Martha Howland-Shafiei

it matters a lot to me.please dont give up---i care adn i am sorry i never intended to hurt u. i will pray for u

p.s. it is because ia m far from perfect and know it that ican take a bite out of crime as it were. i wan t to help u come out of this on all fours,ok?

hold on a second i never said ur a loser. u must really need to talk. what happened that got u so very down? it's never just about the wieght. i am very concerned for u as a matter of fact and indeed am saying aprayer for u. please don tigve up,u ccan go back to the beginning of the diet and start again. your life is getting better,u opened up the can nof worms for all to care adn help u with it.that takes alot of courage. come on now ur having a toughtime, uhit a rough spot. tell me what u want to do...i want to help if i can,really.

Dear T hali: hi there! i am 59...so here we are,deciding what is best.i dont know about u but prayeeer is what is helping me make all my decisions and i refer to the Word for guidance.God is very good to me. i almost died of sepsis after my bypass and i saw the angel of death in my room so u will excuse me plz if i offend u with the psiritual side of my journey.anyway i see what u mean about th esleeve. if u have a sweet tooth try fruit. one peisode of dumping and u will wan t to eat right believe me!i think it is harder for us becuase we are dealing with hormones esp pos tmenopause adn also our thyroids slow down. i am on thyroid and believe me i still need th ealpband,i tis a tool i intend to reserch some more nad t hen some.keep up the research adn iwill pray for u to be led to amking ht e best choices for u. love and peace

yes iagree it could be the band.we must remember that we're post surgical patients.

thanku SandyM...u inspired me so much i decided to do an hour on my treadmill instead of my usual half hour! thankyu

would u like to be buddies? i hope so. p.s. would ulike to be buddies? i hope so.

Der SandyM:hi again!thansk for the encouragement---i did decide after being on here a few hours thaaat it is my journey.excellent advice on sticking with what my dr. says. some people think the band is magic or something ...it requires W ORK! i intend to do just that.love and pea ce

Dear SandyM: thanks alot! have a great day adn a blessed Easter!

how much of a protein shake can i expect to get down in the first week out?

hi i need a buddyhelp.feel so soory for th epeople who are not sticking to hte diet right. worry now "what if it happens to me"? that isnt what i want i am psyched about the usrgery and getting on with things. am nervous tho.i am waiting for insurance approval and hten surgery date. i want to do it NOW! love and peace.

hi i need a buddy/help. iwas so psyched about this surgery but now i a readin g about noncompliancccce issues that greatll y concern me. i really want to do this right.plz get in touch.

how can anyone have room for bread? even veggies? when prooooooooooootein is the call of hte hour?

what do u dip with? there's so much focus on food aorund here it maeks me nervous for a vegamite sandwich!

the minute u feel that uncomfortable u should call the doctor sweetheart...please!

ur gettin gtoo into food for me.

it sounds to me that ur still eating way too much.for a bandista. ihope ur exercising too. i hope my appetitie wil greatly diminish after surgery.

Dear t hali: i had the bypass in 2000 and lost 200 lbs but gained back 100. if i had the choice back then i would have chosen the sleeve, it's safer and i think there would have been less vomiting. also i have to take supplements and get a monthly B-12 shoot. i amwaiting for insurance approval for a lapband. i am getting antsy about it.

congratulations on ur surgery and wt. loss. what have u leaerned that is the most im[rotant thing ht e reest of us hsould know aboot diet and eating? i aaam awaiting approval from insurance for revision surgery after a gastric bypass...lapabnding.thanks

i meant pm bu ti didnt get to th eputer til lnow. so when is ur surgery sheduled for? i am awaiting approval by medicare-medicaid. should know i n a week or two accordin gto the dr's secretary. ihope i can have surgery soon.

hi tonya will get back to u around 12:30 am out the door.later

congratulations,the worst is over! i am in the northeast too, West Haven,CT. would love to chat with u. have a reat day!

hi and congrats ur approved for it. iam in thhhe preop process adn indeed havean upper gi series planned for mondday a.m.i am seeking revision surgery to to a failed byppass. iwll have lapbanding as my pouch has stretched out and i hav e 3 comorbidities. i acant wait to get started i hav ebeen gaining due to meds i am on. ouch.

congratulations,u had ur surgery.6 bs is a start dont forget to exercise.walking is best to start with. i hve a treadmill nd i walk one half hour a da =y at least.i am from CT. USA

i started my journey in 1998 at 415 lbs...had a gastric bypass in 1998 and lost 200 then later,50...gained back 100 plus going up still! am very frustrated as it is due to meds i am on...working with a dr. to chnge said meds adn am working wiith my bariatric surgeon (new, Dr. Rhinehold retired) to lapband. will have upper GI monday and then submit to dietician and psychologist and then wait on insurance approval.whew! am eager to have the s urgery ASAP. anyone else have it this way?thanks