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pjtp - I'm a little torn right now over a little girl in my "extended" family. I say extended b/c it's my best friend's sister-in-law's neice. Long train to follow, but we're all pretty close. On FB, this young girl (she's 14, I think) posts really sad things. Things like, "No one loves me" and "I tried to love him but he broke my heart. Now I want to die." Crap that is obviously calling out for some help, IMO. And it's every day, all day long. Once I posted: Aren't you in school??? and no response - so I'm not sure if she's skipping, or what. I sent her an email telling her I'm there for her, but I want to do more. She's in VA, and I've emailed her aunt, too. But...wow. At 14 if she's feeling this sad and alone, what's 16, 18...etc going to bring?

Ha! Love it...

Only if they're hot like KC's guys.

***Peace offering #2*** Plus, that was a rude post and I lost a little respect for myself by posting it... No more underlying pokes...

Waiting on pics....

yeah...we still laugh about it. I could hear her saying, "ew!" and then all of a sudden a really loud "EW-EW-EW-EW!!!!" She thought at first it was a toy, smack in the middle of her bed, and that was gross enough. Then she got closer and saw what it was and REALLY freaked out. Lu...how's your kitchen? Music too loud?

Once, when SF was first diagnosed and not on the right meds, he was in his underwear in the parking lot of the apts where they lived. He had been yelling and harassing the receptionist girls, and they'd called the police. Mom and I pulled into the parking lot to see him hold the remote in his hand, pointing it at the cops and telling them he could turn them off with it...he knew the "code". Later, once he was better, we told him that and he had no clue - no memory of it and was very embarassed to have been wandering in his underwear. I had taken phone pics and showed him and he cried. It hurt to see him like that. He's a good guy...

It's hard when it's not someone's "fault" to leave, but sometimes you have to do what's safe for you and your kids. When my step-father is off his meds, I will not be around him and he is not allowed around my daughter. My mother chooses to stay - that's her deal, but I cannot put my daughter into that environment. It's not right for kids to be put in harms way - and with that personality disorder it is harms way. Whether it's malicious intent or not. SF will go off his meds and kick dogs, and fight with people, tear down walls in the house, things he'd never do when he was "normal". He's a sweetie - when he's medicated. When he's not, he's dangerous. And, the meds work when his life is stable. Any changes, like seasons, for instance, or moving...or a new shirt - will set him off. There is no peace like that...for you or your girls. I feel for you, it's tough...but you gotta look at the options and choices. Please go to a support group...they'll have so much love and compassion for what you're going through, and it could really help you take steps to work out your future, no matter what you chose to do.

Actually, Tara and her friend were like that last year. Crying because they hadn't had a date in forever...blah blah. Now they're not like that!

Just one, B? Hell...I go through that like it's a shot glass.

~~~~ Change of thought - PinkPassion is on OH. I don't like that site, and rarely go, but got an email alert and decided to check it out. I saw a post by her and it's eloquent and not at all trash-talk. I thought it was interesting that her environment changed and so did she. It made me think to lbt and how maybe that it's changing for the worse...becoming what OH used to be known as. That's a shame. ~~~~ Okay...back on subject...sorry! I've heard the mods say that it doesn't work the other way. That they can't ignore anyone. Pity. Maybe that's why they delete willy-nilly.

I agree! Thank you for chiming in. Argh...it's not even my fight, but then they went and made it personal! LOL

Well, two things were deleted...mine and the other's. So, not sure why? I never received an email or warning or anything before it happened. And, to be fair - I don't know who did it. I can only guess. I can get sarcastic...but I do prefer to be fair. I will hold off tossing out speculation until I know more. Actually, I refreshed the page several times, closed window, logged back on...just to be sure that the posts were gone. I didn't want to jump to conclusions.... Besides, maybe asking WTF is a little beyond my duties as a member to just shut up, drink wine and contribute positive feedback about lbt.

I'm iffey on that one...I think the girls that were bigger had a lot of emotional stuff. The ones that are left *seem* to be more secure. Though...I admit, I can't watch the whole thing yet. But, that's why I can't get through it...I keep yelling at the tv - I want to help these girls and tell them they're gorgeous...learn to love who YOU are - not THAT GUY!!! But, they don't listen to me. So, was crazy the one saying, "I'll tell you all the juice?" or the "I love you, I love you" one?

KC - me, too! I loved him, and felt so badly for him. If he's there, I'm rooting for him. That girl that "won" the spot at the finale was too giggly for me...but we'll see - she coulda just been nervous. But, I really hope they're not like the More to Love chicks with the crying no one loves me BS...You're fat, not dead...it's okay. :thumbup:

Oh, no, sugah...

NO, it's not. Oh, I guess I disagree again. I'm so horrible. Where's my damn wine??? But, sweetie...that's what being passive agressive is about. Bless your heart. Amen! Thank you! I think that a mod who takes it that personal is in a slippery slope of bad-authority decision making. I appreciate that, Lu. I know you don't get involved w/stuff and I agree that I wish HH had found ignore. NOPE. There was another. (two, actually, mine and someone else's.)

WHAT THE DUECE?!? Your bmi ticker is still there!? I don't have the power after all...? Who knew?

Apparently not, Brandy. Or rather, you can say it, but it can/will be censored and/or deleted if you say something "wrong". And, you know, Brandy...I really don't like your bmi ticker...I am deleting your post. *pooof...gone.... Ahh...nothing like a side of power to go with my wine.

Yeah, and hey...don't look now, but THAT'S what I meant when I mentioned being silenced too easily.

Did you delete mine and Susan's too? :thumbup:

Maybe they shot it somewhere else...and it didn't fall right away?....dog came, got it, left feathers? I dunno...never bird hunted. Never really hunted, just cleaned it up. I am not sure I could. I always wanted to, and I think I could do it, but I don't know. I think I'll just stick to grilling it. :thumbup: I do that best.

No shots at all? Weird! The lab only brought one dead bird in, when we first got her. Plopped it right on DD's bed. I heard her yelling, and the lab was hiding. I told DD, she was just bringing a gift. But, no more gifts have come. :thumbup:

Aw, shucks, tpg - that's just the wine talking. Oh, wait...I'm the one that's been drinking. How's that work? Hm.... :mad: I just feel that someone was wronged, and for some reason I can't let it go. Maybe because he's not allowed here to fight for himself? I hate being silenced and would want someone on my side... He's got us, though, right? :thumbup: Night! (Again, and for real this time!)

Ah...luvs you, too SNT. Being curious, tipsy, tired and pissed, I've looked up a few threads here and I still think Headhunter got a really fucking raw deal. He got ganged up on by someone "mean" (I can say that without being banned, because clearly it's acceptable....see reference in Please Help -http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f178/please-help-98595/index4.html ) She's "nasty, rude and arrogant" (I can say that without being banned, because clearly it's acceptable....see page 3 of Please Help - http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f178/please-help-98595/index4.html ) Her opinions are "total BS" (I can say that without being banned, because clearly it's acceptable...see page 1 of http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f84/banding-out-usa-98764/#post1280255 ) IMO she stalks people who ARE far superior in intellect, I think that "somebody needs to kick that jackass in the balls. What a whiney biatch." (Clearly acceptable....blah blah...see Page 2 of http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f80/ghetto-99129/index2.html ) Can someone please explain to me ...oh, wait. I forgot. Asking for explanations is futile. Calling someone names, then running and telling the mods you're feelings were hurt. I feel so...so...dehumanized. Who's the whiney biatch? (Oh, and in all the threads I've read, you make one consistent error - loose vs. lose. Learn the difference. You're on a weight loss forum.) Grow a pair (not pear, btw). And with that, good night.