patient.)

This site is great! I passed it along to my friends....It's sad, but it seems theraputic to those who send in. Good stuff. thank you.

I had to pay for the evaluation out of pocket. I ended up w/a qook that I really didn't like. But, he "passed" me...Mine was recommended by my doctor, and at an appt. the doc asked how I'd felt about the psych eval. I told him I didn't like the doctor that did it, that it was impersonal, etc... He said he'd consider stopping recommending him because I wasn't the first person to say something. Maybe you can talk to your insurance company and complain. They may or may not care of it, but if they do it would benefit you. Good luck!

My friend just sent this today, and I had to post it. She's talking about a coworker of hers who had a client in the lobby. "...She comes up to me and tells me how great my skin is looking, then said she loved my hair. That the cut looks good. Then follows all that with "If you lose a little weight it would be a good package" What the F*$%!!!! In front of a total stranger. I just said "Thank you I'm working on that."

I think I posted this before, but I've been fat since I was 10. If I could have done it just by dieting, I would have already. I needed the help, something to get me going. If your sister won't go and won't learn about the surgery, then I think that's too sad for her. Is she overweight, too? Is it jealousy? Or is she thin, and doesn't understand about being overweight? As always, in the end, you have to do what's best for you. No one else can make the decision for you, and they shouldn't think that they can.

That's awful! What was your relationship w/them after that, if you don't mind me asking? My ex-bf was skinny all his life, then gained a lot of weight when his mother moved out of state. At Christmas time she was visiting when she pulled out pictures of him and his ex girlfriend and was passing them around. She was saying to everyone, "Look how skinny he used to be! Can you believe that's him!" Over and over.... I'm a brat, so when she wasn't looking, I swiped the picture and tore it up. He didn't want it, and I didn't think he deserved that, but was too embarrassed to say anything to the family. Everyone else just hmmm'ed and ohhh'ed. What do you say to stuff like that???

I am in the Order Management department of an Oil Tool Company based in Houston, TX. I love it! I moved from VA over a year ago and this was my third job in Houston. I found my niche! :eek:

That's the worst...having to laugh it off when you really just want to tell someone to go to hell.

I love this thread...It's a little theraputic for me. Grandma's: I had the same situation. My uncle's 3 daughters are about a size 3-5...they take after their mother. My grandmother used to crochet the 4 of us the same pattern sweaters. I was about 10-15 and I could never fit what she made me. At Christmas we'd open the gifts and have to try them on in front of everyone. How embarassing!!! I hated it. I think my Grandma took some sick pleasure in that...But that could be my own twisted thought! Doctor: I went to a back doctor because I had a lump on the base of my spine. It took him 5 seconds, he looked at it, felt it...then sat down and started writing on his pad. I asked what it was and he barely looked up at me to tell me it was a fat deposit from me being so overweight. His recommendation was to lose weight. While I'm glad it was *only* a fat deposit, it was very embarassing to sit there in the room, in all silence while he's scratching on his pad: FAT DEPOSIT. :eek:

Oh, yes...that was the first infraction...I think she took my comment back as an attack on her! She was always nasty to me when she'd come in after that. One year she didn't come in and I it was because she had passed away. I'm not normally nasty, but I just couldn't bring myself to go to the funeral w/my coworkers. Afterall, I'd be waaaay too fat to sit in the chairs and then I'd have to see all her "thinner and thinner" chicks? No, thank you.

I used to work in the front reception area for an accounting firm. One day, an older lady who owned a modeling agency came in. We were talking about other things when another employee (a very thin, attractive woman) from the back office walked through. The lady turned to me and said, "The ladies here get thinner and thinner!" Then, she looked me up and down and said, "It would be for you, too, if you backed away from the table once and a while." I was a bit upset and replied, "Well, since I left my feed bag at home I have to use to trough." She didn't say anything else, and our relationship was strained ever since. Why do some people think fat folks just sit and graze all day? I eat less than some people I know who can't put on weight. I used to work with a lady who had MS and was, maybe, 80 pounds. She tried hard to put on weight, but couldn't. I've been made fun of since high school, when boys thought it was fun to say, "Grab the harpoon! It's moving!" So, I've grown accustomed to making fun of myself before others do it first. But, when I'm not expecting it, someone will surprise me with how rude they can be.

My story is that I listened to my ex about not getting the lapband. This was about 4 years ago, and we were together for 6 years. My friends mother had surgery and I started looking into it. My insurance at the time would pay for it, and I was ready to go! But, I let him talk me out of it. Now I think if I'd gotten this then, I'd be at my goal weight now. I wish I had just done it, and not listened to him. I would try my best to educate him and find out his reasons why he's against it. Is he scared for your safety? Is he overweight and would be jealous? Is he insecure? Etc... I've been fat since I was about 10 years old. If I could have done this with diet and exercise I would have since then (I'm 32 now). I am trying to eat right now, and it's easier because I get full quickly. I do have to exercise and I have to MAKE myself exercise because I do hate it. But, I do it because it's what I want for myself.

Okay, I feel better about some of the thoughts I've had about stupid people. Several years back, a guy claimed he was going to jump off the Wilson bridge near DC. Traffic was backed up for over 6 hours!!! All because the police and officials catered to the guy, trying to talk him out of it. Save the people who want to live; who deserve to live. I was so mad. If he wants to jump - LET HIM. One more wacko we don't have to deal with later. Why in the world was all the time, man-hours, and money put into this guy? Yet, my daughter's school doesn't have enough money for paper/supplies. The whole system is upside down.

I was thinking of joining, too. I haven't been banded that long (9/5) but since then I've only lost 12 pounds and holding. I'm not eating poorly, and I'm exercising daily. From other posts that I've read, people drop 20 pounds here, another 10 there, etc...and I'm afraid that I won't lose anymore. I'm worried I won't feel restriction, since I'm not really feeling it now. I get full quicker and I'm sure a buffett would be out of the question! But, WW is healthy and the reason it never worked for me before was because I was never full enough. I was always hungry. So, those thoughts have been rolling in my head. I even bought a frozen WW dessert box for when I really need something, and it went down easily enough. Plus, you get the support for weight loss, and that's always been a plus for me. Let me know if you decide to join. Like I said, I'm still debating. The drawback is the weekly fee!

Hi there...I was banded on 9/5 and I was in pain for the first couple of weeks. My port burned and I twisted funny once and it felt like I had ripped something out. I never took the pain meds because I really don't like being on medication. But, the gas pain and port pain were terrible. I, too, felt that maybe I shouldn't have done it. I even said that to my bf, that if I'd known this I wouldn't have done it. But then it just went away. One day I woke up and everything was just better. Not 100%, but definitely I was at 95%. I took Wed the 5th through Friday the 14th off of work, returning on the 17th. I was a little stiff and HUNGRY! But overall, the pain was gone. I know everyone's different, but it's only been 9 days for you, so just give it time. Next week, you may be telling everyone: I LOVE MY BAND! I know I do every time I step on the scale!

What I've heard is that for every cup of coffee you drink, you need to drink a glass of water to counter the caffeine. I think same goes for tea. But, that's just what I heard. I know in WW they always said those counted as water, but at least 1/2 of your daily intake of water should be pure water. But, I've wondered if the same thing, and if WW water rules are the same for the band.

May I ask - what diet are you following? I was banded on 9/5/07 and I'm only down 12 since the surgery. I've been following the mushies stage, and exercising. Don't get me wrong - I'm crazy about the 12 pounds gone, but I get anxious when I see others dropping so quickly. Am I doing something wrong? My fill is Oct. 12.

Several years ago my family and I took a road trip through Michigan and up to the Upper Penisula, then into Canada. I remember Michigan was so beautiful! Actually, I think most states have living appeal. I can see that it's hard to chose just one unless you have a heartfelt connection to it.