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Amazing. You are an inspiration.

My weight loss stopped several months ago. I started to gain this month. I've recently gone back to 1200 calories a day, which is what I was eating while losing. It's starting to come off again. Not easy. I was used to bigger and higher carb meals. But I want to get to goal, so it is what it is.

As my confidence goes up, I am more able to recognize and remove toxic people from my life. Nobody needs that kind of friend.

I was wrong. Have to work through lunch today. That's okay. I'll get my stairs in. I've been getting hungry earlier at work. I'm considering adding a snack to my day. For today I brought my lunch, and dinner at home will be quite late. So maybe a snack in the afternoon. Could be a protein shake.

I gave up wine recently because I wasn't losing weight. I gave up TV eating pre op when the psychologist refused to clear me for surgery until I broke that habit. If you need a snack, have one at the table before TV and like it says above, get something to do with your hands while watching tv. I've started grown up coloring books. Sounds weird, but there are some beautiful designs, and it's calming and keeps my hands busy. Good luck.

Welcome, @@Glammaw! Good job, @@bacon! I had a good, good day. Lawyer went well. Therapy went well. food is spot on. 1200 calories yesterday and today. Tomorrow I will be able to once again walk on my lunch hour. I've missed it. Got my stairs in both days. It feels so, so good to be back in control with the food.

Well yeah, you have a smudge there on your thigh. Other than that, you're frickin BEAUTIFUL and no, not overweight. But seriously, take a shower, girl. ????

My recent gain is slowly coming off. I peed like a racehorse all night. I have the lawyer appointment today at noon. Nervous. Breakfast is seafood salad. (Aren't we WLS patients weirdos?) lunch is three cheese sticks instead of two since I was so hungry after lunch yesterday. Plus some bell peppers. dinner chicken salad, tomatoes and cucumbers. Same as yesterday. Boring is safe. I have a therapy appointment after work. Gonna be quite a session tonight.

You'll have steak again. And the best part is, your next ribeye will provide three meals' worth of portions, taste delicious, and satisfy you on so much less. I'm not kidding!

@@s_suther, praying for your granny. I had a good day. I was hungry as heck all afternoon but rode it out until dinner. I ate v e r y slowly and by doing that, my one cup of chicken salad and some cucumbers and tomatoes with a little ranch dressing was just enough for dinner. I'm feeling optimistic again. Off to an OA meeting now. Tomorrow at lunchtime I have a lawyer meeting. I'll bring my lunch and eat before I go.

Hugs to you. This is abuse. I left my narcissist 9 months ago and filed for divorce. I tried the marriage counseling route with him. He made a mockery of it and the therapist dropped us because he was so uncooperative and belligerent. You're worth more than this. I wish you luck but it didn't get better for me, only worse. Leaving him was the smartest thing I've ever done.

Yep

I wasn't going to post here, just read along, but this thread has been on my mind. I kept thinking, how is it different from something like breast implants? I would feel no need to tell somebody I'd had breast implants, or corrective dentistry, etc., so why would I feel compelled (and I think I probably would feel it) to bring up my WLS? I think the difference is that WLS is such a turning point in our emotional lives. At least mine. Before and after. I didn't become my real self until I did it. Until I lost the weight. I was newly thin when I met my husband decades ago. I ended up telling him about my former obesity on our second or third date. I even showed him pictures. He was newly thin himself and had lost about sixty pounds on Weight Watchers right before I met him. I somehow felt like I needed to say all that in order to know if he would truly accept me. "Love me, love my former obese self" (?) Having said that, and having lived a lot of years since then, would I make that same choice with someone new? I don't know. I don't think so. Not that fast, anyway. My motives back then were to be accepted. I'm trying not to base my self worth on what others choose to accept about me. But a romantic relationship? I don't know. Good topic.

I eat all kinds of food. Probably more veggies than I did pre op. Gas every day. Not horrible or anything, but the stomach rumbling is definitely loud.

I'm from the suburbs of Chicago. Age 54 and becoming more fabulous every day. I work in IT. My official title is programmer/analyst, but most of my hours are spent juggling emergencies or holding users' hands. It's cool. It's good to be needed. I'm reclaiming my life one day at a time. I was married for 23 years to someone to whom I refer here as NSETBEx. "Not Soon Enough to be Ex." I filed for divorce and left him 9 months ago, when his emotional and financial abuse went into overdrive. My college aged daughters and my dog came with me. We're presently living somewhat awkwardly with my mom while the divorce, which he is contesting, creeps painfully forward. I've gone No Contact. Anyone who has had a narcissist in her/his life will know what that means. Day by day I find new ways to affirm my mind, body and soul. It's not easy, but I'm not going back to the old way I used to live, which was stuck in self-blame and fear. Today I act as if I am fearless. Most days I believe it. I believe in karma and live life accordingly. My girls are my world. I'm working on making me my world. I attend CoDA, OA, and individual counseling (related to the divorce). I'm extremely teachable and thrive on the stories and experiences of others. NSETBEx referred to that as "brainwashing". He can suck it. I'm happy to be in this group, and I like to keep it real. Life's too short for bu//$#!+. PleezedTaMeetcha!

I always keep protein powder single serving packs in my desk at work and the cupboard at home. All I need is a bottle of water and I've got a shake in a pinch.

So true. Back on track now always means my next meal. Not tomorrow or Monday. Love these tips.

And don't forget Aqua Zumba! I can't do land based Zumba due to my bad knees. But Aqua Zumba is a blast.

I use a similar trick to see if I can recognize satiety. After I eat a reasonable amount, I interrupt my meal. I actually get up and go to the bathroom. Usually when I come back, that raging hunger is dimmed and often gone entirely. It really works!

Smart ass is easier to spell. ????

I straightened out my food and gave up alcohol this weekend. Weighed myself today and up another pound and a half. After the disbelief passed, I realized that: 1: I forgot to take my blood pressure pill yesterday. It has a pretty strong diuretic in it. 2: I ate kalamata olives, pickles and giardiniera with my lunch and leftovers for dinner yesterday. Not a lot, but HELLO SODIUM? When I couldn't get my rings off or on without soaping them up yesterday and today, it should have triggered this realization. Anyway, I'm staying the course and staying low sodium for a few days as well. I really want to feel strong and confident next week when I have to face the NSETBEx in court for the first time since I left him last year. I've been no contact for nine months and I'm nervous.

@bacon. The only beat down you're going to get here is for wanting a beat down. You need a lift up. So here it is. You, my friend, are the man who inspired me to start walking. I now routinely walk over two miles on my lunch hour, several days a week. If I can get my rear out of my chair and start loving walking, you can be lifted out of your slump. Stay connected here. We need you. On your good days and your bad days.