beach140

Marriage is hard. I can relate to Nume130. I married someone who is a wonderful husband in many ways but who is not interested in sex. I do not believe he is having sex outside of our marriage. I love sex and miss it. I haven't had sex in about 9 years and I was skinny when he stopped having sex with me. He also led a gay life prior to our marriage, however, was not into sex all that much even as a gay person. I ate food instead of having sex after year ten. I also just came to the realization that I have been taking prescription pills to numb myself. I just stopped cold turkey. I probably need a shrink but am not the kind of person to go to one. I have been working long hours and also think I've been substituing work for having a life. My husband is very presentable, he fixes things, he supports my work, he is a good roommate, and he protects me. A lot of women are jealous of my "perfect" marriage. I recently talked to three old friends about the reality of our marriage. One thinks I should stay with him and forget about sex. One, an old boyfriend, who is a married philanderer, wants to have an affair with me, and the other thinks I should leave him. He fathered a wonderful, well-adjusted child who recently left home for college. I'm going through perimenopause and my moods and hormones are all over the place. I've lost 40 pounds and have 40 more to go. I'm scared I'm going to have an affair if I get any skinnier, but at the same time I want something to change. I did this for my health. I've gotten rid of my diabetes and high blood pressure. I want to take it the rest of the way, but, am afraid of causing big changes in my life. Any advice?

I've also found that the days I eat about 1200 calories are when I lose the next day. If I go below 1000 calories I can't move the scale. If I go above 1500 calories I can't move it either. The days I exercise hard I usually see the scale move the next day. I have trouble just eating 3 meals a day. I usually eat 5 small meals and try to eat some protein with every meal. I've had three pbing episodes since the surgery. I think I have the right fill for right now. It's exciting to try on clothes and have them hang off of me. I've gone done 2-3 sizes. It really hasn't been hard. Best thing I've ever done for myself. I'm almost starting to believe that I can really be thin again. I had almost given up on it after so many diets and so many years. I'm in my 50's and am feeling optimistic for the first time in a long time. Surgery in Mexico by Dr Ortiz on the 25th of May 1st fill 1.6 cc July 6 2nd fill 0.4 cc Aug 15 Total 2 cc in a 4 cc band

I was banded 25 May in Mexico. I have gone back for 2 fills so far - 1.6 cc on the 6th of July and 0.4 cc on the 15th of August. So, I now have 2 cc in a 4 cc band. I'm doing ok, but, feel like I'm eating more just as I need to be eating less. I don't want to lose the momentum. So, decided to join the support group and compare notes. I have had 2 pbing episodes and I have a cough now and then. I have more restriction in the morning or when I'm under stress. I think I could use a little more, but, am probably ok for another 20 pounds. I just need to watch my calories more, I guess. And, of course, exercise more. It's tough. I have to remember my motivations. What motivates you? The band helps a lot, but I still have to try.