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You can do it Kristina!

Maria - Thanks! Good luck to you as well. I've always been afraid of quitting because I know I would have replace that cigg with something to eat. Now I don't have to worry about gaining while quitting because I am putting all my focus into the lapband and my eating habbits. No time to even think about a cigg.

I understand that's what the lady said in the dr's office but that does not make it true for everyone that has insurance coverage. Nobody has a right to say that they want it more than anyone else on here. We are all equal and have suffered enough in life. We do not need our internet "support system" saying that because we have insurance we wont appreciate the chance at a happier, healthier life! This just upsets me because we all have been outcasted in many, many occasions and now some of us are being thrown under the bus just because we we have insurance coverage? I guess I can start to list many reasons that I could want it more than some else on here but that is petty and immature. My whold point is that we should not be a divided group, insurance/self pay. We are all in this for the same reason and yes some may suceed and some may fail but lets not point fingers so soon and support everyone on their journy.

I don't understand how you can say that because you are paying out of pocket it means more to you. Being banded is the biggest and most important decision of my life. I decided a few months ago, before I even knew my insurance would pay, that I was ready to go full on with this procedure. Yes, I am one of the lucky ones that doesn't have to come up with thousands of dollars but that does not, no way, mean that I wont appreciate it just as much as some who does have to pay out of pocket. I would love to see the studies that you all have come up with that show insurance payers/out of pockets payers statistics. I don't care how much you pay or don't pay if you aren't ready to face this full force you will fail. I am not on a diet now because I have chosen not to. Last month I went crazy with the eating because I felt like I was going to be losing something that I hold dear to my heart, food! Now I have come to realize that food should not be on the top of my list. I have starting watching what I am eating but I will not go on a pre-op liquid diet before. Does that mean that I am not taking this surgery serious? NO Please don't judge us insurance payers as slackers because that is not the case at all!!!! I am sure if you had the privlage you would be just has determined as I am.

My doctor isn't putting me on a pre-op diet. He told me that any weight loss before surgery would be good but that I didn't have to go on a specific diet. I am getting really excited that the date is coming soon but deep down I am pretty scared, not of the surgery but of the lifestyle change. I've relied on food for comfort for so long the mental side is going to be the hardest to overcome. Anyone else out there quiting smoking as well? I never was a big smoker, maybe a pack of week, but now I am not even doing that. It's been 3 1/2 week since I've had one and I will NEVER pick another one up again. What is the use of getting the lapband to save mylife if I am going to be puffing on ciggs?

I feel the same way. I've been there when the nice looking guy holds the door open for the skinny blonde in front of me and then just lets it go in my face. I've have NEVER been the one to get hit on when out with my girlfriends. I used to always be the one sitting at the bar alone while all my friends were on the dance floor having a good time. I am married now as well but it would be nice to have a guy, other than my husband, think I was attractive. Anyway, a little over 2 weeks to go and I will be on my way!

Welcome Forestcat! That's great that your insurance will now cover the lap band ! I too looked into it about a year ago and my insurance would not cover it. I decided a couple months ago to start looking into it again and to my surprise my insurance now covers. I was very excited!

Bobbi - Didn't even realize that we had the same BMI. It's pretty neat that we will be banded the same day and have the same goals! Saturday I met with a girl who had the lap band surgery two years ago. She was at the same party I was and we talked for about an hour. She has lost 115 lbs in two years and she said that for the past 6-8 months she has just been maintaining the weight. She looked GREAT and had nothing but encouraging things to say to me. She even brought me in the bathroom to show me the incisions and had me the feel the port. Out of the five incisions she had I could only see two of them good and I really had to push hard on her stomach to feel the part. I was very happy to meet and talk with her and I felt even more better about my decision for lap band when I left!

I've given up on feeling comfortable when I setp out of my house. No matter where I go or who I am with I always feel fat and out of place. In my mind everyone is looking at me and calling me the "fat girl". I can't wait until I can walk out my front door with my head held high. I avoid public places as much a possbile and prefer to sit at home. This of course, is not ok because I have a 2 year old. I think of all the things that she is missing out on because of me. I feel that she is being punished because of that. My husband and I have been planning a trip to Disney World next October and I really wasn't looking forward to it but now that I am to be banded on November 1st I am ready for a GREAT time at DW! I should be feeling really good about myself by then and have a lot more energy for all the walking we will be doing.

Congrats!!! We will be banded the same day!!

jrsyshoregrl - I have debated several times on what would be best for me. I know several people who have had bypass and only one who has had lapband. I feel that for me lapband will be more of a long term fix. I am afraid of getting bypass and in a few years stretching my stomach back to what it was before. I love the fact that lapband can be controlled by fills and unfills. If I decided to have another baby then I can get unfilled and still have that tool to help me shead those post pregnancy pounds. I believe it is a personal choice and everyone has to make the decision on what is best for them.

I went to a seminar about a year and half ago. I was really interested in the lap band but found out a few days later that my insurance would not cover it. I didn't have the money to pay out of pocket so I guess it just got forgotten about. Since then I've gained about 25 more pounds and have been miserable. I decided about a month ago that I was ready for the lap band not matter what. To my surprise, my insurance now covers it and that really pused me to getting it done. I had to wait about three weeks to meet with the surgen and was approved right away. I set up my date and now I am just waiting. I guess it all depends on your insurance, what kind of testing you may need and how busy the surgen is. If you are self pay then I'm sure it would be a little quicker. Since I've thought about it to my surgery date will be about 3 months I guess.

I am to be banded on November 1st and my husband had been very supportive. When I first looked into be being banded my insurance did not cover it. I decided at that time I could not afford another loan. It's been a year since then and my husband and I were discussing the possibilty of taking out a loan again. I called the local surgery center and they ran my insurance. To my surprise BCBSF is now covering lapband. I was very excited and booked my first consultation. Now that the date is getting closer my husband has been making comments towards me about it. He will say things to dicourage me and then make comments that I will leave him when I lose the weight. He was really supportive in the begining and was just as excited as me. Now, I he is becoming very insecure, defensive and worried that I am going to up and leave for some hot, new guy! I keep telling him that I am not having this surgery to start my life all over. I am doing this so I can enjoy the life that I have. Have any of your husbands/wives felt this way? How do I convince him that I am not going anywhere. We have been married for 3 years, have a 2 year old daughter and great family so I don't know where he is getting this from. Thanks! Vanessa

Dianne - Go to Quick Links at the top of the page and there should be an option to Edit Signature. You copy the code from the website and paste it in the signature box. I don't remember what code I used but I believe it said for message boards or something like that.

I have heard from some people that they were feeling fine the next day and then I heard from some that it took about a week. I've asked a few if it compared to a c-section and they have said it's much easier than that. I did fine with my c-section so am hoping I do well with the healing from this.

I've spoken with my boss and she said that whenever I wanted to have it done was fine with her. I am shooting for November 1st. I will not be getting paid but I am only going to miss three days. I am taking off Thursday (surgery day), Friday and Monday. Dr. Warden said that I should be fine to go back to my office job after a few days.

Dianne - I just realized that you can click on my ticker and it will bring you to the website to get one. Then you copy the code over to your signature.

April- OMG! I can't believe that someone would come up to you and tell you that! I guess it just goes to show that our feelings of everyone staring at us is correct! I would have made some kind of complaint against that woman. Who is she to tell you what size you need to be wearing? I've been in plus sizes since high school and the smallest I've been in about 10 years is a 16. I am now in a 22/24. I thought I was so fat in high school but I would love to be that size again. Dianne - Welcome! I am pretty new here as well and I don't know the ends and outs of everything. I saw on another thread where to get the ticker from but I don't even remember the website. Sorry but it looks like I am no help.

Laura - For my insurance to cover you have to be 100lbs over weight or have 3 or more medical conditions that they list. Well, he isn't 100lbs overwieght and he doesn't have any medical conditions. I think, just like you say, the more he gets used to me losing the weight the better he will feel. I am going to motivate him to lose the extra weight while I am losing it as well!

Men have insecurities just as well as woman. Does this make them bad husbands? No! I can understand where my husband is coming from. He is not in the best shape right now and does not qualify for LapBand because he isn't 100+. He needs to lose about 60lbs. What he is feeling to me, is normal and I think if the shoe were on the other foot I would be feeling the same. I am not happy at all with myself right now and if he were to be losing a lot of weight I know it would make me nervous that he will find some skinny, cute chick. That's all I can do is assure him that I am not going anywhere and maybe once I start the lose the weight it will motivate him to start droping some pounds as well.

Another November 1st! The best thing about this date is that instaed of gaining weight from eating all the candy candy from halloween, I will be losing!

Hey Ashley and Elizabeth ! Welcome Patty - My doctor told me that I should only need about 3 days to recover from the surgery. He said that I may still be a little sore but nothing that I can't handel at my office job. I am going to take the Thursday, Friday and Monday off just to be on the safe side.

Thank you all for your replies! I'm glad that I am not the only one out there going through the same thing. I think deep down he knows that I am not going anywhere. I guess the fact that I was overweight when we met, got married and had a baby he trying to understand how it's going to be like with a slimmer me. I had a talk with him last night and told him that he didn't have to worry about be going anywhere. I told him of my exact plans and we had a really good talk. I think he is feeling much better about things.

I mean....not feel like everyone is looking at me.

I was telling a friend of mine how I hate shopping with slim people because they want to go into the stores like The Limited or Express and when I walk in with them I feel so out of place. I feel like everyone is wondering what the "fat girl" is doing in that store. I can't wait to go in and out whatever store I want and feel like everyone is looking at me!