mj0920

Good Morning. I just started my pre-sleeve prep earlier in the month. I am down 10lbs in 12 days. This is the first time in a very long time that I feel in control again. However, I have a lot of concerns that I am making the right decision. Any thoughts on some of my random worries would be greatly appreciated. 1. I work in a surgical practice. The office staff (mostly women) are very catty. I really don't want any of them knowing I am having biriatric surgery. It is going to be difficult to "hide" since the surgery will take place at our sister hospital & I will have to ask management for time off. I recently had a robotic hysterectomy & was driving 5 days later. I hope to bounce back from this quickly so I don't have to take off too much work & hopefully have it go relatively "unnoticed". I will be using vacation days instead of sick leave because I don't want to have to tell my managers why either. They all talk! Thoughts? 2. I also fear not being able to eat/drink later at my son's wedding. I will be 6 months out from having surgery on the "big day". I want to be able to enjoy the dinner, cake & wine that we are paying a ton of money for. I'm not a huge sweet eater normally, I'm more addicted to chips/dip type foods, but I want to enjoy his day, including the food. I like my wine. I've read that it is absorbed 4x faster after surgery. Thoughts? 3. We socialize a tremendous amount during football season. We host many game day events with tons of "tailgate food". I'm just so scared of loosing the enjoyment of socializing if I can't take part of the preparations any more. I really need to lose this weight. My health issues/age are beginning to be problematic. I just fear this is such a big step. Is this feeling normal? Is there a happy medium in the "after surgery" life? Thank you so much for your time. MJ

Thank you all for the replies & support. This is such a major decision that I really want to make the right choice. The work situation is really tough. There is ONE trouble maker in the group. I keep to myself most of the time. I'm taking this on just as my divorce finalizes. My son's wedding will be stressful since I will only know my immediate family (8 people) & my ex-husband's family (20 people), otherwise the other 100+ people belong to the bride's side. I just want to make sure I can feel comfortable if I want to eat/fit in the celebration. I guess time will be on my side & I will be feeling better about handling it in the upcoming months. Right now it is all a little overwhelming.