Gone4Now

The fact that so many people become emotionally attached to famous folks amazes me. If he was your bff, then I am sorry for whatever loss that causes you. For me, he was a just an f'ed up singer who touched little boys. Anyone who worships that is just as sick, IMO.

Good luck, Beth! I know I would get lectures daily if mine ever read my blog. :bored: As it is I feel weird that friends read it! And good morning everyone!

That's the tough part...My mom lives one minute away. My daughter will call me and say, "Grandma picked me up and we're going swimming." I know I can't be there for DD when she gets home from school, and I'm not sure being alone would be better/worse than being with my mom. She was alone for a while and she was hanging around kids from the bus stop and was started to act up a little bit. So, I feel guilty for leaving her at home alone, and I feel guilty for exposing her to my mother - my only two options financially. I always make the excuse that she helps me by watching my dogs when we go visit DH's parents out of town, and by watching DD after school. But the emotional beat down is just getting to me.

ARGH!!!! Computers at work are acting funny and my previous post posted twice. Deleting duplicate.

What she said! What she said!!! Oi! I don't envy the moving! I *hope* we'll be there in a few months, but I won't believe it until I'm in the new house and unpacking, and venting on LBT & FB about what a PITA moving is! :wub: Good luck, Susan!

I am not a vegan, but thought I'd plug this site for my daughter's sister (her dad's oldest daughter). DD's dad and sister are both vegan and he used to make the most delicious things! Home Her name is Ebony and she's a sweetheart! She's worked really hard for this, so and I'm so proud of her!

Beth - wow...is your mom MY mom? Cut from the same cloth, at least! When I told my mother that I wanted my daughter to be my maid of honor and my best friend to get an online certificate and marry us, she just wails - OH NO...OOOOHHH NO. Like I've hurt her. She does that with everything I do, like I'm making a huge mistake. I told her about the wedding, I'm going to plan it and you're going to listen and when I tell you things you'll say: ooh and ahhh. Nothing negative - at all. It's what I want, not what you want. - She pouted for a little while and then got over it. I feel the same way...that she put me down all my life and I believe it! Right now, my daughter goes to her house in the afternoons. I'm *still* considering "breaking it off" but keep talking myself out of it, for some reason. My daughter is overweight and we have been struggling with it. I still don't understand why she was gaining - until now anyway. I had to discuss with her that my mother WILL try to sabotage her diet. Grandma doesn't want her to be healthy because Grandma's not healthy. Two days since we had that conversation and my mother bought my daughter pastry horns w/icing inside, and today brought her over a second Breakfast - SCRAPPLE!!!! I was proud of DD that she turned both down (actually, she smashed the horns into bits!) and that she's texting me when these things happen. I think before, mom was sneaking her food and she was eating it and not telling me. All this stuff makes me want to smash my mother's face in...but she's still my mom. She puts me down, points out all my flaws, and yet I still care about her and want to help her. Sorry...your story kinda triggered anger in my mom all over again! :thumbup: But, I "feel your pain"! I think you're smart and can do anything you want to do - don't listen to the old bat! If she can't see the accomplishments you've had, then it's not you that's the problem; it's her.

This week: Monday - helped my friend for 3 hours unload her moving truck that arrived from VA. (Last weekend I helped load it!) Definitely earned points for when we move - if we ever move. :thumbup: Last night - Went to gym for first time in a month. The guy that checks us in, said, "Welcome back!" Ugg...don't remind me that I'm a slacker, man! C'mon... I did the random setting on the eliptical and tried to keep a pace between 7.0 and 10. My legs are strong and can keep up at that pace, but my arms are hurting this morning! :thumbup: Tonight: Probably same routine at the gym, or swimming.

Thank you so much! That helps me. I don't think I'm strong enough, either. I can limit my time, or tell her enough when I need to. I did cave and tell her about the up coming wedding. A friend of mine offered to get an officiant's online to save us some money and when I told my mother, I got the response I was accustomed to - a bitchy moan, followed with a "Oh, NO!" So, I told her, "Hey, you're lucky to be invited since we were thinking of eloping. I will tell you about it and you will say, "oh, that's great" or nothing at all." She pouted for about 5 seconds and then was happy for me. :biggrin: Nothing ever really changes.

Is it you? :sad:

You know...I thought I'd be an old pro at that heat thing, but going to VA knocked me out. It was just as hot there as it is here (Houston). The difference was early morning and evening, things cooled off. But, I got hotter there than I thought I would after being used to Houston now. And, I am. I leave work frozen like ice, and don't turn on the air or open windows in the car until I'm a mile down the road. I used to have a/c jacked to 60 and was still kinda warm. (That was at 300 lbs, so maybe that had something to do with it...I dunno.) But, now I'm good at 75 in the house. And, good meaning kinda chilly. I still don't ENJOY being hot. It's just that my "hot" came up a few degrees in the last couple of years.

Went swimming again last night. I don't know why, but we had a whole "Lord of the Rings" theme. One lap was a Frodo, because he was the one to carry the ring. Two laps was a Bilbo. Based on "There and Back Again - A Hobbit's Tale" And three laps was a Mordor. (Although, it really was more like a 'mutha'!) By the end of it we were huffing and puffing, but she still kicked my butt. One thing I realized I need to break is her saying, "I can't breath" and getting out of doing something. Like I mentioned, we were swimming pretty hard and she threw out there that she couldn't breath and I said, "No, you CAN breath - you're just breathing hard." So, we'll be doing that today, too! Every day after work.

Morning! It's Friday. DH will be going to visit his folks this weekend, and since I was gone last weekend, I'm spending this Father's Day w/DD. I want to try to get to Galveston, and just spend the day with her. Gotta get through one more week day, though.... Just. One. More! How's everyone doing today?

Awesome! Thank you so much for that. That makes me feel much better. Also, great instructions! Yes, they look great! Um, I think between our daughters we have it covered, but if one backs out - I'll call ya! Thank you! It DOES feel right! I just wish it were already over and done with. An elopement to Vegas sounds better and better....

You ladies seem so good at construction stuff - I think I'd like it if I knew what I was doing. I want to retile our bathroom wall before we sell this house. But, I'm really nervous about starting it and not being able to finish, and someone coming in and saying: haha..you really messed THIS up! Any tips for bathroom walls? (The floors are good, and tub is o.k. but the wall tiles - ick.)

Ack! You put it that way and I freak out a little. I'm kinda independent and I'm having a hard time. I WANT this, but I'm scared of it.

You know...my DD's family never makes racist jokes, or slurs. But, a lot of black people say bad things about white folks that I find offensive. Why is that okay? I really mean that as an honest question. I don't get why society is okay with white bashing. I really think ALL types of racism should go away. I don't want to be hated because I'm white - I don't hate anyone for not being white. Oh, yeah...this reminds me of a teaching technique someone told me about once. One day, their professor in college stood at the door and would "assess" the students coming in. He wouldn't say anything but look at them and point to the front or back of the room, directing them where to sit. During the class, he would only answer the students in the front and talk to them, ignoring or degrading the students in the back. The students in the back were getting really angry, but he never answered them. At the end of class he explained: he'd sorted them out by what color eyes they had. He said, "How does it feel to be treated badly for something that you were born with?" It was lesson that, even after just hearing about it, stuck with me for a long time.

Okay, ya'll. I kind of have news, but part of me doesn't believe it, so I'm kinda scared to announce it to my "real life" folks. DH isn't really DH, he's been DBF for over 2 years, and I just refer to him as DH for simplicity. Well, as of January 1, 2010 he really will be DH and I will be his DW. And, I keep giving him crap that he hasn't asked "the right way" yet so I should believe it since he's asked about 5 times.

Tap - testing cals don't count.

*slinking into thread... I am still working on my exercise habits. I have been packing (me) and moving (my friends!) and I really haven't done any formal exercise in a month. Last night I went swimming with DD and she's been swimming laps. She's still overweight, but loves swimming and is thinking of trying out for the swim team next year. She's concerned about her body, though, and is working on becoming healthy. Well, her lap practice paid off because she kicked my butt 3 out of 5 times. I'm fat, and couldn't go head to head with a real athlete, but I am a strong swimmer and always have been. She was so happy (and vocal) that she'd beaten me! I was very proud of her! It also showed me that I hadn't been doing what I should have been doing. So, since the pool is right there, I'll be doing that in the evenings after work while the weather is nice!

I can't believe I haven't seen movies lately! The last one was Star Trek... I want to see Hangover because reviews (from folks) are good. I hear it's really funny. Other than that...eh...What's out there? I'm waiting for Harry Potter, but it's a slow summer so far.

Did you change your name recently? Cuz, "there can be only one."

I agree with Beth that I would need more proof before jumping to conclusions, but I do think the OP may have more of an insight since she was there - not because she is black and trying to see racism in every corner. I think racism IS alive and well, going both directions. (Along with every other -ism there is. Stupid people exist and walk among us.) I've had black people get in my face and call me names and kick, push and shove me. I know it was racism because of the words they used to express their hatred of me. The situation on the bus could have been racism, could have been fatism, could have been both! Could have been the smell...I dunno. But I don't care. My daughter is mixed and if we get weird looks when we go out, we don't notice. I have never noticed anyone giving us strange looks. Ever. People are a little slow to assume she's mine, but that's an awkwardness that's slowly seeping away, too. With so many adoptions, I think most folks just assume that's the case. But again - I don't care about them. We don't care about the stupid people. I will say coming from Northern Virginia to TX was a culture shock. In VA I never noticed race jokes. It wasn't accepted and the group of people (all races, sizes, etc.) didn't even consider race jokes. If I get race jokes emailed to me I reply, "DO NOT SEND THESE TO ME". But I don't just delete them. I let the person know. Or if I someone tells a joke that includes a racist slur, I'll play dumb and ask, "What do you mean? I don't get it." My boss is a black woman and she was telling me a story about a lady she met once. She said for about 5 years she had a phone conversation with a vendor once a week. After a while, they would merge the conversation into more personal stuff, talking about husbands and kids, etc. One day they met and the lady shook her hand like a cold fish. My boss was going to give her a hug, since she felt so close to the woman, but the woman stuck her hand out. She said after that meeting, the woman changed the vendor account contact to another person and she never talked to her again. THAT sucks, and hearing it made me cry. I never want anyone to do that to me, or my daughter. I will never understand why people judge folks by what's outside, when the real value is inside.

PJTP - Morning to all... I showed my mother the pictures of the house (her father built it) and she cried. It's really a sad moment when the house you love is run down so badly that there really isn't any coming back from it. I guess that's why memories are so precious. Hope everyone is doing well, and have a great day! I have a ton of work to do and I SO do not wanna do it! Time to roll up the sleeves and dive in.

:w00t: Yes! That's how I feel... to the letter! eh...they blocked it at work, so my FB time as dwindled significantly! Although, I can't blame them...it is their dime. :blushing: Ouch! Good luck with that! I have been there, and hated it! I hope it all works out.