JustWatchMe

Great job!

I understand your frustration. My mom did the same thing up until right before my WLS. It's concern mixed with love mixed with a feeling of helplessness that they can't help you themselves. It's also scary as hell for them. Know that after my WLS , my mom is now very happy I did this and it took a few things for her to come around. One was that I didn't die on the table. That was a biggie. Second was my quick recovery. Third was my dramatic and rapid weight loss and fourth was how damned good I felt as the weight has come off. I got my life back. I cut her some slack and didn't let her worried cautionary talk deter me. Good luck and remind her that you need her full support because it will be rough for you in the first few post op weeks. Sounds like she's a good friend if she took the time to learn about your surgery. Good luck!

Great! Hope it's a breeze from here !

@bluegudren. Thank you for your honesty. It's hard to make good food choices and I find myself struggling with eating too much too fast and the wrong types of food. You'd think that 80 pounds in I would be easily making correct choices all the time but no. I hope you get this nipped in the bud. I don't want band problems. I needed to read your post today. Stay strong.

I will say that when a spouse doesn't support us, it is about their issues and goes deeper than WLS. My husband never supported me in any weight loss endeavors. OA , diets, weight watchers, WLS. Silence or open ridicule or snide comments. I don't want to bring the thread down but some reading this here may see themselves in my reply. I've left him. Not because of this issue, but because of huge problems in our 23 year marriage and relationships with our children as well. That said, I have a rock solid supporter in my younger daughter. She takes no prisoners. She suffers no fools. And she wants me to live my best life as healthily as I can. She can be kind of a nag but she also watches her weight and will go walking with me at the drop of a hat. I miss her when she is away at college. I want to make her proud of her old mama and forgive me for the years I spent drugged out on food in front of the tv. I'm happy for the healthy marriages in this post. I know they are real. Mine was not one of them, but we move on.

Hi Mrs.Fun!

215 08/22/2014

Had a hellish summer that is ending much better than it began. My divorce is in progress and I'm putting one foot in front of the other. Tomorrow my girls return to college and although we've been cramped where we're currently living, I will miss them terribly. Scared of what the next few months will bring. I won't eat over this. I won't! I'm telling everyone here, right now, that I'm focusing on taking good care of myself and will continue to make progress in my weight loss while I face these scary challenges. That is all. I don't know if that's a rant or a rave but I needed to say it!

I just got back from my road trip taking my girls back to school, and read these replies. Thank you all so much for your raw honesty and encouragement. I am blessed with a best friend who made the trip with me and we had a good talk in the car about life in general. I know the future is bright. A little icing on the cake today was checking my FitBit tonight, and with moving two girls into two college apartments, I climbed 36 floors and walked over 9000 steps today. And didn't get out of breath once. Truly a miracle.

Thanks! Good luck to you too. I'm nervous whenever my lawyer emails me something, but more nervous when there's been no news for a week. Ugh!

I'll watch the video later, but feeling light on my feet and healthy does it for me.

I only told five people for the first few months. Later I told a few more. But I don't tell the pounds lost to acquaintances. I say I've lost "a lot" and I'm about halfway to goal. If they press me for a number, I laugh and say "you KNOW I'm not telling you that number, right?" And that generally does it. People have been supportive, but some things are private.

Now that's a happy post. Yay!

My boobs deflated. Before anything else did. But the good part is I can cross my arms now. I also fit in a movie seat without spilling over. Did I mention I can cross my arms now? I find myself doing it all throughout the day. I'm easily amused.

I'm sorry it wasn't successful. Are you considering a different surgical solution?

You look beautiful. If time doesn't help you see it, get a therapist to help. You deserve to enjoy your new life.

Yep me too

I used to think losing my appetite would be a blessing. But it's a part of the pleasure of life. I lost my appetite for much of the month of July from stress. I was too busy to care then, but I wouldn't want to live without a desire for food. A dimmed desire is great. Absence of desire not so much.

08/18/2014 219.6

I was very worried pre op as you are. 80+ pounds down the comments are coming daily. At work I've told a few people about my band but mostly I just say I've changed my whole life and took my doctor's advice to lose the weight so I wouldn't die young. People generally accept that. Of course they ask how. I say I cut carbs and eat way less and walk walk walk. All true. If they ask how much I've lost I say a lot. If they ask again I say you KNOW I'm not going to give you a number, right? And laugh. I gently tell them for someone as big as me it's a big number before anybody notices. Usually they then realize how personal they were in asking. I try to make them feel ok for asking while not giving up my personal info if I'm uncomfortable. I also tell them I'm only halfway to goal and that usually elicits a "no way", to which I reply "way, but I'll get there this time". Your attitude may change as you drop weight. Mine did. I'm glad I feel strong and healthy and look better. I've also had to replace a lot of clothes. Goodwill is my friend now. I may have changed my view on this because I just filed for divorce, and the positive reinforcement from acquaintances is a boost to my fragile self esteem right now. No matter. I'm in charge of this decision and for today I choose to share certain details with some people and not others. Early on it pissed me off that others only recognized me after I dropped weight. Well I've since come to believe that being angry over that is useless. I'll choose to accept the compliments with grace and under my terms and only share what I choose to share. One overweight coworker asked me sincerely how I did it and I shared my band story. She's thinking about starting her own band process now. So there's pros and cons in sharing the real details. Maybe, just maybe, my experience can actually save another life. Wow, huh? Do what YOU want. But then let it go. You cannot control the comments you receive. So take it a day at a time. And good luck to you! This forum is saving my sanity daily.

I just saw The Hundred Foot Journey. Now I want to take a cooking class.

I've noticed that as my food intake went down, so did my tolerance for bull$# +. I am edgy and p!$$3d off at people more than before. It's a direct correlation to how I used to numb my feelings and reactions with food. Instead of turning my anger toward myself by overeating myself into a food coma every day, I feel the sucky feelings and have to deal with them. Thankfully my impulse control is pretty good and I don't go off on coworkers or others outside my immediate family. But those closest to me sometimes get it. I keep reminding myself that I changed, they didn't, and I need to ease up. Also going through a divorce, and talk about repressed anger there, whoa. So I feel ya. Hang in there. Take a breath and remind yourself that just because we feel it we don't have to say it. And don't eat it. Just don't eat it. .

I had a similar situation occur last week. I went to a community veterans memorial where the traveling Vietnam wall was here in Illinois. A dozen or so towns were memorializing their Vietnam veterans from these communities. Four different clergy were there. Of course, prayer is to be expected, but two of the clergy spoke for "all of us" when they ended their prayer giving glory to the "One we all turn to in our time of need, Jesus Christ." Really? All? There was a crowd of hundreds there, in memory of 64 soldiers from a dozen towns. All? I'm Catholic so I expect to hear that at mass each week. But not in a crowd of hundreds where the honored dead are of unknown faith. I found it distracting, and offensive. Resume the beatings. .

I don't hear my band exactly. My stomach is noisy a lot. Maybe it's trapped gas? I'm five months out. I'm listening to my stomach right now. Lol

Thanks, I didn't see it. I'll look again.