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Ew....a Newbie Bander? Ugg. I'm going back to PJTP.

That's where I find the toughest line to draw. She's cleaner than I am, so her room and the bathroom she uses is spotless. Every now and then her cereal bowl is left in the living room, but she's good about keeping things neat. I feel weird paying her for something she does naturally, but maybe I do need to reward her for being really clean. What I'd really like to pay her for is the attitude. She's getting that "tone" and I HATE it. The eye rolls and tone make me go into crazy-bitch-mom mode and that's when we argue. Anyone pay their kids to be nice? I mentioned that to DH and he flipped. "In my day" arguments ensue anytime I try to work with DD. He really believes that kids should be snapped back into reality, and I do to a point. I also think times have changed so much, that it may be harder to stop it than to work with it. As for internet accounts, cell phones, all that...I have DD's passwords and have openly told her that if she uses my computer, it's in the living room and I know the passwords. No texting crap, because I read it. If she doesn't like it, she can hand over her phone and get off the computer. I also set up a google alert for her name and any names she goes by.

While you're working, I'll taking - my flag, my trophy! For I am THE WINNER!!!!

When there this age, the only times they smile at you is because they want a ride somewhere or money. Or both. It just seemed to happen overnight, too. One day she was normal and the next...not so much. Anyone out there have a little hellion and turned it around? If so, how? What freedoms do you limit and which ones do you allow for?

I don't hide too much of my past. I haven't told her everything, but she knows I used to do be one of the bad kids and that life has been hard up until now. Growing up my mom used to mix softened butter with karo syrup, and we'd dip bread into. Gee... Why am I fat? And, it is still Wednesday! You nailed it, because all week it's felt like this! I'd told DD she can talk to me about anything, but she doesn't. She's so private and that's what scares me the most. She won't even raise her hand in class because she doesn't like to talk. I worry that she'll think of something and not share with anyone. But, yeah, her friends are starting to call me mom. DH can't stand that their always at our house, but I'd rather that than not even know where she is. Nah...it'd be Wednesday. DD doesn't outright lie, she just doesn't answer the question fully. She's getting good at being sneaky, so now I have to ask my questions with as many parameters as I can think of: "Did you do ALL the homework that ANY teacher assigned to you at ANY time, due ANY DAY this YEAR?" That's when she shrugs and says, "I guess so." ARRRRGGGHHHH!!!!!!

That's what I did, too. I think eyeliner and boobs was under the "stuff"...I'm at work now so it's blocked.

I'd like to just go ahead and skip that 13-18 phase. I was horrible, too. I snuck out, I lied, I smoked, I had sex - it got to the point where mom no longer cared. I'd just tell her, "I'm leaving and will be back next week." She'd just say, "Okay." I'm lucky I'm alive, really. I want DD to be better than me, but it looks like she's got that sneakiness to her that I had. Funny, she thinks her ideas are fresh and new. Sorry, kid...been there. Done that.

It's funny, I wore a blue shirt and brown pants just like this today. Yeah, my wardrobe is boring.

hmm...okay wrong one.

Hope this works...I'm not good at this.

Oooh...You could say lots of stuff. Bash Christians to start....or Octopussy, who's right up there w/Jesus, then move into Bush bashing. Then send me the link.

Remember, was it Michelle or Ali or the other chick that didn't win...first couples season??? that hit a wall. I think it happens to everyone. I didn't get that! Why not? I didn't like that editing at all. I think they did it to show, look, Tara lost by 5 minutes...not the 30 she'd have gotten if they added up all the cookies. Yes! DH said that, too....that wow, she's kinda classy and nice looking. Also, I was sobbing at the son who's still fat. Poor dude...I really hope he gets a chance to lose it. Yes! I am GRRRRing right with you. Yes. When you see it every week, you don't realize how much they've lost. But, they really look different. The blue cousin that won, especially. Whiny babies? Yes. Hoties? Yes. My, my....

Me, too! I just can't think that quickly.

NOOO...Don't listen to that insecure butthead. Why would he even say that??? What an utter ASS for even saying that. Is that why HE'S with you? Is that all HE thinks you have to offer???? He's telling you that to keep you DOWN. We're giving you advice to lift you UP. I say dump the ASS, move out on your own and take care of you and your son. (What's your son see of your relationship w/current bf, by the way? Is he learning that behavior? I'd RUN, RUN, RUN from that jerk.) Date every now and then and find the RIGHT ONE. He's out there.

Wow, Beth...I posted like 50 words in the time that it took you to type 1000. But, well said...

I so hope you're joking! I think (since you asked) that you really need to figure out what you want. It seems from an outsider like me that you are really enjoying the attention - and that's okay, just know that it *could* get you into trouble. PJTP - I really don't want to be here today. My mind is NOT focused on work.

Hey...I hooked up with a guy from work! I wouldn't keep the ring. And, I wouldn't go on any more dates either, until I was done with the first guy. Sorry, SMS, but what the heck's going on?

We love AT&T and will never go back to Comcast if we can help it. Don't know other services to compare it to...but AT&T has worked out well for us.

This was definitely more of the tear jerker show. I thought it was interesting the the blue-boys blew up at Jillian and won't work with her, but still hand her their shirts to hold. I want to be Tara when I grow up. I'm 100% behind her.

Good luck.

Not weird!!! Unique.

DD is 11 almost 12, and the girl is 13...don't know if she's close to 14 or not. We use U-Verse...

I like Jillian. I think I'd like Bob, too, since we really don't see it all. But, overall I'd prefer someone like Jillian working me. But, that's what is so great - folks who hate that then they can route for Bob. I did see on an interview that they're looking for another trainer...although they said they're not getting rid of Jillian or Bob. So, that should be interesting...maybe 3 teams?

I haven't seen any more movies lately at all! Time's just flown by. Had a chance to see Taken and Seven Pounds, but couldn't get the time.

Carrie...How did your talk go? Are you guys okay now?