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So perfectly said.

You know how I know you haven't been reading this forum for very long? We see it on a daily basis. Posters getting ANGRY after a "Oh, I've been bad" post at others for reminding them that some of their choices aren't going to make them as successful as they would like to be. I see it all the time, especially with newbies. They accuse those that are a little further along of being "perfect" and "judgmental". Like I said, I could care less about your bad choices. I've made them, too, but I will own up to it. I'll support, commiserate, whatever I need to do to make the poster feel they aren't alone in their imperfectness. I am no better than anyone else. I just CHOOSE to do what I need to do to be successful 98.544455555222555% of the time.

That would be asking for justification for your bad choices. We are only human. We make mistakes and bad choices. But at least own up to it.

Yup. And your choices will effect your success. Really, none of my business. But don't ask me to justify your bad choices when you are just a few weeks out from surgery when it can actually do physical damage. It's not "cute" that you chose to drink alcohol a couple weeks out from surgery. I'm not going to pat you on the head and say "There, there" when you won't follow your doctors orders because you are tired of Protein shakes and want to eat solid food before you're cleared to. At least have enough self respect to actually allow yourself to heal before you continue to make the terrible choices that caused you to have the surgery in the first place. After you're all healed up, I could care less about the bad choices you make. I know I'm getting to goal from the choices I'm making.

Never give up! I have felt like giving up so many times, especially after long stalls. At 6 months, I had a 6 week stall for no apparent reason. I tried EVERYTHING. I just had to keep doing what I needed to do and wait it out. Hang in there! It WILL pass. Stay away from the ice cream (although sometimes a little cheat seems to help some stalls) and keep doing what you need to do!

DON'T skip meals and no bread, rice, pasta or potatoes. That should.do the trick.

Try either just protein shakes for a couple days, or just lean protein and green veggies cutting out all carbs and sugar for a few days. Lots of water.

@@lynneanne I totally understand your frustration not seeing the scale cooperating. I can't count how many times it hasn't cooperated with me in 9 months. I am an extremely slow loser, and on top of it I stall a lot. At 6 months, I went through a 6 week stall for no apparent reason. That being said, this is your 3rd post about not losing after surgery. I also believe you have gotten some sound advice from many people in those previous posts. One of which I'm sure is STAY OFF THE DAMN SCALE. It's obviously causing you some emotional turmoil, which isn't helping matters. Fluctuations in weight are normal. Not losing a whole lot immediately after surgery is normal. Between Water retention and the body just needing to adjust, it happens. You are physically not eating enough to gain, so you know it's not that. Just the normal fluctuations. Give your NUT a call and set up an appointment if that will make you feel better. I would suggest just making sure you're meeting your Fluid and Protein requirements, hide the scale for a month and take your measurements. A month from now, you will be pleasantly surprised. And not driving yourself crazy.

It's not cheating. It's just being a normal person. Just don't make being "normal" a habit

It takes a lot to stretch a sleeve. I'm talking eating until you are so full you throw up every day for a couple of years a lot. The "stretchy" part of the stomach is the part that is removed during surgery, leaving the less pliable part of the sleeve. Being able to eat a little more is just the natural progression of the sleeve after several months of healing and reduced swelling. But yes, you are correct. The best way to not over do it with the portions is weighing and measuring. I'm in my 9th month, and I find myself overeating too if I just "eyeball" things, so I have to measure most of the time

I had a couple small pieces of a spinach and artichoke thin crust pizza my daughter made for me and it was DELICIOUS. It's a big deal for me because 99% of the time I don't eat bread of any kind. I also ate a couple of chocolate covered strawberries. YUM. I anticipated going a little overboard yesterday, so I ended up going to the gym that morning and doing a 90 minute work out. This morning I was down a pound. Go figure

I know the OP meant for this thread to be light and tongue and cheek. But I have to say, seeing some people consuming alcohol just weeks out from surgery kind of floors me a little. Not only do you have a line of staples going down the whole entire sleeve that haven't even begun to heal yet, you are already trying to sabotage any weight loss efforts by consuming empty, non nutritious calories at a critical time where proper nutrition is important for healing. Like I've said before, I don't care what people do after your'e all healed up. Drink alcohol, eat sweets to your hearts content. You're only hurting your chances of not reaching your weight loss goals and in danger of the whole surgery being all for not. That's none of my business. What I don't find funny and won't condone are people making light of behaviors that could potentially harm and put you right back in the hospital. For goodness sake, care enough about yourself to at least heal properly before you choose to continue self destructive behaviors that caused you to have surgery in the first place. I suggest you find a video of a sleeve procedure on YouTube and watch it just to see the amount of healing that needs to take place after you see your little sleeve that looks like Frankenstein when they are done. The doctors aren't telling you not to drink for a certain amount of time just for shits and giggles.

That is such a hard situation to be in. I'm assuming your sister knows you had the surgery? If so, you are an obvious testament to how the surgery can literally change her life and turn things around for the better. I don't know if there is much else you and your brother can do besides continue to be a living, breathing example of a way she can prolong and change her life when and if she decides she's ready.

Yup. Time to detox off the sugar and carbs. Protein and veggies and lots of water. Measure and track everything you put into your mouth. That should get you back on track. If you keep yourself full on protein and water, it's hard to make room for junk.

You're kidding, right? PLEASE tell me you're kidding....

Beautiful video! Congrats and thanks for sharing!

Boise You're just a hop, skip and a jump from me.. I saw some of it on the news. So heartbreaking.

I know it's like pulling teeth to get my husband to go to the doctor sometimes. I know a lot of wives feel the same way. There's just something about the whole "doctor" scene men hate. But I digress. My husband decided to have the surgery almost 9 years ago because he was just tired of the toll the extra weight had taken on his body. He initially lost 120lbs, but has successfully kept off 100 ( with a little up and down) for 8 years. If you ask him, he will tell you it's the best thing he's ever done. Well, besides marrying me

@@CanyonBaby Were you at the funeral of the officer shot in Northern Idaho?

The way I feel keeps me motivated. The great people on Bariatric Pal keep me motivated. My husband keeps me motivated. The way I look in clothes keeps me motivated. My good health keeps me motivated. Oh, and my sister. We are pretty much the same size right now. There is NO WAY I'm going to let her be thinner than I am anymore

I just got back from Maui last week, and my sister and I walked a beach trail 4 miles every day! It was SUCH a great feeling to be able to do that and hardly break a sweat! I'm ready to go back....NOW!

Single digit sizes. I'm almost there

@@sharonintx I agree with you to a certain extent. But all that starts AFTER the physical healing is complete. After major surgery, you DO NOT choose to disregard the advice of the professionals. It's flat out dangerous and negligent. Once the healing is complete, then you are free to continue your journey as you see fit. Whether forging ahead on your own, or choosing to do it by the book every step of the way.

I really think you should go. I don't think your surgeon is going to stand up and point you out to the group and say "Hey look everyone! Coleenrenee has only lost a pound this week! What a failure!" And if he did, I would highly recommend finding another surgeon....

@@RaginCajun I do have personal experience with AA, and let me tell you, they don't enable by gently patting the addicts on the head that aren't following the program with a "Now, now it's okay". When it comes to someone engaging in harmful behavior and asking others to justify said harmful behavior at the risk of their own well being, sometimes a little tough love is in order.