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Same here jtickle. I just wanted people to be aware of this in case their Dr didn't tell them.

Great advise. Maybe I should have copied and pasted just the wording, not the site. I hope it's not violating any rules! It was one that I got from someone and saved and just now looking at (I already have a great Dr) and didn't like that it gave bad info.

I don't understand the "foam". I mean I know what it is but how does it happen?

Ya, being on thyroid med hasn't helped me lose weight either

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We just finished all that (didn't have to do any physical tests). Just waiting for insurance approval now.

It's ok! You were scared off by someone?? I've learned a lesson too- don't go into the rant section. lol PCOS is tricky to diagnose, even with a blood test. Most all of my gyns in the past and PCP said it's not evident but my Reproductive Endocrinologist confirmed it. All of us PCOSers each have different sypmtoms, another reason why it's hard to diagnose. In my case my body makes too much estrogen compared to progesterone (and found out I was one stage away from having cancer after they took my uterus out last November due to Complex Hyperplasia), cysts on ovaries, I don't produce (or not enough anyway) of the hormone that releases the eggs and didn't have menstrual cycles unless I induced them by taking progesterone. It's a whole endocrine system issue, not just with the female parts. It's been totally frustrating to me that since my uterus is no longer there my drs won't even bother checking my hormones anymore Just because it's gone doesn't mean the PCOS is gone. It will always be there. Meds can help reduce the symptoms. Insulin Resistance can also be a part of PCOS. Fortunately I don't have that but have been on the meds to help that (metformin/Glucophage). I quit taking them though because my stomach just can't handle them. Other women have success on it though, ovulate and have normal(ish) cycles. Losing weight with PCOS is doubly hard. We usually carry the weight on our mid section. Also, thyroid issues is common too, as is anxiety, and other stuff. I am on .75 mcg of levothyroxine. I was taking .88 mcg but my hair was falling out more and straw-like. Or maybe that was when I quit taking it for a while because I was 'testing' to see how my levels were. lol ya, I think it was the latter. Oh! and if your hair is falling out too, I found a GREAT shampoo!!!!!! Nexxus Youth Renewal Rejuvenating Shampoo and conditioner. You can buy it at Walmart. It's AMAZING!!!!!!!!! I used to get handfuls of hair every day and clog up the shower drain. Now I only get a few hairs that come out every day. Anyway, probably more than you wanted to know. LOL! If you ever want to chat, just holler!

I can't say if she is a 'bad' psych or not because it's my first time seeing one but it does make me even more hesitant with wanting to continue seeing one for my anxiety and other issues. She called this morning to let us know that her reports are at our surgeon's office now and wishes us luck and wants to hear a great update on us next year. She said that on my written tests it did confirm a "mild" (ha) anxiety issue but it is under treatment so it's fine and she said she saw how flustered I got in our meeting. Well duh, if someone was making you feel like you WILL fail you'd get flustered too. I wanted to tell her that but I didn't. LOL So that part's finally done and over with and I don't have to see her again so THANK GOD. Now, hopefully the surgeon's office will send in all of the paperwork ASAP to insurance for approval. I'm on a deadline! LOL

I told mine that I have a couple of wls boards online, my husband and my best friend who has a sleeve. Haven't told my family yet and only my husband mom so far.

Thanks Love and Pj. :-) Ya, I just felt like she was telling me I'm going to fail, it's inevitable. I was trying to tell her that I won't and won't let it, otherwise what's the point of going through all this. And you're right, I won't know until I get there. I can't guarantee 100% that I won't try the "bad" foods but I can TRY not to. I told her that too. I was going to continue seeing a therapist for my anxiety situations but now I'm not so sure. They'll just F me up in my head even more and that is a recipe for disaster for me. I'll try the workbook she recommended first instead.

k, so here's what I wrote on another board last night. It was more 'fresh' then. lol Mind you, it ended well and I'm glad she noticed my change in demeanor and talk with me about it again but I still don't like that she basically challenged me to prove her wrong in a year when I haven't eaten things I'm not supposed to eat because she thinks we all will/do because she's seen it. I'm not saying that I won't but I HAVE to condition my mind in to thinking that I WILL not give in and I WILL eat healthy. Ready my reason below. Psych visit- done. With not the greatest of visit because of misunderstanding? To me she felt like she was in my face about stuff. She asked the reasons why I eat (anxiety, sadness, alone, happy, blah blah blah) and I don't have any reasons (that I am aware of) except that the food tastes good and/or I'm hungry. So there goes up the red flag. I asked her why do I have to have a 'trigger' when I eat? Maybe I don't? I just like the taste of the food, can't it be as simple as that? She said yes but in more cases than not there is a reason why we eat. So apparently I should have lied with those questions to have made this visit not making it to where I wanted to cry and leave because she wouldn't believe me. She firmly believes I have to have some sort of 'trigger' of emotion(s) for making me eat and making me fat (ok, my word, not hers) She said the next time I go in to reach for something to eat just stop and feel what it is I'm feeling to make me realize why I want that to eat. I still call bullpoo on that. I eat what I want because it tastes good. Simple as that. And because I CAN. Another frustration was about eating junk after the surgery and I told her that I know myself well enough to know that I will want to try one mac and cheese (for instance) but if I allow myself to eat that one mac and cheese and nothing happens physically then I will think to myself that I CAN eat it and then it will eventually get to be eating too much of it and then I'll get fat again so I would rather not even TRY it in the first place. I told her that over 20 yrs ago I did cocaine for 5 months and quit cold turkey. I KNOW myself well enough that if it were in front of me now I cannot guarantee that I won't do it. This is why I don't even want to temp myself with the stuff I'm not supposed to be eating. But she adamant and telling me that I WILL most likely eat that mac and cheese but that I have to have a plan if that food is fine on my body, ie: if craving something then distract myself and do something else. Put a check mark next to that food I'm craving that I wrote down on a piece of paper. After 9 times of distraction marks I can then 'reward' myself with a little bit of that mac and cheese. I have never heard of this suggestion before and I'm not sure how I like it but will think about it. So, I didn't like her messing with my mind, that I'm trying to condition to eating healthy foods, and telling me that it's OK to try the mac and cheese. I don't care if it's 3,9, 15 times after "distractions". MY mind thinks that if I give in to that one bite of non-healthy food and don't get any physical reaction then I'll be able to eat it without limits. That's just how my mind works and that's how I got in this situation in the first place. So she let me out of the room to start the stupid 561 T/F ridiculous questionnaire my husband was finishing up his. I told him how it went, I was shaking and about ready to burst into tears and was upset at the whole thing. I had to tell her about personal things I was hoping wouldn't come up that I need therapy in on itself but was hoping none of that would affect the outcome of her decision to approve and then our "misunderstanding". She could tell I was upset because I was holding my head down, trying not to cry, and answering her questions in short. She got the clue and said she was worried about me and she sat down and we talked about it again, with my husband there. I was worried about my GAD (general anxiety disorder that is under Dr care currently), and some of the answers I gave her about my past and my family history stuff affecting her decision. I explained to her how I felt and we got it cleared up and she looked me in the eyes and told me not to worry about a thing and that we are great candidates for wls. Now she just has to 'score' the bazillian questions, with a few that I did lie on, I think, I don't know, I'm not sure, those questions are just.plain.weird. and your brain starts to fizzle out about halfway through. So now we wait. She said she'll have the papers to our surgeons office by next Monday and then surgeon's office will send on to insurance for approval that will take 3-30 days. The kids and I have a road trip to take in mid July so I'm crossing my fingers all of this can be done quickly so we can go. We did talk about my anxiety and phobia (Dr's and the unknown) because I wanted to know if she could help me with it and she recommended a workbook for me to get. I will get that soon. I told her that I may see her again to help me figure me out with this.... but not until AFTER she sends in the approved reports. We all laughed. LOL! So I think with what happened above is that my thinking is different and comprehension is different and I take things the wrong way and get upset about it which increases my anxiety and anger. I tell you, this is not fun to live with, and I have to get some help with it. I'm just not sure if she's the right person to help me. I might just have to give her a second chance. I also need to prove her wrong next year lol, So now we wait.

Thanks. It was when she and I were finished and I walked out and hubby wanted a kiss that I half dismissed because I was angry and upset and he could tell and he told me it's ok (even though he had no idea why). Then we sat down, I vented to him, and tried to work on our stupid questions, then she came out to get my husband for his turn and I would answer her questions in short and hold my.head down because I was going to cry. she was with him for the hour and then came out to talk to me because she was worried about me because she noticed my mood change.

I didn't like my psych visit. She had me in tears at one point because of a difference in opinion and she was adamant that I HAD to have a reason why I eat other than simply because it tastes good and I suck at portion control. I should have just lied and said that I eat when I'm sad, happy, bored, whatever just to have avoided all that. Plus there was a 561 T/F questionnaire and a few other pages of questions that took two hours to do on top of the one hour with her. It cost my husband and I $580 and that's because our deductible is not meet yet. These drs are trying to get us to pay the full amount instead of 20% after insurance pays so hopefully we'll get a check in the mail. Not sure. Anyway, I'll post her opinion and my opinion in a few when I'm on the computer. She could tell that I was upset and sat down and we talked about it which I was thankful for otherwise I would have been pissed off all night. I just went along with what she said. It ended fine and she told us not to worry at all about it and that we are great candidates for wls and her report will get to it surgeons office my next Monday.

What do you do when you go to a place all day and are not allowed to bring in outside food and drink and they only serve junk? (Ie: amusement parks)

Personally, I thought the rant and rave section was for complaining about our bariatric surgery complications or troubles, not about complaining about other members or what they post, especially behind their backs, names mentioned or not. Apparently I'm wrong. It's a shame this is allowed, even in the rant and rave section. I understand it can get old to hear the same things over and over again. That should just mean that you've "graduated" and should move on, otherwise don't complain and be supportive and helpful. As suggested by a veteran of this site I think I will move on, to a different site where I don't have to worry about someone bitching about what I post.

Then I may have misunderstood our surgeon then if that's the case. He could have just meant for us since our bmi's don't warrant it.

Yes, and hopefully other newbies will stay clear from this forum too, or at least this thread anyway.

Being new here the OP almost makes me not want to ask anything in fear someone is going to talk behind my back ranting about my concern/question. I'm sorry if I post duplicate questions but the way MY mind works is that if I have a question on my mind I need to immediately ask it or I'll forget. If I have a pen and paper I could write it down and then do a search but many times I'm on my phone and looking on the board and don't have access to a pen and paper. To the OP- I'm thinking that you may be burned out with this site and need to move on perhaps?

Could be!

This is what I'm afraid will happen with my husband.

Judy, the sleeve weight loss didn't help get you off your meds?

Ugh, "beefier" should be "before"

Hi Thank you for your replies. Did you have reflux beefier getting the sleeve? This is why my Dr recommends bypass for me. I have had to take 40mg of omaprozol (basically prilosec) every day for many years now. It's inherited. Thanks grandpa and mom. Lol my brother has it too. I was wanting the sleeve but my Dr said that there's no guarantees the GErD will go away so bypass is better.

My husband will be getting a sleeve and I'll get an RNY (because of gerd and hernia) hopefully next month. We are getting surgery clearance from our MD on Wednesday (hopefully!!!) And NUT too, then seeing the psych the following Monday then final approval from insurance- UHC JPMogan Chase. We are going through their bariatric program and have gotten first approval already. Hubby and I want to be on the same/similar food track to make this easier for both of us with our meals and accountability.

I'm so going to flunk. Ugh Many of those questions are hard to answer! Some are both true AND false, depends on the situation. And what if I do push people away or not want to make friends because I've been hurt by them or don't want them to be with me? Close friendships are too much trouble and work I have found. Check! There's another mark against me. Ugh Am I afraid of fire? No. Do I play with fire? Only with my marshmallows. So is the correct answer no, I'm not afraid of fires or yes, I am?? Really? These questions are not conducive to people who think too much, like I do I better take my chill pill before taking that test. Seriously.