RuthFour

Hi, my name is Ruth and I'm considering the surgery and have started the process. I live in Canada and as I'm over 35 BMI, I qualify for the surgery (Roux en y) or at least qualify to start the process to see if I qualify health wise. I had an appointment about a month ago (nutritionist and behaviorist) and they scared the crap out of me. Now I understand they have to cover their ass to let me know the risks but it almost felt they were trying to talk me out of it. Anyway, I'm afraid now. I'm 60 and feel like 30 in my head and 80 in my body and at times behave like an 8 year old and love that I can regress like that. But I am afraid of the future as I get older and begin to feel my mortality. I am 280 plus pounds and have been wanting to lose this weight for a long time now (20 years). I believe the cut off time for this surgery is 65. (By the way, I tend to ramble so forgive me if I go off on a tangent). My partner, while he tries to help me, is not exactly supportive in that he brings home food that should not be in the house. Also a big reason for me going for the surgery.

I love food, no doubt, and have started Weight Watchers in the hopes that I can gain some ground but my craving always wins. I feel so pitiful for not being able to commit and be accountable. When I heard about the cravings being reduced after surgery that's when I decided to move forward in the hopes that if I can get rid of most of the cravings, it will give me the jump start I need. I just don't want to delude myself.

I've come to this forum to hopefully get some reassurance and information from people who have had the surgery and hopefully from people around my age as it relates to the fear. Bowel obstruction scares me and would like to know if complications are the norm or how likely am I to regret this.

Anyway, I'm going to stop typing now, but I appreciate any responses I can get to help me feel more confident about the surgery. Thanks for listening.